Virgin at 25 due to penis problems - please help

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  1. penisprobs

    penisprobs New Member

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    I have so many problems with my downstairs equipment, I don't know where to begin. Firstly I am 25 years old - this makes everything ten times worse. My foreskin is very tight and when soft or erect I cannot retract it. About 12 months ago I did begin to stretch the skin, which made the foreskin nearly able to retract just before the glans ended. This was only when the penis was soft. When erect, it was still impossible to pull the foreskin back more than 1/4 way over the glans.

    When I did pull the foreskin back a fair way back (when soft), there was noticeable redness on the glans. This scared me. This also combines with my foreskin becoming inflated and red when I masturbate more than once a day. Because of this I only masturbate every other day MAX. Sometimes I also get a burning sensation when I pee. This mainly happens after excercise though.

    I did think this was all cancer - mainly due to the fact I also had one of my left testicles hanging lower than the other with a build up of the epidydimis ( tests revealed nothing to be worried about there ).

    However even though I do not have cancer. I still do have:

    tight foreskin
    redness
    itching
    burning when i pee


    I am a virgin, and this makes it all the more embarrassing to go to the doctor and talk about this at 25. I also don't want a circumcision, I'd rather some alternative route.

    Does anyone know what I have wrong with my penis? Are there any other options...?
     
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    Hey friend -- go see a doctor. I don't think that anything is seriously wrong with you, but if you can't retract your foreskin, that's something a doc can help with. Seems to me that if you have a tight foreskin, redness and itching are not out of the question as a result. Don't know what to make of the burning and itching.

    And relax. As just another guy here, it concerns me more that you're so worried and wonder what that's about. I think you'd be happier and maybe get laid more often if you could relax?
     
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    I have to agree with Krispdx. Go see a Doctor and I'm sure it will all be quickly sorted out :wink:
     
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    Sounds like Phimosis. A tightness of the foreskin with difficulty in withdrawing the foreskin behind the glans. I would recommend going to your doctor and there is no need to be embarrased, it's pretty common with a lot of people (i had it in the past).

    The redness, itchiness and burning sensation when passing water sounds like you might have a urinary infection so better be safe than sorry.

    There is nothing wrong with your penis and circumcission is only as a last resort. Stretching of the foreskin does help but with medical consultation or you might tear the foreskin slightly.
     
  5. B_ScaredLittleBoy

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    Try some hydrocortison or other steroid cream (1%). It helps with stretching. I can get my foreskin all the way back when soft but I have stretched it in the past. When hard it never usually goes more than halfway down the glans so I think you trying to get it to the end of the glans is a bit optimistic/dangerous.

    All you need is decent mobility where there isn't extreme tension on your frenulum (frenal bridge?) to the extent that it might snap or tear. I have had the redness before and the burning when peeing. I would put that down to friction.

    Perhaps you could see a cock doc although I didn't. There are basically two ways of stretching:

    Pulling the foreskin back as far as is comfortably possible and repeating that (repeatedly, ie non stop). A variation on this is holding it back for say thirty seconds/a minute/as long as you can at a time.

    The second method is to stick a finger/fingers inside your foreskin. I don't like this because it feels weird. Although at one point I did get four fingers down there...

    My advice is to go with method 1 and use steroid cream to help. Practically all pharmacists will stock it or some variant of it.

    FYI when I first pulled my foreskin back soft, it got stuck there and there was an indentation/ring around my glans due to the tightness of the 'skin. The more you do it, the better it gets.

    If you are experiencing pain however then you should see a doctor. There are small surgeries they can do to ease the tension that do not involve circumcision. But I get the impression you aren't experiencing pain and the foreskin is just a bit tight like mine was and to an extent still is. But I still have amazing, pain-free sex which is the way it should be.
     
  6. lee1973i

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    Hi mate, that sounds so similar to me. I'm in the UK, did'nt want to go to my GP so went to the local GUM clinic.

    Was given some cream for the red forskin which turned out to be thrush - not an sti, but simply a condition that manifested itself in the damp area under my foreskin componded by the fact I couldnot pull the skin back to clean properly. I did'nt have any stinging though. The creak cured that it three days!

    With regards to the tight forskin I was started on some steroid cream and stretching exercises, had to do that for 12 weeks, helped GREATLY but sadly did not cure the problem so now on a waiting list for a circ.

    Your probs dont sound horrendous mate, go get yourself sorted now - it will be worth it!
     
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    There are a few options you can do to stretch the foreskin and make it looser without circumcision. Google circumcision alternatives.
     
