Very well endowed male virgin looking for advice for the first time

[sangheili90]

Mistake number 1. You may not be a woman, true; but you had better find out what turns them on; and keeps them turned on.
I hate to tell you this but though you are tall, large penis-ed and in shape, you may get someone to go to bed with you once. The real challenge is will she do it a second time ?

Obviously I'm aware of that, this is the reason why I'm looking to develop a relationship first instead of just having sex as soon as possible. As I've said before on this thread, getting with this young woman is not a guaranteed thing, especially given the constant mixed signals I get. I've got practically everything going for me, so if someone drops me just because I suck my first time I'll just assume she is an idiot, thus the reason why I don't bother with the California sorority type girls lol.

 

[sangheili90]

This needs to be engraved on a plaque and sold alongside those "Hang in there!" cat posters.

Yes, relationships take work over the long haul as you figure out merging two individual lives into one couple, but if you have to try that hard to even get one started, you're wasting your time. Cross it off and move on.

Developing relationships has never ever been an easy process for me, thus the reason why I've never had one. It always seems like it just happened for everyone else, where as with me I need to go out of my way and put in a fuck ton of effort just to get anywhere.....which is kind of annoying because I have everything going for me lol.

 

[sangheili90]

It would capture a very special moment, and I think it would make a great souvenir.
Conor

Definitely, but as I said she'd have to be ok with it as well....though I could easily take a picture during doggy style or something like that lol.

 

[sangheili90]

Mistake number 1. You may not be a woman, true; but you had better find out what turns them on; and keeps them turned on.
I hate to tell you this but though you are tall, large penis-ed and in shape, you may get someone to go to bed with you once. The real challenge is will she do it a second time ?

BTW, what I meant by the being turned on visually thing I was referring to sexual excitement from being with a hot guy. If you were about to have sex with a Victoria's secret model you'd be far more aroused than say with an obese woman, even if the model just starfished and was horrible in bed. For women it is probably similar, but obviously learning how to sexually arouse a woman is important, it just might take more work for certain guys compared to others.

 

[someperson]

BTW, what I meant by the being turned on visually thing I was referring to sexual excitement from being with a hot guy. If you were about to have sex with a Victoria's secret model you'd be far more aroused than say with an obese woman, even if the model just starfished and was horrible in bed. For women it is probably similar, but obviously learning how to sexually arouse a woman is important, it just might take more work for certain guys compared to others.

If it takes more time your not very "hot".

 

[Shackleford]

Developing relationships has never ever been an easy process for me, thus the reason why I've never had one. It always seems like it just happened for everyone else, where as with me I need to go out of my way and put in a fuck ton of effort just to get anywhere.....which is kind of annoying because I have everything going for me lol.

Been there, done that. Most likely, what's happening is while you're putting all that effort in with lady "a" to no avail, you're rather oblivious to ladies "b" through "z," one of whom with which you'd hit it off magnificently.

My "luck" with relationships took a 180 in the positive direction when I quit trying to land a wife and just said, "Fuck it. I'm just going to enjoy myself and whatever happens happens."

Hopefully, the relationship you're in means the tide is turning for you, but if not, just keep my words in mind going forward.

 

[sangheili90]

Been there, done that. Most likely, what's happening is while you're putting all that effort in with lady "a" to no avail, you're rather oblivious to ladies "b" through "z," one of whom with which you'd hit it off magnificently.

My "luck" with relationships took a 180 in the positive direction when I quit trying to land a wife and just said, "Fuck it. I'm just going to enjoy myself and whatever happens happens."

Hopefully, the relationship you're in means the tide is turning for you, but if not, just keep my words in mind going forward.

The thing is this is totally new to me. I never put in a single ounce of effort into talking to girls in high school. I graduate h.s in 2008 and until the fall of this past year had only tried with a woman once, and that didn't end very well lol. My entire time from graduation until recently was essentially working on self improvement and growing as a person, because of this I'm financially set, have a lot of great life experiences and a lot of great ideas and future plans I'll be making a reality in the near future, within the next 4 to 5 years.

My other issue is I just don't have much in common with most people, so it is rare for me to actually feel a real vibe and interest with someone, and combine that with the need to be physically attracted to them and you are looking at a very small percentage of potential women in the dating pool. I'm going to aggressively pursue this the next couple years because I realize that most of the good ones get taken very early on, all that'll be left are single mothers, fat women, feminist trash or psycho bitches.......or a combination of all of those. That's why I'm looking outside the White American female demographic, I don't want to listen to how empowered there are, there obsession with "equality" and a whole host of other undesirable traits.

