Obviously, there is no agreement here as to who has the right to "out" whom. In my journey I have resolved all this by never outing myself to anyone. Surely, my partners, male and female, had no need for an announcement. My family would not have understood as I had both male and female "friends" at different times. My family were all great: they treated my "friends" politely and did not ever probe.
I firmly believe that part of the beauty and the mystery of human sexuality and relationships depends on treating it tenderly and carefully. To me that means that what happens sexually between two consenting adults will remain private and personal. Others, and that includes the general public and one's family and former and future partners really have no need to know. And, I like the aura of mystery that still surrounds my past for my wife and hers for me. I do have my thoughts with regard to the sex lives of my friends, both in the present and the past, but my journey did not include great concern for STDs and back then folks did not automatically conclude that two men sharing living quarters were sexual partners.
The internet has been a great boon for persons such as myself. I now feel free to share things which for many years I have kept strictly to myself. The three males and three females who have been my partners in sex were persons I loved before we ever had sex and whom I love still. If along the way others have figured out that these persons were much more than just friends to me, that is alright with me too.
A loving relationship means there are two persons who seek each other's good always. Outsiders do notice two persons in love.