Vaginal vs Anal Sex

[Belly_Dancer]

Several Comments:

I've said it before, and I'll say it again...I love anal sex. I love vaginal sex more, but I wouldn't want to go without anal on a regular basis. No way.

(Of course right now, I am going without sex on a regular basis, unless you count sex with myself, in which case I have a fabulous sex life, and enjoy about 10-15 orgasms a week with an incredibly talented lover)...:tongue:

Anyway. I love wine almost as much as I love sex. So, as an analogy, I'd say that I have some favorite varietals of wine, but the bottom line is that really good wine is...really good wine.

To me, both vaginal and anal sex are really, really good. :wink: Trying to say one is better than the other is, to me, kind of like arguing about whether a good Viognier is better than a good Pinot Noir. It depends what you're having with it, and what kind of mood you're in. :biggrin1:

Of course, with me, there is the aspect that I get off on being naughty. That may be part of the reason that having my ass fucked turns me on tremendously. However, as I've said before, I believe some of us have nerve endings in the anus and/or rectum that directly contribute to orgasm. I tend to come powerfully and quickly with anal stimulation.

****************************************************

Now on to the not quite so interesting parts...

To guys who are concerned about hygiene issues, you have several options. IMO, the best is just to wear a freakin' condom!!! No fuss no muss...

Second option is to have the recipient of anal sex use an anal douche beforehand...I would do this if it helped a partner to feel more comfortable.

Third option is to do both.

But the other helpful thing to know is that the natural state of the rectum is...empty. It is not normal for it to contain any significant amount of feces.

 

[buddy629]

I'm gay but prefer vaginal sex - go figure!

Blasphemy!!!

:wink: :biggrin1:

 

[Mr. Snakey]

Yes dont eat a big bowl of beans and have anal sex. Not a good idea. Then on the other hand you can play Name That tune. Yes this is fun for the whole family. The key is to make sure all the windows are sealed shut. :wink:

 

[buddy629]

No offense. But, so many straight people really know how to "fuck up" anal sex. First of all, I have heard so many stories of men and women trying to attempt anal without lube....WTF??
Lesson #1. Anal is painful/diffucult/almost impossible without lube.
Lesson #2. Always "clean house" before guests arrive....don't fuck a dirty ass. Douche honey, douche!
As a gay man, and versatile guy, anal has been a give and take situation for me. It was also an aquired taste. When I first came out, and became sexually active around 18yrs old, the thought of anal made me limp. This was due to the possibility of shit being involved. After years of experience, I can honestly say, shit happens. BUT, not very often at all. You just have to know what your doing down there and keep it clean. Then, oh boy, its a good time.

Oh, and I prefer anal over vaginal. Probably because there is a man attached to it.

The ONE girl I did fuck, just layed there and moaned...loudly...and came about 6 times, loudly, after almost 2 hours of fucking (obviously I know where the clitoris is). I came once, and was bored most of the time. Her pussy just felt like a VERY wet mess.

 

[Principessa]

I pretty much agree with Holly Blue & buddy629.



buddy629: "No offense. But, so many straight people really know how to "fuck up" anal sex. First of all, I have heard so many stories of men and women trying to attempt anal without lube....WTF??
Lesson #1. Anal is painful/diffucult/almost impossible without lube.
Lesson #2. Always "clean house" before guests arrive....don't fuck a dirty ass. Douche honey, douche!"

Holly Blue: "I've said it before, and I'll say it again...I love anal sex. I love vaginal sex more, but I wouldn't want to go without anal on a regular basis. No way.
... Of course, with me, there is the aspect that I get off on being naughty. That may be part of the reason that having my ass fucked turns me on tremendously. However, as I've said before, I believe some of us have nerve endings in the anus and/or rectum that directly contribute to orgasm. I tend to come powerfully and quickly with anal stimulation."

 

[Nitrofiend]

Yeh I notice that in me too: "anal moods".

