Very well endowed male virgin looking for advice for the first time

[elvid]

She just liked the attention I gave her.

Do you think she saw your bulge and was flattered such a well-endowed man would talk to her?

 

[rtg]

Do you think she saw your bulge and was flattered such a well-endowed man would talk to her?

(You know he's going to interpret this as a serious question....)

 

[sangheili90]

Wtf did I just read?

If you lived out here you'd know what I'm talking about. They by and large only associate with other Mexicans, in regards to friendships and relationships, and have a very tight knit social network and family structure. I'm not of this group and because of this an outsider and a potential unknown factor, people are more comfortable with what they know and are fearful of the unknown. This is the reason why people generally meet their significant other through mutual friends, family members etc. It's tough for me when I don't really belong with anyone so I have to do this entirely on my own, and it sure as hell is not easy.

6'4", fit, very attractive, white male, who dresses well, is intelligent, doesn't drink/smoke/do drugs, has money, has a flexible life, has travelled extensively, had a lot of interesting life experiences is just too good to be true. There has to be a reason why he is single, is he gay, is he a player, is he a member of a satanic cult, is he an alien in the physical form of a human?

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

This chick already has a boyfriend, why are you still persuing her?

 

[pengucat]

6'4", fit, very attractive, white male, who dresses well, is intelligent, doesn't drink/smoke/do drugs, has money, has a flexible life, has travelled extensively, had a lot of interesting life experiences is just too good to be true. There has to be a reason why he is single, is he gay, is he a player, is he a member of a satanic cult, is he an alien in the physical form of a human?

If you would actually read what people are telling you here, there are obvious reasons you are single.
You have a reprehensible attitude towards women and courtship, and every time someone says so you ignore them or rationalize saying these thoughts "are based on experience."

Women don't give a fuck where the attitude comes from, and they DO notice it. It's impossible not to with you.
If you don't make an effort to change you're gonna have a really hard time getting laid for the rest of your life, unless you pay for it.

 

[AlteredEgo]

This chick already has a boyfriend, why are you still persuing her?

So when he is ready to move on, she can be dismissed as just another whore.

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

So when he is ready to move on, she can be dismissed as just another whore.

Say she leaves her boyfriend for him, how long do you think it would take for him to be worried that she is going to leave him for the next dude who comes along?

 

[pengucat]

I mean shit dude I'm 5'8" (at best), i do drink, im an artist (so not super well off), and my dick is "only" 7 inches, i dont dress well, and my schedule is a clusterfuck.

And I get laid all the time.
Why? I'm respectful of women (and men, but you're not bi so we'll ignore that), I show genuine interest in them and their likes/dislikes as I scope them out as a potential partner, and I respect their autonomy and choice. If they don't want me, fine, there's a lot of other people out there.

I have less "going for me" than you, but I have a healthier view of sex and relationships and women. That's the difference, and the reason I lost count of my sexual partners years ago...

 

[AlteredEgo]

Say she leaves her boyfriend for him, how long do you think it would take for him to be worried that she is going to leave him for the next dude who comes along?

He'll never worry. He will declare she's just another untrustworthy whore like the women here.

I can't tell you how many men "befriended" me, told me their sad stories about women who subjected them to cruelty, and then after some point claimed to love me and ask me to break up with my monogamous partner. None of them ever had a good answer for my hypothetical question: How can we ever truly be partners after I demonstrate that capacity for deceit and disloyalty?

 

[sangheili90]

If you would actually read what people are telling you here, there are obvious reasons you are single.
You have a reprehensible attitude towards women and courtship, and every time someone says so you ignore them or rationalize saying these thoughts "are based on experience."

Women don't give a fuck where the attitude comes from, and they DO notice it. It's impossible not to with you.
If you don't make an effort to change you're gonna have a really hard time getting laid for the rest of your life, unless you pay for it.

In my teens and early twenties I've had people give me reasons as to why they wouldn't be interested in me. I don't like your hair, you are too skinny, too fat, not enough money etc etc. Add this to the fact that the very first woman I tried to develop a relationship with totally went out of her way to humiliate me and it encourages the drive to become perfect. So, the two choices I had were either just feel sorry for myself and do nothing about it or work on improving myself as much as possible so that I become the perfect catch. Honestly, I'm still currently not really satisfied with where I'm at now, but it's looking like in the next 4 or 5 years I'll be in the position in life I want to be at.....unless I do something really stupid or develop a bad gambling or drug addiction, I'm actually prone to getting addicted to playing poker at the casino so I totally avoid ever going at all.

I actually like who I am but I've become too good to be true. I've actually had people assume I'm gay when I tell them I'm single, and they actually believe that. I've spent so much time focusing on developing myself and the life I want that I really can't relate to people at all anymore. I'm strong and super developed in every aspect of my life, but when it comes to relationships I'm severely underdeveloped.....for the reasons I mentioned.

