Very Out-There Question for the Ladies

Discussion in 'Women's Issues' started by meaty, Oct 21, 2008.

  1. meaty

    meaty New Member

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    OK, this is definitely a little out there but WTF I am curious and I need a woman's perspective. This isn't something you can bring up around the water cooler at work.

    Here's the deal. In daily life, I'd have to say I do pretty much average with women. Not bad, just average. But believe it or not, I am really popular in strip clubs - I hook up with dancers all the time. WTF?

    SO I'll just be blunt, this is my question. Do you think it's just because the dancers feel a big dick* when they sit on my lap? (Strip clubs here are pretty much full contact sports.) Or do I have some stripper magic dust in my after shave.

    I know, I should stop worrying about it and get to a strip club LOL. But seriously from a woman's perspective do these woman just want me for my cock? Because I am fine with that.

    Anyhow, thanks in advance for any insights ladies, I know this is a pretty whacky question.

    *about 8" x 7", depending on how you measure
     
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    It's probably because strippers just want sex.
     
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    ya know if you spend some time with a prostitute im sure shed be more than happy to have sex with you.
     
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    dude...it is the money that you move around the club....not your cock....when the money is gone...so are the ladies...bring one home...maybe it is the dick
     
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    Ah right, no, I don't mean they talk to me at the club, that should be obvious, they hang on everyone at the club. I mean I take them home, no money changes hands, not hookers, etc. Hard to believe I know, but yeah.
     
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    I really can't offer a hypothesis without pics. :biggrin1:
     
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    We are women like any other women and we are also looking for a guy to have a relationship with.
    We like sex like most people and we don't usually give two shits if you have a big dick or not. It's not the reason guaranteed.
    Kink,why you made that assumption I would like to know. Why do they want sex from him? Strippers have sex like anyone else, they don't just put out because you paid for a lap dance or bought them a drink. Sure some will do that. I wasn't inclined that way and I never gave a "lap dance".
    I hate it when folks don't know what they are making assumptions about. Or giving an opinion on topics they haven't lived or haven't experienced. Although you are entitled to your opinion certainly I'm just saying..:rant:....:rolleyes:
    cigarbabe:saevil:
     
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  8. got_lost

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    cigarbabe!!!! :lmao:

    I was going to offer something up but I better go get some experience first! :tongue:

    Who wants to teach me how to lapdance? :biggrin1:


    Heck... and if that was the case, that we had to have experience first, to offer up an opinion, this board would be ever so quiet!!! :rofl:

    And I'd be mute! :lmao:


    Sorry... :wink:
     
  9. izzycajun

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    Meaty,
    It sounds to me like your confidence is more at a strip club. Maybe you exude a more open demeanor that you don't feel at the water cooler at work. Attraction is a lot about how you feel, people are drawn to you because of your openness, your eye contact, your body language...we women respond to that. Maybe you are less that way at work or in other situations because in a strip club your big cock gives you the confidence to draw strippers and other attractive women toward you. I also agree, pictures would help us with a more complete answer. Hope this helps.
     
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    In real life maybe you do average with women in daily life (in your words) because you are mingling with women from a similar background to your own and many of those women are looking to move up a notch (mercenary as that sounds).

    Without seeing what you look like it is difficult to say what is happening with these strippers. Even seeing you would not guarantee that we would be able to make a judgment. It could be anything - maybe you look decent and safe (i.e. like you are not an axe murderer!). Maybe you smell good. Could be the dick. It could be that you look clean and like you could take care of them. Or it could just be that they want someone who is not a stripper and who is not employed in any way in the stripping scene - who knows?
     
  11. got_lost

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    Eewwww I don't like the bit about girls 'wanting to move up a notch' there, Runco.
    That's doing the female population a disservice!

    I'd err far more on the fact that he's more confident, relaxed and having a good time at the strip club. Maybe he's just got a 'to-die-for' smile and he smiles more there than anywhere! Maybe he's one of the hotter members of the strip club where as is more of an average-joe at work...

    who knows, but I don't think it's got anything to do with girls climbing ladders and being self-serving in that way!
     
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    In fairness I said many, not all women. And yes, many women do look to improve their lot when they hook up with a man. That is not doing women a disservice. The same is true of men. Why would people bother with relationships or marriage (or even casual sex) if they are not going to be better off/get something out of it?

    I don't know of anyone who knowingly enters into an arrangement knowing they are going to be worse off!

    There is nothing wrong with stripping but not every stripper does that job because they want to. Some do it because they have no choice and given the opportunity, they would jump at the chance to be doing something else. Putting Meaty's luck with these women down to confidence (and everything that stems from that) might be more palatable to you but to imagine that some people out there are not self-serving or to rule it out completely as a possibility is not living in the real world or accepting reality! Some people have a more developed sense of helping themselves and that is fine. There is nothing wrong with being self-serving. It is what makes humans survivors.
     