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    i didnt consider myself to ever have a tight foreskin but my frenulum tore when i was having anal sex with my first partner.......i didnt realise until i pulled out.....i thought the warm pumping feeling was me cumming but when i pulled out it was the blood pumping..eek........got a right fright but washed it well and soon stopped and has been fine ever since..im a bottom now so doubt it would happen again....

    think you need to make sure you are extra hygenic if youve a tight foreskin however as ive heard some scary stories about sever infections.....you could strech it over time - like months - not weeks and im sure it will be fine....redness will go if your xtra clean where it matters.
     
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    a friend of mine's husband had alot of the problems you describe. also his foreskin would rip sometimes during sex and be very painful. you should go see a urologist and he'll probably reccomend a circumcision. but no fears. they knock you out for it.
     
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    See a doctor, your problem is not uncommon. The fact that you are a virgin is not relevant to the tightness you have, however the burning is (the fact that you are a virgin would indicate that it's not due to a STD, but he or she have to know that, otherwise there will be blood tests).

    Tend to this quickly, you're missing out on a big part of life.
     
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    hope they let him choose the size of hammer to knock him out shinato :wink:
     
  12. penisprobs

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    Thanks all for your help.

    When I ask for steroid cream in a pharmacy, what exactly do I ask for? I would like to try this method first, rather than go through seeing a urologist and GUM clinic.
     
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    penisprobs, the steroid creams typically used are under prescription in USA, U.K., and other countries; which brings you back to the 'D' word. :smile:

    Due to the "burning" when you pee, you need to see a doctor for that, specifically.
     
  14. penisprobs

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    I know it sounds ridiculous, but I despise this doctor. I've already been to him about this burning sensation and he told me it was probably due to excessive excercise and was not worried about it. I got out my knackers and showed them to him a few months ago because of my left testicle. I thought it was cancer, he thought it was nothing. I asked to be referred which he didn't seem to be happy about. I think he thinks i'm a hyperchondriac (sp) - if only he knew how much I had to force myself just to go in and see him and show him my stuff, he'd change his tune.

    I think I may just have to go to a GUM clinic then.
     
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    You should have mentioned that before. How long ago was that?

    The tight foreskin can be treated w/o surgery unless there is sclerosis such as BXO which is rare. But the burning sensation and redness need to be addressed first.
     
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    It sounds like you have phimosis. Standard treatment is a steroid cream applied to the outside part of the foreskin that covers the glans.

    Steroid creams cause the skin to atrophy and get thinner, and thus become more stretchy.

    Typically, moderate strength steroids, such as 0.05% betamethasone cream are applied once or twice a day for 4-6 weeks. If this doesn't work, stronger steroids (e.g., clobetasol) may be used.

    The steroids mentioned above are only available by prescription in the US. However, weaker steroids may be bought over the counter: 1% hydrocortisone cream. This will probably work too, but might take longer.

    The irritation you report might be a result of your glans being very sensitive because it has not been previously exposed or it could be a mild infection (balantitis), due to the moist environment and inability to clean the area well.
     
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    I think I will try the Steroid Cream first. Can you just walk in to GUM clinics? Is it bad practise?
     
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    penisprobs - are you inthe UK? - if so most GUM clinics will operate a walk in clinic at somepoint during the week, but be prepared for a long wait when you do arrive. You would be much better phoning and making an appoinment. Thats what I did, I didnotgive my realname or address - thats perfectly acceptable as long as you remember what name/address you do give. All treatment is free, even if you normally pay for a prescription.

    I found the local GUM clinic a refreshing change from my GP - the GP was in a rush and not really interested - like yours by the sound of it,whereas the GUM clinic was a specialist centre where the deal with these types of problems as the norm. They are also sensitive (normally) to the needs and concerns of their patients.

    Give them a call, or source your local one on the internet.

    Good luck - and if you have any more questions post away, theres loads ofus willing to answer them for you and give you a bit of online support.

    Good luck mate.
     
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    and no, the clinic will not just give you steroid cream, you need a consultation first.
     
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    hey, i had similar problems with tight foreskin.

    No one's mentioned yet that you can have surgery done to loosen the end of the foreskin without actually losing any of it. The doctor decided to go for this route for me and while they say it will sting a bit for a week, after the operation (which only took 30 minutes) i experienced no pain and it looks just like a normal uncut penis and now i have full usage of my foreskin.

    This may or may not work for you, it depends on the individual, but it is a solution other than full circumsicion.


    Don't fret about it, sure it's a bit uncomfortable when you first go see the doctor about it, but you soon get comfortable with the situation. Just remember that it's his job, it's a fairly common problem, and you're not going to be the only one who's ever suffered from this.
    It's well worth it, the op is absolutely no worry, and really just don't leave it. There's no point hindering your life over some nervousness at seeing a doctor.



    Oh, and it really is best to see a doctor before starting up on steroid creams and the like.
     
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