Nitrofiend , if possible could do elaborate cool: my vocabulary getting better people!) more about why? one is "more exciting" and the other "physically" feels better?

Well, there's not really an easy answer to this. I happen to find the look and thought of anal sex to be very arousing. I also love the look of a female anus. Vaginas are fine and quirky in their own ways (sometimes I think penises are sexier), but just the thought of doing something so naughty among other reasons (which I cannot put into words) makes me a very avid fan of anal sex. I don't know why exactly. Vaginal sex just seems so...normal. Vaginas seem so cliche to me in a way. There's a certain sense of "been there, done that". I love new experiences. And I hate the stereotypical heterosexual who's only focused on pussy and beer at all costs (no matter what it's on).

Vaginas physically feel better to me than an anus does, but it's a lot less intriguing. There's little thrill involved. Also the fact that anal sex seems like such a forbidden and mysterious act turns me on. And I'm fortunate to have a girl who loves it and initiates it herself, so I'm going to naturally take full advantage. Also, this is a relatively occasional occurence, so I value it as a deviation of the normal routine. Don't get me wrong -- I love vaginal sex, but anal's just so much more explicit and a little more taboo.

I suppose if anal became a much more frequent activity it might lose some of its "oomph" factor but it'd still be sexier to me than vaginal, which is something I can get from any girl. I like a challenge . And no, I don't hate vaginas. I think they're yummy, fun, and entertaining at times (especially vocal ones). I'm just a guy who hates convention, cliche, and stereotype.

Does that answer your question at all (feel free to probe further, more specific questions will probably get better answers)? The main reason is purely mental. I'm a very cerebral lover and if the contents of my mind doesn't arouse my body, no amount of fondling will get me interested (making casual sex virtually impossible).

 

[B_NineInchCock_160IQ]

Also the fact that anal sex seems like such a forbidden and mysterious act turns me on.

I can see this. But... after doing it once or twice, it's not forbidden and mysterious anymore. So I go back to what feels better.

To me it almost seems like a lot of gay or bi guys responding here are taking a response of "I prefer vaginas" to somehow be a disparaging remark against homosexuality or those that enjoy fucking ass. Does it really have to be that? I can totally understand the visual/psychological component of wanting to pound butts if that's what you're into... I try explaining to the many gay men who make passes at me here that I would no sooner let a dude suck me off or want to fuck some guy's ass than I would wish to engage in sexual activity with a woman I was not at all physically attracted to. Been there, done that, not going to happen again.

Anyway, point is, in spite of the "vs" symbol in the title of this thread I don't think there's any need to turn this into a competition. I love vaginas. You like what you like. Enjoy it!




[edit] incidentally.. sorry you had a bad vaginal experience, buddy. Sounds like that had more to do with your partner than the apparatus attached to her though. and personally, I love girls who get really really wet. I know some who are self-conscious about that and I think they're insane.

 

[Nitrofiend]

I can see this. But... after doing it once or twice, it's not forbidden and mysterious anymore. So I go back to what feels better.

To me it almost seems like a lot of gay or bi guys responding here are taking a response of "I prefer vaginas" to somehow be a disparaging remark against homosexuality or those that enjoy fucking ass. Does it really have to be that? I can totally understand the visual/psychological component of wanting to pound butts if that's what you're into... I try explaining to the many gay men who make passes at me here that I would no sooner let a dude suck me off or want to fuck some guy's ass than I would wish to engage in sexual activity with a woman I was not at all physically attracted to. Been there, done that, not going to happen again.

Anyway, point is, in spite of the "vs" symbol in the title of this thread I don't think there's any need to turn this into a competition. I love vaginas. You like what you like. Enjoy it!

Point taken, but I don't count you in my "stereotypical heterosexual" group, NIC. You're a smart and even self-deprecating guy with an open mind and linear logic.