As I've mentioned, I have actually started to see a therapist again recently, who is actually really good, and it's been insightful but it's taking a lot of work on my part. We discuss the interactions I have with people and connect them with my life experiences, something I've never really been aware of until recently. I'm used to achieving my goals and getting what I want, to the point where it is almost natural and easy for me, so this process is very difficult.

 

[TexanStar]

I've become too good to be true.

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

:: slow clap for Sangeili::

 

[pengucat]

I actually like who I am but I've become too good to be true. I've actually had people assume I'm gay when I tell them I'm single, and they actually believe that.

No you fucking are not too good to be true. If you were gay, I would make an excuse to leave you alone at the bar after two minutes of conversation because you don't listen to people, you self-aggrandize, and you don't acknowledge your massive personality flaws.


I'm beginning to think you are a sociopath. You sound like Dennis from Always Sunny.

 

[sangheili90]

No you fucking are not too good to be true. If you were gay, I would make an excuse to leave you alone at the bar after two minutes of conversation because you don't listen to people, you self-aggrandize, and you don't acknowledge your massive personality flaws.


I'm beginning to think you are a sociopath. You sound like Dennis from Always Sunny.

What I mean is on paper I have everything going for me, a guy that is chronically single despite having all that is going to raise red flags. This is the reason why I mentioned people assume I'm gay, or when I jokingly mentioned earlier on here that I'm a member of a satanic cult or an alien in the form of a human.....and if you are wondering I'm not either of those things lol.

I don't know anything about that show or Dennis, sorry.

 

[pengucat]

When women give you excuses, they are just being nice to you.
They don't want you.
Stop assuming they all must secretly want you because they turned you down nicely several times.

Ugh you're like this gay guy who worked in politics who was obsessed with me and couldn't take a hint until I finally exploded and told him to fucking take a hint, and he asked if I should wear my glasses because he didn't understand how I could be uninterested in him despite his looks and big dick and politics job.

 

[pengucat]

What I mean is on paper I have everything going for me, a guy that is chronically single despite having all that is going to raise red flags. This is the reason why I mentioned people assume I'm gay, or when I jokingly mentioned earlier on here that I'm a member of a satanic cult or an alien in the form of a human.....and if you are wondering I'm not either of those things lol.

I don't know anything about that show or Dennis, sorry.

No. It does not raise red flags. If I met a guy who "checked all those boxes" but was a virgin, I would fuck his brains out.
Unless he had a shitty attitude like yours. Then I would say "not worth it", say I had to be somewhere else, and leave that guy hanging in the bar.
Not bc I'm suspicious of his virginity, but because he is a narcissist with no grasp of reality.

 

[sangheili90]

No. It does not raise red flags. If I met a guy who "checked all those boxes" but was a virgin, I would fuck his brains out.
Unless he had a shitty attitude like yours. Then I would say "not worth it", say I had to be somewhere else, and leave that guy hanging in the bar.
Not bc I'm suspicious of his virginity, but because he is a narcissist with no grasp of reality.

I've actually had conversations with women before and when I told them I was a virgin they didn't believe me, this occurred after talking to them for quite some time so no I didn't mention it right off the bat. That actually didn't happen that long ago.

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

I notice a pattern of black and white thinking here. Either he feels awesome or like a loser. Rather than existing somewhere in the middle like most people, he feels life is an algorithm he can figure out. Everything can't be pre-planned or perfectly figured out ahead of time. Things need to be organic and you have to be willing to go with the flow sometimes. It's when you stop trying so hard that people begin to notice your efforts.

I know he and I haven't gotten along much but I really hope he can find happiness in life with a partner he can respect. Everyone deserves that. He has to work harder than most to reach that goal. He realizes that atleast.

 

[pengucat]

I've actually had conversations with women before and when I told them I was a virgin they didn't believe me, this occurred after talking to them for quite some time so no I didn't mention it right off the bat. That actually didn't happen that long ago.

I believe you.

That isn't why they turned you down, EVEN IF THEY SAID IT WAS.
Your attitude is scary. If I was a woman I might worry you'd hurt me if I said no too obviously.

So i'd give you a nice excuse so you feel like there is hope, then I'd getthe hell away.

 

[sangheili90]

I believe you.

That isn't why they turned you down, EVEN IF THEY SAID IT WAS.
Your attitude is scary. If I was a woman I might worry you'd hurt me if I said no too obviously.

So i'd give you a nice excuse so you feel like there is hope, then I'd getthe hell away.

I didn't say that was why they turned me down, though one specifically stated that I'd need more experience before she slept with me.