Using Words To Wound

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i am totally immature. and snarky *is a point of pride*. insults? i prefer reality check distributor.

my best qualities? i know how to the use the intorwebz. i know heaps of trivia about zombehs, SPN and foreign cinema.

**********women think i am frickin' adorable. **************i don't hemorrhage insecurities on the intorwebz with misogynistic fantasies.

:wavey: me, me, me----i think mickeylee is adorable!
 

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FYI saying relationshit makes you sound like a douche. A wounded douche.

She was attacking your obviously big ego and it apparently worked.

Cosmo, I'm not trying to troll here, but what srdude said has a lot of merit. You use the term "relationshit" and talk about the plethora of options you have available to you should you decide to end it. It doesn't sound like you're too invested in the relationship, which is further supported by you already having one foot out the front door. It's been my experience that people in happy, healthy relationships don't have options outside of their relationship, because their partner is the ONLY option! I'm sure she's noticed that you're not completely committed. Maybe her words are a result of the resentment building in her, or a reaction to words you've said to her or others?
 

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First: Cosmognosis. If you came here for support, please...do not feed the trolls. You give people the bullet to shoot you with every time you respond to one.

Second: If you are who you say you are and you are sincere, your inquiry was adequately responded to on the first page, by one of said trolls.

You stated that you are in a rough/rocky patch in your relationship. This girl is obviously TRYING to get under your skin. She attacked your manhood. Women ALWAYS go for the manhood when they want to get your goat.

It's possible that she is feeling "some kind of way" about something and you have yet to assess it. My prognosis is this: should you wish to continue the relationship, sit down and talk (not in a spiteful tone) about what is wrong and how you can work together to make the relationship work; if you do not wish to continue the relationship, let her go...it will be the greatest thing you do for the both of you.

Third: Seriously. When people throw negative at you, you only continue the cycle by responding in any way at all. Just ignore it and them. In life you are given the choice to do many things. You also teach people how to treat you. Go back through this thread and watch how you're teaching these people to treat you. Then move forward.
 

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First: Cosmognosis. If you came here for support, please...do not feed the trolls. You give people the bullet to shoot you with every time you respond to one.

Second: If you are who you say you are and you are sincere, your inquiry was adequately responded to on the first page, by one of said trolls.

You stated that you are in a rough/rocky patch in your relationship. This girl is obviously TRYING to get under your skin. She attacked your manhood. Women ALWAYS go for the manhood when they want to get your goat.

It's possible that she is feeling "some kind of way" about something and you have yet to assess it. My prognosis is this: should you wish to continue the relationship, sit down and talk (not in a spiteful tone) about what is wrong and how you can work together to make the relationship work; if you do not wish to continue the relationship, let her go...it will be the greatest thing you do for the both of you.

Third: Seriously. When people throw negative at you, you only continue the cycle by responding in any way at all. Just ignore it and them. In life you are given the choice to do many things. You also teach people how to treat you. Go back through this thread and watch how you're teaching these people to treat you. Then move forward.

These are the wisest words I have seen offered so far. Your insight and supportive comments are welcomed and well received. I appreciate your candor and intelligence. Your perspective is one of maturity and I will heed your advice to the best of my ability. Thank you very much.
 

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Here is the thread in which you apparently submitted a verification picture.

But clicking on the link for the picture yields only a blank white page:
http://www.lpsg.org/gallery-redirect.php?ppid=196477

Clearly, there is no verification pic anywhere in your profile at this time.

So, it's not really much help to make reference to an event for which there is no extant evidence.

Is it?

This thread is not and was never meant to be about the validity of my profile photo.
 

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OK, so am I reading you right? She hasn't been honest up to this point, but somehow I should take that as "great feedback"? View attachment 191899

Not necessarily honest, but not clear -- you are the one that said she was shy and demure, which lead me to think she might have a hard time telling you anything....like I said, not much information to go on...


At what point did I suggest that she was "lucky to have [me]"? You said, "I have a plethora of options available to me if I should decide to end it." so, I took that to me, she should be happy to have you. Again, hard to give advice and really, you don't sound like you want advice, but need to vent. Which is cool, so no worries

Does this look "inadequate"?
Big freaking yawn!!! If nothing else, get this: SIZE DOES NOT MATTER! I had screaming, wet FAKE orgasms for a HUGE guy. Bigger than you, by the way, but get this, he was so full of himself and his size/ability he never stopped to hear me when I asked for more, or something different because he KNEW what he was doing. So, I liked him, liked him a lot, and faked to make him feel good. Yep! So...no, I'm not saying she has, nor am I saying you are bad in bed, what I was trying to say, is simply listen to her words, without adding meaning that's not there. Just trying, since you asked, to help out.
 

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Talk to her about it. Preferably when you are both in good moods. Bringing it up when one or both of you are upset will likely make the situation worse and result in more insults.