 

[Uniballer]

I was going to stay out as I am old and my experience was before the world was complicated with smart phone and the interweb.
My wife and I were co-workers for 3 years before we went out. She led a sheltered upper income childhood and I was a retired cop who was injured in the line of duty. Totally different world views but I am only 4 years older.
I am the first guy she went beyond kissing. I am also very tall 6'6" and she is 5'8" but very small.
Our first real date was a trip to the shooting range to shoot hand guns. Later on we went home to clean them and we got naked.
I did not fit anyplace in her!
She decided I was her guy and we worked on getting me in, (take a deep breath) for 2 years.
What am I telling you? Not go buy her an H&K USP .45ACP, I had to marry her to get it back, I am telling you to go slow. A hand job the first night you bring that monster out. Then when she is ready tell her to let you know if it hurts at all and you will stop. Lube that bad boy up and start slowly. If she says you may go deeper press harder but go slow. If she is small like my wife it may take some time before you can complete the deed in her.
We also did it all skin on skin for better feel and nothing to hang up on, your call there. We did 2 hours a night 3-4 night a week to stretch her out, she was slow.
I also nailed a girl right out of high school, I slid right in first try. You don't know you are not going to fit, plan for it but don't expect it.
Just expect you will need to be patient and not rush things, that way there are no ripping to any tissue in the playground. At worst your night will end with a hand job after you have had a nice long round of eating tight pussy.
Go slow
When entering use lube
Watch her face and listen to what she says and how she says it.
Depending on how horny you are, you may want to j/o before meeting her for a date. But don't over think it. The last thing I thought would happen the night of our first date is me not fitting. Don't let her see you are disappointed or upset, just tell her the 2 of you will find a way to make it work. Then show her how to do a BJ, titty fuck,hand job, but make sure she orgasms too and knows you ended the night happy and willing to do it again tomorrow the same way.
That talk usually takes me 1 hour to tell younger guys so you got the abbreviated version.
Good luck

 

[Shackleford]

The thing is this is totally new to me. I never put in a single ounce of effort into talking to girls in high school. I graduate h.s in 2008 and until the fall of this past year had only tried with a woman once, and that didn't end very well lol. My entire time from graduation until recently was essentially working on self improvement and growing as a person, because of this I'm financially set, have a lot of great life experiences and a lot of great ideas and future plans I'll be making a reality in the near future, within the next 4 to 5 years.

I knew I wasn't going to be sticking around where I grew up after high school, and actually made it a point to NOT get involved with anyone my senior year, so I feel you there. Again, though, my mistake was this stupid "all or nothing" mentality, as if I was going to be tied for life with someone I went out with a couple of times as a teenager. That was silly. I still could've dated and learned a lot during that time, but didn't because I was an idiot.

My other issue is I just don't have much in common with most people, so it is rare for me to actually feel a real vibe and interest with someone, and combine that with the need to be physically attracted to them and you are looking at a very small percentage of potential women in the dating pool.

This is exactly what I was taking about in my previous post. To hell with "feeling a real vibe." Sure, some folks have instant chemistry and even love at first sight and all that jazz, but you can't just write somebody off because it's not there. There is nothing wrong with just going out with somebody just for the sake of doing it. You never know what might develop. Truth be told, I didn't even think my first date with my wife went all that great. Now we've been married for over a decade.

I'm going to aggressively pursue this the next couple years because I realize that most of the good ones get taken very early on

Dude, unless you're just out to be a sugar daddy for a trophy wife (and it doesn't appear you are), it's not some covert mission where you can just identify your target, move in, and accomplish the objective. You really need to just chill a bit and let things happen.

I'm not trying to be condescending or preachy, here. I'm just telling you it took me a lot longer than it should have to learn these things, and I don't want to see you making the same mistakes, which it 100% appears you are so far.

all that'll be left are single mothers, fat women, feminist trash or psycho bitches.......or a combination of all of those. That's why I'm looking outside the White American female demographic, I don't want to listen to how empowered there are, there obsession with "equality" and a whole host of other undesirable traits.

Yeah, you're on your own there. I ain't even touching that....

 

[sangheili90]

I knew I wasn't going to be sticking around where I grew up after high school, and actually made it a point to NOT get involved with anyone my senior year, so I feel you there. Again, though, my mistake was this stupid "all or nothing" mentality, as if I was going to be tied for life with someone I went out with a couple of times as a teenager. That was silly. I still could've dated and learned a lot during that time, but didn't because I was an idiot.



This is exactly what I was taking about in my previous post. To hell with "feeling a real vibe." Sure, some folks have instant chemistry and even love at first sight and all that jazz, but you can't just write somebody off because it's not there. There is nothing wrong with just going out with somebody just for the sake of doing it. You never know what might develop. Truth be told, I didn't even think my first date with my wife went all that great. Now we've been married for over a decade.



Dude, unless you're just out to be a sugar daddy for a trophy wife (and it doesn't appear you are), it's not some covert mission where you can just identify your target, move in, and accomplish the objective. You really need to just chill a bit and let things happen.

I'm not trying to be condescending or preachy, here. I'm just telling you it took me a lot longer than it should have to learn these things, and I don't want to see you making the same mistakes, which it 100% appears you are so far.



Yeah, you're on your own there. I ain't even touching that....