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    Ooooooooooooooooooooooooooo! Cynic!!

    Ever heard of love?
     
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    Ummm.... for starters, everyone can't be doing that cos only one half of a relationship can 'improve' themselves financially! And if it were true, very few people would ever get together!

    Don't you? That's sad. I know of many.


    It's not 'more palatable' it just makes more sense and is more likely than your' self-serving' theory, in my opinion. Though to be fair you have gone from 'many' women to some.... which is more palatable.

    I'm not saying it's not out there, of course there are those that are gold diggers... I just don't believe it's as prevalent as you seem to make out.

    Perhaps it is in your circle. I don't know. I just suggest that you shouldn't paint all females with the same brush and be a little open minded here and accept there are many who don't.
     
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    once upon a time i went in las vegas.

    went to a strip club and that was the only time in my life since here in italy those kind of places are terribly sad.

    anyway, in that only time, i had the chance to hook up this dancer - FOR FREE - just beacause she sat few minutes on my knees...:biggrin1:

    can't deny was one of the hottes time in my life...:wink:
     
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    Men are creatures of ego, and women (especially strippers) know this. IMO she's playing you to get into your wallet. They are in contact with dicks, small and large all day long. Chances are she hates you and all men for that matter.

    I've gotten very positive reactions from strippers, especially being that I'm only 5'6 and 130 lbs but having 8". Still, I know it's mainly and act and what she really wants is some cash, and what better way to get what you want from a man than to stroke his ego. It works even better than stroking our cocks most of the time :)
     
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    With all due respect, I think it is you who is being a little closed minded. Real life is many things and people hook up for many reasons and not just because people have winning personalities and winning smiles.
    I am not saying that it is. This is what YOU have chosen to take from what I am saying. As to 'my circle' there is no need to get personal. This isn't about me just what I observe.

    It is interesting that you assume that I am saying all women (or the women that I am describing) are gold diggers. This reflects the narrowness of your views on this and explains why you are so offended by what I am saying. These returns that I am describing could be anything - emotional, financial, sexual, security or even companionship (I believe I spelt some of this out but because you assumed I was talking about money and material gain, you missed it). Perhaps Meaty has less luck with women in day to day life because some of them are looking for something he cannot give them, whether that be a relationship, emotional support, good sex, money or something else. And yes I do mention money because for some women, that will be it. Equally, it is possible that he has more luck with strippers because they see in him something that they need. These could be the very same things that other women pass up.
    Of course they are! People settle down with other people because it's usually the best match they can make. Yes, there are some people who don't but the majority of people marry for gain. But here is the rub - I DID NOT SAY ALL THOSE PEOPLE WERE WOMEN! In fact, I pointed out when I went into more detail, that men do these things too. Also, SOMEONE in the relationship is going to be better off in some way (emotionally, sexually, financially, whatever). That is reality and has been reality since we lived in caves.
    Your opinion is your opinion. It makes no no more or less sense than my own. It is just that my opinion offends your sensibilities therefore you are choosing to discount it...
     
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    Thanks for the thoughtful responses and keep them coming. Just a little background, regarding the money thing - I am not the naive type AT ALL, I'm in the game enough to know when someone is interested in me, or my money. (Not that there's anything wrong with a dancer wanting your money, that is the whole point of the place, right? But trust me, not being played. Oh and yeah I also don't have near enough money to stand out in a crowd, especially in Las Vegas LOL ... To be a total cynic, unfortunately I think drugs would probably curry more insincere favor than money, but again, not my bag...

    I am mulling over the responses and think it might be just because I treat the dancers like I treat everyone else, that is, I don't act like a complete moron in a strip club. Put a hot half naked female on a man's lap and they either start talking nonsense that sounds like porno dialog, or they get all tongue tied and moon eyed, or whatever.
    It reminds me of the Bear Bryant quote about finding yourself in the end zone, haha

    Anyway thanks again for the responses and again, keep them coming, this is fun...
     
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    Most men would not dream of speaking to women that they see out and about with anything other than respect so why not a stripper? You are right. Respect goes a long way. If you don't treat these women like sexual objects (or worse, speak to them like they are hookers), this would explain your success.
     
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    Of course I have! But isn't love something too? Or doesn't it count because it's intangible? When I talk about returns, I am talking about everything - love, sex, money, status, companionship, emotional support, validation, etc, etc. Not just money or material possessions, as has been assumed.

    Sorry for the late reply - I missed this post yesterday.
     
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