Is anyone else turned on by the thought of breaking hymens and cherry popping passionately?
I am fascinated by first-time sex experiences, both boys' and girls'. And both from the perspective of the virgin, as well as the person taking the virginity. I'm interested in the mechanics of the sex - things like where it happened, kinds of foreplay and how much, positions, orgasms, etc - as well as mental and emotional factors like who the partner was, your relationship, how you selected the partner, how you felt before, during and after the sex, your relationship after sex, etc.
I have had sex with a virgin girl only once, and that was my own first time, on our wedding night. We were both 23. My memories of taking her virginity are lost in the memories of giving up my own virginity. It wasn't especially good sex - clumsy and awkward and embarrassing for both of us, and painful for her. (I actually missed the opening entirely when I first tried to enter.) I would have benefited from some detailed instruction on how to best initiate a virgin girl. My own eagerness and impatience got the better of me, and to this day I'm ashamed that I hurt her more than what was necessary. She was on the bottom in classic missionary position. The actual penis-in-vagina intercourse lasted about a minute, max, and she cried through the whole thing. Then there was a bloody mess to clean up - the only thing I did really well was to have warm water and a washcloth close at hand. It soothed her soreness and she thought it was an especially considerate thing for me to do . . . . but she never saw the mess between her legs. OK, it wasn't anywhere near a medical emergency, but it was a lot more blood than the "few drops" mentioned by the sex education materials of those days.
Despite the poor performance in the physical dimension, the mental and emotional aspects were awesome for both of us. And even the physical experience quickly improved - just a couple hours later, she wanted to do it again. The second time went much smoother. (For one thing, we unintentionally improved things by putting her on top.) I think we did it five times in our first 24 hours as a married couple.
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