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I know this is likely to be a VERY emotive subject and whilst I think this may be appropriate in the women's issues thread I am also mindful that it is actually also very much a men's problem.
In recent times there has been a strong focus on the fact women are getting sexually assaulted on a fairly regular basis and the spread of the "incel" movement online. Whilst I have always sat in the "innocent til proven guilty" camp, we cannot deny that there is a normalisation of assaults against women or an assumption that women are making things up or being untruthful. This is very troublesome for me, particularly as I have young female family members who I know will likely be approached by men in the future in ways that they will find uncomfortable.
I work in a very female dominated industry and therefore I think I have a somewhat sheltered view of the issues women face. I find myself resisting the rhetoric/message that women try to communicate, probably because the information is so uncomfortable that it is easier to avoid. At the same time I know that this is something we all need to face up to; that there is a sinister underbelly in society that almost condones (or at least wilfully ignores) the issues at hand.
I do not know any men who have displayed any misogynistic or aggressive tendencies toward women but maybe that is because I primarily have gay friends. Or I may just be lucky. I have never been given the message that women are inferior, there to be objectified etc and I do not see women in that way. Again, maybe my work environment has led me to a different conclusion to those that work in (for example) construction, legal or other male dominated professions.
I also want to mention that there is a big issue in the gay and lesbian community with domestic violence. I have met a huge number of lesbian couples that have engaged in DV though I do not believe this is given half as much attention as it rightfully should.
So my question is... what is your experience of violence against women? Have you ever done it? Seen it? Had it done against you? How widespread do you think this problem is and what can we do about it, given that many men will see this as a personal attack on who they are. Getting people on side is very hard.
In recent times there has been a strong focus on the fact women are getting sexually assaulted on a fairly regular basis and the spread of the "incel" movement online. Whilst I have always sat in the "innocent til proven guilty" camp, we cannot deny that there is a normalisation of assaults against women or an assumption that women are making things up or being untruthful. This is very troublesome for me, particularly as I have young female family members who I know will likely be approached by men in the future in ways that they will find uncomfortable.
I work in a very female dominated industry and therefore I think I have a somewhat sheltered view of the issues women face. I find myself resisting the rhetoric/message that women try to communicate, probably because the information is so uncomfortable that it is easier to avoid. At the same time I know that this is something we all need to face up to; that there is a sinister underbelly in society that almost condones (or at least wilfully ignores) the issues at hand.
I do not know any men who have displayed any misogynistic or aggressive tendencies toward women but maybe that is because I primarily have gay friends. Or I may just be lucky. I have never been given the message that women are inferior, there to be objectified etc and I do not see women in that way. Again, maybe my work environment has led me to a different conclusion to those that work in (for example) construction, legal or other male dominated professions.
I also want to mention that there is a big issue in the gay and lesbian community with domestic violence. I have met a huge number of lesbian couples that have engaged in DV though I do not believe this is given half as much attention as it rightfully should.
So my question is... what is your experience of violence against women? Have you ever done it? Seen it? Had it done against you? How widespread do you think this problem is and what can we do about it, given that many men will see this as a personal attack on who they are. Getting people on side is very hard.