Using A Desensitizing Cream Or Ointtmentment Up Your Ass.

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Very bad idea. If your ass is hurting, you're doing something wrong and the pain is your signal to stop doing whatever that is and change your technique. Pain is information, don't ignore or numb it.
 

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why would i do that it ruins that fun. My advice, for the longest time i was terrified of a big cock. 6 inches tore me up lol, I could not relax but i loved the feeling of being used, I meet a TS with a THICK cock 7 or so inches not huge if I had to guess, but THICK...

I saw that monster and literally told her to wait one min and pounded half a bottle of wine lol. I tried to ride her but it would not slip in period, I was like shit. So she bent me over the bed and said this may hurt a bit but I will go easy.

She worked in the tip, then next thing i knew she was bitting my ear telling me she is going to fuck me hard now. She used my ass for hours and the first 10 min I was just screaming in the pillow. The next day, my ass hurt and I even thought to myself I may not have this in me lol.

She text me back a few days later wanting to fuck again and I said ok. That next time my ass opened right up and it was amazing.

So basically you just have to get your ass torn up a few times lol
 

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I use the pjur spray and tried the backdoor lube.

The spray is amazing as it takes the edge off insertion. I am very sensitive to pain down there and a finger can be uncomfortable when it goes deep with little lube. The spray feels like a strong mint and relaxes me for insertion.

I have just brought lumunu relaxing lube, which has no numbing agents: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Deluxe-Emollient-Lumunu-einführsam-relaxed/dp/B00XPMOW8Q
 

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Only tried it once. Wanted a big tub of lube and the only big tubs I could find were fisting lubes. I dont do fisting, but thought if it's good enough for those guys then it will be good enough for me to take dick. I didn't realise at the time that it actually has a numbing agent in it.

Anyway, tried it with my usual dildo and instantly had a bad experience. Burning, stinging, swelling internally. Not a happy day.

So, be careful.....

(For those who want to know, it was Eros UltraX fisting gel... Stay away from it.....)
 

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Have never used a desensitizing product - why would I want to diminish the amazing feeling from good anal sex?
However though that being stated, four years ago my husband and I were in Paris on vacation and we were walking down a quite street and came up on a sex shop. We walked in and started looking around and my husband bought some 'lube'. Of course the label was in french but it was lube. So fast forward a few hours when were back in the hotel room, he lathers his dick up with the new lube and then we start to fuck. After about 5 minutes I start to feel something burning. With all of his thrusting my ass was starting to get hot. I told him he needed to stop and that there is something in the lube that's burning. I got out of bed and jumped in the shower trying to find some relief. It turned out that he had bought cinnamon oil flavored lube that when heated up via thrusting got warmer and warmer. The next day it felt like someone had tried to start a fire in my ass. OUCH!
 

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Pain means something is wrong and you need to stop and re-assess. You need more foreplay or you need to start with something smaller or you need to relax etc. Don’t desensitize.

I’m made very uneasy by these guys glorifying the pain of being entered without proper preparation. Pain means damage is occurring and to eroticize that seems kind of pathological to me. Sex should be a pleasurable act, not something you have to grin and bear.
 
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The only thing I put up my ass are frozen balls of Crisco that we used to call bullets. They slowly melt and go deep for any activity that you are into.
Coconut oil also works. I used to use a mix of coconut oil and Shea butter.
 
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why would i do that it ruins that fun. My advice, for the longest time i was terrified of a big cock. 6 inches tore me up lol, I could not relax but i loved the feeling of being used, I meet a TS with a THICK cock 7 or so inches not huge if I had to guess, but THICK...

I saw that monster and literally told her to wait one min and pounded half a bottle of wine lol. I tried to ride her but it would not slip in period, I was like shit. So she bent me over the bed and said this may hurt a bit but I will go easy.

She worked in the tip, then next thing i knew she was bitting my ear telling me she is going to fuck me hard now. She used my ass for hours and the first 10 min I was just screaming in the pillow. The next day, my ass hurt and I even thought to myself I may not have this in me lol.

She text me back a few days later wanting to fuck again and I said ok. That next time my ass opened right up and it was amazing.

So basically you just have to get your ass torn up a few times lol
Actually no you don’t. Need to get your ass torn up. You need a top that is skilled enough to help you open up for his dick. Or you need to practice with some toys and train your hole to be able to take a cock. I understand that you seem to have fond memories about being “broken in” like that, but you didn’t have to go through that. There was another way. My first time was completely pain free because I was with a caring guy willing to take his time and help me along.
 
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The most common reason for unbearable pain during anal sex is not spending enough time with foreplay to transition your hole to take a pounding.

I partly blame the tops who expect they can just jam their cock in like they are fucking a vagina. A good top knows better.

There is no reason for desensitization creams. If anything it will increase risk of tearing.
 

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Have never used a desensitizing product - why would I want to diminish the amazing feeling from good anal sex?
However though that being stated, four years ago my husband and I were in Paris on vacation and we were walking down a quite street and came up on a sex shop. We walked in and started looking around and my husband bought some 'lube'. Of course the label was in french but it was lube. So fast forward a few hours when were back in the hotel room, he lathers his dick up with the new lube and then we start to fuck. After about 5 minutes I start to feel something burning. With all of his thrusting my ass was starting to get hot. I told him he needed to stop and that there is something in the lube that's burning. I got out of bed and jumped in the shower trying to find some relief. It turned out that he had bought cinnamon oil flavored lube that when heated up via thrusting got warmer and warmer. The next day it felt like someone had tried to start a fire in my ass. OUCH!

Hilarious story!!! Happened to us as well but it was at home. I grabbed a “heated” massage lotion instead of lube! Holy cheese balls that shit got hot!!! (For both of us) That memory send both of us into uncontrollable giggles.
Was recently in Paris - Hotel Regina is my new go to. Perfect location.
 
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Never used it for fuking or huge toys because I can take those easy. But, when I know I am going to be getting some heavy fisting use, like long sessions and /or punch fisting, I use so topical anesthetic cream to make it even easier. I last even longer than normal that way and can enjoy the pleasure stimulation. And no, I don't have discomfort afterwards when it wears off.
 

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Do any of you guys use a desensitizing cream or ointment up your ass when getting fucked?
That sure would remove any of the pleasure of getting fucked, it's the feeling of his tool going in that counts, you like to know it's in and doing its job.
Various products I am told give the opposite effect to make the asshole more receptive to feeling.
Butter wasn't one of them!