I believe you know the types of people I refer to when I say "stereotypical[ly] heterosexual". And you can't say there aren't some sexually insecure guys who flaunt their love of vaginas, beer, etc. to mask any possibility of them having confusion. You're clearly secure, and others like you who are secure in themselves as straight don't irk me. Live and let live, I say. But people who adopt homophobia as a defense for sexual confusion or insecurity that adamantly preach beer, pussy, and fraternities through a megahorn just happen to irritate me. I used to be that way until I just stopped fronting. Do you understand where I'm coming from in that respect?

 

[B_NineInchCock_160IQ]

Do you understand where I'm coming from in that respect?

Yeah, I do. and I know the type of guy that you are referring to. I have noticed that there are some gay men on the opposite end of the spectrum though... who seem to feel the need to disparage women or vaginas or whatever else they see as "straight," probably for the same reason: personal insecurity. The need to validate their own way of thinking as "right," at the expense of all others'.

 

[Love-it]

If we had a choice we would prefer vaginal sex, my wife can't remember vaginal penetration that didn't hurt and I was not observant enough to recognize when my wife was in pain, at first she tried to hide it but it was really soon after we were together that we began going to doctors to figure out what the problem was, at first it appeared to be urinary and vaginal infections and she went to great lengths without success to get to a place where sex didn't hurt. 31 years later we discovered that that I am above average in girth 6.25", length at 6.5" isn't a problem. My wife has been trying to dilate her vagina for 1 1/2 years but with setbacks she still has't attained the ability to accept me vaginally.

We had tried anal sex 25 years ago with very little success so I was surprised last year when my wife came to bed and offered to try anal sex, unknown to me she had also been dilating her butt. It is still surprising to us that she can accept my girth in her ass but she still can't take me in her vagina. We take it slow, use lots of lube and she uses a vibrator on her clitoris, she has an orgasm about 2/3 of the time. She is happy that she can take me in her ass but she would like to get her vagina in shape!

 

[yeahIknow]

Ive never had or tried anal sex but i do enjoy watching it in porn. I dont think ill try it anytime soon but i just personally love vaginal sex!

 

[D_Kay_Sarah_Sarah]

Vaginal is always going to be more pleasureable as isixe wise it is designed to take a cock and is naturally a better fit. plus with the clit and g-spot it offers more promise of being orgasmic

Anal can be very good but the guy needs to know the limits. You obvioiusly can ram strait into an ass and expect her not to batter an eyelash. The only thing that puts me off anal is the prep work of cleaning, usually it isnt something done on the spur of the moment without some planning

 

[Gisella]

Well, there's not really an easy answer to this. I happen to find the look and thought of anal sex to be very arousing. I also love the look of a female anus. Vaginas are fine and quirky in their own ways (sometimes I think penises are sexier), but just the thought of doing something so naughty among other reasons (which I cannot put into words) makes me a very avid fan of anal sex. I don't know why exactly. Vaginal sex just seems so...normal. Vaginas seem so cliche to me in a way. There's a certain sense of "been there, done that". I love new experiences. And I hate the stereotypical heterosexual who's only focused on pussy and beer at all costs (no matter what it's on).

Vaginas physically feel better to me than an anus does, but it's a lot less intriguing. There's little thrill involved. Also the fact that anal sex seems like such a forbidden and mysterious act turns me on. And I'm fortunate to have a girl who loves it and initiates it herself, so I'm going to naturally take full advantage. Also, this is a relatively occasional occurence, so I value it as a deviation of the normal routine. Don't get me wrong -- I love vaginal sex, but anal's just so much more explicit and a little more taboo.

I suppose if anal became a much more frequent activity it might lose some of its "oomph" factor but it'd still be sexier to me than vaginal, which is something I can get from any girl. I like a challenge . And no, I don't hate vaginas. I think they're yummy, fun, and entertaining at times (especially vocal ones). I'm just a guy who hates convention, cliche, and stereotype.

