Very Difficult to get Hard "When I want to"

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  1. howami

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    Viagra gets me hard as a rock, but only when I am laying down, relaxed.

    I was in a position this week where a female coworker (unexpectedly) dared me to show me her cock, she said it looked like I was packing.
    It was pathetic. My cock could not get hard at all.

    I actually took Viagra before going on an outing again, and it STILL COULD NOT GET HARD. On both occasions I was very nervous.

    However, even when I am not nervous, when I stand up.. my dick goes limp.

    In the last year I have gained about 50lbs for various reasons but mainly because I can't fucking maintain an erection with what I would like to think is a formidable tool.

    I'm 31, about 280lbs, 6ft. I take Centrum twice a day.

    I do get fucking huge-ass morning boners.. but who doesn't right?

    HELP.
     
  2. absolutjock

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    Dr. Jock at your service.

    One, the only reason you have access to viagra is b/c phycisians would rather write you the script than argue with you about it (if it wont kill you, why not?), or you bought it online through some sketch pharmacy. My point being - you dont need it. You dont have ED.

    The first sign you dont have ED is morning wood. Your body is not having any issue filling your cock with blood while youre sleeping.... Probably because your mind isnt conscious to fuck it up.

    PED-5 inhibitors (viagra, levitra, cialis) only work to increase the bloodflow to your penis once eroused. They cannot begat an "emmaculate boner." While you may argue, "Dude, I am eroused. I WANT to fuck, my dick just wont cooperate!" The truth is, there is a difference between our emotional instincts, base instincts, and their effect on the male psyche. Your base instinct may be saying, "Yes, yes, yes!" but it sounds like your emotional instinct is saying " No, no, no." It's likely an anxiety issue... Which may also be treatable with a temporary prescription to help you get over the proverbial "hump," hopefully leading to a regained sexual confidence. There is a chance though that your anxiety is rooted in something deeper... Something youre completely unaware of.... In which case, a psychiatric physician specializing in sexuality may best be suited to provide some much needed therapy/treatment.

    This is not an uncommon phenomenon and you are not alone. Please dont OD on viagra thinking that'll fix the issue (in fact, you shouldnt be consuming more than 5mg at a time, if at all). I'm sure there are more people within this community who can and will support you... Feel free to share your struggles... Sometimes it takes just one brave soul to open the floodgates.

    Best of luck to you. You'll make it through this with patience and a stronger cock that'll drive the ladies fucking wild, I promise you.
     
  3. howami

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    Thanks for the reply..
    I never thought about the morning wood and ED connection.. makes sense.. thank you..
    Well.. I did have a rough childhood with an alcoholic father, bipolar/schiz mother.. so I know that shit still lingers on me.. 31 year old..
    I will try the psychiatrist and basically explain this to them.. I'm not nervous all of the time.. just of course before sexual encounters..
    I hope they can help. I mean, even when I was in shape.. aka when I took all of my photos, I still had the same fucking problem. It sucks ass.
    Thanks for your help will let you know how it goes.
     
  4. Charles Finn

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    yes I went up to 240#'s felt like shit and could not get or stay hard I have lost 30 pounds and feel much better back to jacking off 3 times a day I am also trying to eat better as well i want to live to see 50
    lol
    good luck
     
  5. Guy-jin

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    Basically, you need to lose those pounds you've gained. They're affecting you both physically and psychologically, which is leading to your boner problem. Lose the weight for your health and get the bonus of having boners again.
     
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    I'm betting you've also got some issues in the back of your mind about the curve in your cock. Lots of guys fear that for some reason. They think they're defective.

    Bulletin: all cocks bend or curve in some direction. And the way yours is going: COOL. Stands up so totally proud. Embrace it!

    And like the guy up there a couple posts says: get the pounds off - you'll feel better in every single way.
     
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