Used to be more popular now not so much

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Hello,
I’ve been trying to figure out a way to word this question. So I’ll give a little back story first. When I was younger, 18-early twenties ish, I would say I enjoyed a lot of attention from women. I would regularly be referred to by co-workers or acquaintances as “the good looking one.” I would always get pursued and often had multiple women interested in getting my attention. I’m just trying to paint a picture of what was going on for me at that time. For that matter it was everyone who would compliment me male and female, but for this question I’m more interested in the female perspective.

As the years went on I started getting less and less attention. I stopped hearing all the compliments I would hear before, women didn’t pursue me like they did. I’m in my late twenties now and I feel like compared to myself a few years ago I don’t get much attention at all. I am almost the same as I was in my early twenties maybe about 10 pounds heavier, but still not overweight.

So my question is why would this be the case? Is it just me or is this just something that happens with age?
 

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When I was younger looks mattered a little more to me than they do now.

I'm much more likely to compliment someone on having a sense of humor or their intelligence than how they look.

That's not to say I never compliment good looks, but I don't notice that nearly as much as I used to.
 

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What Ms. TnJ said. I am not prone to giving physical compliments to folks.

Could be the culture shift over the last few years. People are less inclined to comment on a person's appearance cuz there is more awareness of other peoples' comfort levels and boundaries. This is especially true in the work environment.
 

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I second the nomination of Ms. TnJ to be spokesperson for this thread.

Now I'm much older than you, but 10 years ago I used to get hit on by college guys. I used to think there must be a scavenger hunt to bag a MILF, who knows. I don't get nearly the stares that I used to, and I've resigned myself to that fact. I've also comforted myself with that as well.

It's like this: the young ladies are looking for young. The older women are looking for mature. You may have just crossed categories and need to understand how that works now.
 

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I second all of the above.

Superficial stuff seems to matter more when you’re young; as you mature so does your taste and your desires. It doesn’t mean you’re not good looking anymore, but it’s just not going to be the first thing to be complimented.