Does that answer your question at all (feel free to probe further, more specific questions will probably get better answers)? The main reason is purely mental. I'm a very cerebral lover and if the contents of my mind doesn't arouse my body, no amount of fondling will get me interested (making casual sex virtually impossible).

Thanks N.

As I asked you about your experience was because I could not get in my mind the exciting not goes together with the feel phisicaly good too but because of my 'hearing' about anal sex mostly in my culture scenario.

I forgot too for a moment we were at LPSG and among large penises and the difficulties one may have regards anal sex and extra preparations it may involve to give and receive one larger etc and because I had heard many times men talking about anal sex, most in my culture, refering to it as the delicious hole, "tighter hole" etc it seems to me that they enjoy having both in their sex routines.

But than I was thinking about most guys having averages penis. And to a bellow average in girth penis guys must be really good feeling if they dont feel fricctions inside most vaginas they penetrate, then to have anal experience must feel extra good as tightness goes.

Thanks again, we are always learning and etc by asking and etc and its cool you all giving details about your own experiences.:wink:

 

[Matthew]

Nitrofiend, I have a feeling your GF is a very satisfied woman. :smile:

 

[Nitrofiend]

Nitrofiend, I have a feeling your GF is a very satisfied woman. :smile:

Ah yes, I wouldn't have it any other way.

 

[B_capslock]

Vaginal, because I've never found a woman who can respond and really get into anal

Well thats what it was designed for....


While I think it should be non issue world wide as to what a person's sexual orientation is, toy can't argue the convenience of the factory original specs for the sex organs.

What I don't get are the straight guys wanting to do a girl in the ass all the time!!!

 

[Nitrofiend]

Well thats what it was designed for....


While I think it should be non issue world wide as to what a person's sexual orientation is, toy can't argue the convenience of the factory original specs for the sex organs.

What I don't get are the straight guys wanting to do a girl in the ass all the time!!!

You don't have to get it. And some women actually like or even love anal. Some animals have anal intercourse too. They, like us, are simply discovering new uses for their equipment. We can do all sorts of things with ourselves if we wanted to. Point being, you don't have to understand it.

Sex organs were actually originally designed for procreation. So unless you have a kid every time you have sex, I don't really understand this new use you have for your penis besides making babies and urinating. Do you see my point? You don't have to get it, but don't use the argument about design or what we're "supposed" to do with ourselves. By the way, if you recieve oral, I don't get that either. Why do you feel you have to always do a girl in the mouth all the time!? Her teeth are in there!!!! Mouths are for eating (and drinking and chewing and speaking)!

We are given the things we are given, and I say make good use of them in whatever way you see fit.

 

[rawbone8]

You don't have to get it. And some women actually like or even love anal. Some animals have anal intercourse too. They, like us, are simply discovering new uses for their equipment. We can do all sorts of things with ourselves if we wanted to. Point being, you don't have to understand it.

Sex organs were actually originally designed for procreation. So unless you have a kid every time you have sex, I don't really understand this new use you have for your penis besides making babies and urinating. Do you see my point? You don't have to get it, but don't use the argument about design or what we're "supposed" to do with ourselves. By the way, if you recieve oral, I don't get that either. Why do you feel you have to always do a girl in the mouth all the time!? Her teeth are in there!!!! Mouths are for eating (and drinking and chewing and speaking)!


We are given the things we are given, and I say make good use of them in whatever way you see fit.

Amen. :biggrin1:

 

[Ital79]

Girls won't let me put it in. Once the head pops through they usually ask me to take it out. Ive been allowed to climax only twice and after the second time my girlfriend said never again. This was with tons of lube, slow dilation, etc.

Oh well, it feels good but the fact that my girl doesn't like it takes most of the excitement away. . I mean, isn't the point of sex pleasure for both parties (in my opinion at least)?

 

[Mr. Snakey]

I fucked a couple of guys over the years. It was painfull for them and left my cock raw. I have never had anal sex with a woman. I dont feel i am missing out on anything..... So yes give me the pussy........