My LTR partner was laid-off 6 months ago and has been drawing unemployment. We live together and I make a decent salary, so there's only been a few minor adjustments-- nothing drastic really. Our last weekend get-away was back in December (a week before he was laid-off). So, back in April I asked him about going away this summer. He said that he wants to go somewhere, but he would not be able to pay for anything due to his job situation. I said that's okay-- no problem. Then I go ahead and make arrangements for 2 mini-vacations in late June and early August. I plan to pay for everything and I'm cool with that. Last night, after I searched a week for an available and affordable vacation house in August, he told me NOT to reserve it, because that's the time he's planning on flying to Texas for a 4-day hotel convention with his church group. HUNH? TEXAS?! FLYING?!! HOTEL?!!! That trip will cost him $1000! (I already checked.) So, we argued about it last night and again this morning. In the last 6 months we have not argued about household expenses at all. And the only time I mentioned vacation prices was when he asked me. Am I wrong here? HONESTLY, I do not mind paying for our vacations since he is unemployed. But is it fair for him to plan a trip AFTER he told me that he couldn't afford to go anywhere? Even worse, he accused me of resenting him for being unemployed and that's the real reason I was angry. Hunh? Where did that come from? What do you think? Do I have a right to be angry, or am I not being fair to him and his situation? I'd appreciate any objective feedback. btw: Our first trip is scheduled for this weekend-- 5 days in Provincetown, Cape Cod. Everything is paid for.