You are looking a bit too into what I was saying. My point is that I didn't put any real effort into meeting a young woman for the past 8 years, combine this with the fact that I was almost never around them and you end up with no girlfriend, it isn't rocket science. My "mission" to aggressively pursue relationships over the next few years means I'm going to put in the effort to meet someone, which means getting out of my comfort zone, approaching, asking for dates etc.

BTW, when I leave posts I'm not being 100% serious with what I say, as I'm being a bit sarcastic and utilizing exaggeration to try to get the point across. I just want to clarify that for you in case the tone hasn't been made clear.

 

[TexanStar]

Developing relationships has never ever been an easy process for me, thus the reason why I've never had one. It always seems like it just happened for everyone else, where as with me I need to go out of my way and put in a fuck ton of effort just to get anywhere.....which is kind of annoying because I have everything going for me lol.

I realize that most of the good ones get taken very early on, all that'll be left are single mothers, fat women, feminist trash or psycho bitches.......or a combination of all of those. That's why I'm looking outside the White American female demographic, I don't want to listen to how empowered there are, there obsession with "equality" and a whole host of other undesirable traits.

 

[sangheili90]

LOL

When you meet women that come from more backgrounds and nations where more traditional family values are respected (Latin America, Asia, Eastern Europe etc.) and compare them to women from western nations you'll know exactly what I'm talking about. I consider myself fortunate to have learned this early on, seen way too many guys not figure this out until well after their prime years......it's sad.

 

[TexanStar]

LOL

When you meet women that come from more backgrounds and nations where more traditional family values are respected (Latin America, Asia, Eastern Europe etc.) and compare them to women from western nations you'll know exactly what I'm talking about. I consider myself fortunate to have learned this early on, seen way too many guys not figure this out until well after their prime years......it's sad.

Dating tips from the lonely, bitter virgin.

 

[Beedie Tijii]

self improvement and growing as a person,

*dies*

 

[sangheili90]

*dies*

I think you should read the entire post I left there.

 

[sangheili90]

Dating tips from the lonely, bitter virgin.

Too bad my opportunity just opened up for me, loser. Keep being the anonymous white night for the feminist trash on here, I'm sure you'll get far with that.

 

[sangheili90]

Too bad my opportunity just opened up for me, loser. Keep being the anonymous white night for the feminist trash on here, I'm sure you'll get far with that.

White knight

 

[sangheili90]

*dies*

I know you and a few other posters on here seem to enjoy making fun of me but focusing on education, building up a non 9-5 slave lifestyle, picking up business ideas and traveling are forms of self improvement.....do you not get that?

 

[TexanStar]

White knight

I love how you feel like that's supposed to be an insult... like if my goal on the forum was trying to get into a woman's pants that not being a misogynistic douchebag would be a terrible way to go about it.

In the meantime, we'll continue reading post after post from you, spread out over a number of years, each one expressing socially awkward anxiety and curiosity about what it will feel like to actually have sex at some point in your bitter little life.

 

[sangheili90]

It's such a shame that a handful of completely anonymous posters always seem to ruin my threads on here, just a bunch of butt hurt little trolls who have nothing going on in their mundane lives.

To those who have actually provided solid input for me here, I appreciate it. Thanks to circumstance, the stars or just sheer luck the person who I know will be a really great fit for me has finally arrived into my life and I am very happy to say the least. It's taken me a while, but I think that will make me all the more appreciative of what I have going for me.

Here is some advice to any young men who may be reading this and perhaps in a similar situation that I was in. Instead of focusing on loneliness convert that energy into something more positive, do things that will actually develop you as a person.

What I did and/or currently doing

- Read lots of books, studies etc.
- Travelled extensively through Europe and been to 44 of the 50 states in the U.S.
- Moved across country
- In my teens and early 20s worked under self made people and absorbed everything I possibly could through them and was able to apply that knowledge and experience for my own benefit.
- Pursuing a degree for personal development, desire to learn etc.
- Continue to maintain an active sports like lifestyle, it does wonders.

Some other things you should also consider that I didn't do, unfortunately, should include the following;

- Join the military, not just for the experience but the benefits as well. Take advantage of the 0 down VA home loans and fix up, rent or sell homes. Also, get that damn G.I bill and learn how you could possibly go to school for free, many state universities have tuition and fee waivers for Air/Army guard men.
- Learn a new language and then go travel
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We live in times where people are being told it is acceptable to be mundane, though I have a feeling that may be changing. Become the best versions of yourselves and everything will eventually fall into place. It may take a few years, but value yourselves first during these crucial years of your young adult life instead of obsessing about partying, women etc. When people see how much you work put into yourself many are going to be jealous of you because you make them feel bad about themselves. The average person's life involves spending several hours a week commuting to some mundane 9-5 job that is simply tolerable for them. They then go home, plop in front of a tv or computer screen for a few hours, get a less than full night's rest and repeat this process over and over and over. Don't settle for such a soul sucking life, become the master of your own life.

Don't be like one of these anonymous losers who troll on this site and you should be good to go.