Secondly, showing us a picture of a penis and asking if it looks inadequate makes you come off like a d-bag. Every woman knows that just because a penis is large doesn't mean it will feel good and make her happy.
 

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Also...you should listen to them women...since...they are women. LOL

But more importantly, size matters, but it doesn't. Women have to be turned on emotionally for sex to be great for them. It may physically feel good, but their body isn't orgasming so much if they aren't into it emotionally.

Also...if you don't mind me asking. When is your birthday and her birthday...or if you feel that's too much info...give me your zodiac signs.
 

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I had screaming, wet FAKE orgasms for a HUGE guy. Bigger than you, by the way, but get this, he was so full of himself and his size/ability he never stopped to hear me when I asked for more, or something different because he KNEW what he was doing. So, I liked him, liked him a lot, and faked to make him feel good.

A woman should never fake orgasms for any reason. You're not doing anyone any favors. I'm not full of myself. I know what the physical signs are, the ones that can not be faked because they are tied to the automatic physical response that occurs during orgasm. Choose better men and you won't have to fake it.
 

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Also...you should listen to them women...since...they are women. LOL

But more importantly, size matters, but it doesn't. Women have to be turned on emotionally for sex to be great for them. It may physically feel good, but their body isn't orgasming so much if they aren't into it emotionally.

Also...if you don't mind me asking. When is your birthday and her birthday...or if you feel that's too much info...give me your zodiac signs.

Duly noted. In spite of what was implied by my posting that pic (probably a provocative and, upon reflection, unwise decision on my part), I didn't mean to put the focus on my size as the exclusive factor in the equation.

As far as the advice offered by women, I prefer to deal with each individual, rather than give credit to all women as having worthy opinions. Some people, as evidenced by the some of the more offensive responses to this thread, are all too willing to attack a man's ego in order to make themselves feel better.

Your opinion is well received by me.
 

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A woman should never fake orgasms for any reason. You're not doing anyone any favors. I'm not full of myself. I know what the physical signs are, the ones that can not be faked because they are tied to the automatic physical response that occurs during orgasm. Choose better men and you won't have to fake it.

This can be faked too, btw. By both men and women.

Strange how you are supposedly a master of reading her physiological sexual responses, yet are mystified by her emotional reactions. I smell fish...
 

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Duly noted. In spite of what was implied by my posting that pic (probably a provocative and, upon reflection, unwise decision on my part), I didn't mean to put the focus on my size as the exclusive factor in the equation.

As far as the advice offered by women, I prefer to deal with each individual, rather than give credit to all women as having worthy opinions. Some people, as evidenced by the some of the more offensive responses to this thread, are all too willing to attack a man's ego in order to make themselves feel better.

Your opinion is well received by me.

Sometimes, a man's ego can be the cause of the problem he may be complaining about. Ego and self-awareness are usually inversely related.
 

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Duly noted. In spite of what was implied by my posting that pic (probably a provocative and, upon reflection, unwise decision on my part), I didn't mean to put the focus on my size as the exclusive factor in the equation.

As far as the advice offered by women, I prefer to deal with each individual, rather than give credit to all women as having worthy opinions. Some people, as evidenced by the some of the more offensive responses to this thread, are all too willing to attack a man's ego in order to make themselves feel better.

Your opinion is well received by me.

No one attacked your ego. People were critical of you and your ego interpreted that as an attack. It then sought to find a comfortable rationalization for the criticism and went so far as to launch counter-attacks such as the particularly unsavory one below.

A woman should never fake orgasms for any reason. You're not doing anyone any favors. I'm not full of myself. I know what the physical signs are, the ones that can not be faked because they are tied to the automatic physical response that occurs during orgasm. Choose better men and you won't have to fake it.
 

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A woman should never fake orgasms for any reason. You're not doing anyone any favors. I'm not full of myself. I know what the physical signs are, the ones that can not be faked because they are tied to the automatic physical response that occurs during orgasm. Choose better men and you won't have to fake it.

lol

(at you, not with you).
 

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I appreciate your supportive and constructive comments. That's a great perspective, but here's the thing. Anytime, and I mean anytime that we wade into the sensitive waters of honest and open communication and she doesn't like the direction that it's going, she will deploy the saline weapons, so to speak...which immediately makes me feel like shit and prevents me from pushing further because I don't want to seem like a douche.

I'm real big on communication, and I deal with people for a living, so I am very frustrated about that particular aspect of our relationshit.

Thanks. Reading that, I'm inclined to suspect that perhaps you ought to have a good, hard, long think about whether it's a relationship in which you really want to continue. Any abusive relationship is damaging and unhealthy and, although she may not recognise it as such, her behaviour strikes me as a form of abuse. Perhaps it might be time to ask her if she really wants to continue with the relationship or would benefit from a bit of time apart.