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Discussion in 'Sex With a Large Penis' started by Imported, Jan 23, 2005.

  1. Imported

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    smartguy101: Hey Guys. I have a friend who I have been dating for the past few months. We haven't had sex yet because he has a large penis and I haven't been with another man before. We're trying to make this last, but we can't figure out what to do. When I say big, I mean in the sense of girth. 9 x 7.5in. cut. Even with lube, we've had problems with anal sex. We spent 1 hour working just to get me used to the head of his penis. Is this how it is supposed to be normally? We like each other waaay too much to throw this chance away so I have time for replies. We're being patient. Any guys have any advice? It would really do us ALOT of good. SEE YA !!!
     
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    i'm a small guy and i exercise friggin constantly (my PC and anal muscles too, long story) so when i first wanted to take a toy, i was splitting open at just 1.5" diameter. what you need to do is invest in an anal training toy (or a set of them). they don't stretch you much, but they get your ass used to dilating a lot easier.. in my experience, anyway. putting anything up there still hurts for me but training with toys (wearing a plug all day especially) helps a lot with your tolerance and ability to relax, as well as a bit of stretching.
     
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    ziggity offers great advice. Start by using small toys and gradually working up to large ones. Always remember to relax and push out when he is atempting to penetrate you. Use lots of lube on him and in you. And fingers do wonders in opening you up during foreplay. Take it slow and easy as you are now and you should find success.
     
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    I think the concern falls when he gets close to climaxing. If he's like some people I know and start jackhammering, it's going to hurt quite a bit.

    I like the idea about the small toys though. I'll have to try that in preparation. :)
     
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    Just a thought, but get your guy to work on your hole WITH YOU. Make a promise for these "training sessions" that only fingers, the toys you choose and maybe a little tongue action will take place, that he won't try to fuck you. It will maybe help you get used to having him play with you, relax you and help get you ready to his cock......when you are ready. In the meantime, it's playtime!!! Certainly would be good for the level of intimacy you feel for each other.
     
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    Great idea KinkGuy! My best advice is just to relax as much as possible and go slow. I hate to suggest this but it may work, if you are of drinking age try a glass of wine. Vino gets me very physicaly warm as well as horny but it is also very relaxing to me. I hate to encourage anyone to try alcohol in order to take a large penis but it may help in easing up the process. Best of luck! :)
     
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    How much wine should I bring then?
    Was that two bottles or three??
     
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    How much wine should I bring then?
    Was that two bottles or three??
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    LOL I'm not a lush! Well, that depends... I can drink a bottle by myself but that gets me pretty tipsy. ;)
     
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    LOL I'm not a lush! Well, that depends... I can drink a bottle by myself but that gets me pretty tipsy. ;)
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    Hot & nasty tipsy??
    Like, tie you up with duct tape tipsy??
     
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    Hot & nasty tipsy??
    Like, tie you up with duct tape tipsy??
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    Duct tape! Ouch!!! Now a silk rope on the other hand... ;)
     
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    Duct tape! Ouch!!! Now a silk rope on the other hand... ;)
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    Hey, I've got that too.
    I was just trying to get a read on the tipsy scale.

    I have to admit though, Having you tied and bound and in my control
    is awfully erotic.
     
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    Dont try to insert the bottle of wine.
    Drink it, drink it! :p

    i'm versatile and i had always been a top,
    so when my ex persuaded (read: begged) me to "flip", i wanted to oblige.
    It wasn't easy the first time.
    So, i took the advice given above, and got a small toy...and worked up
    to the real thing.
    Trust me, it works.
    No problems so far.
    ;)
     
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    Hey, I've got that too.
    I was just trying to get a read on the tipsy scale.

    I have to admit though, Having you tied and bound and in my control
    is awfully erotic.
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    And very fun as well! ;)
     
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    And very fun as well! ;)
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    DMW and JWB tied and helpless......oh man, I can't go standing up right now.
     
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    DMW and JWB tied and helpless......oh man, I can't go standing up right now.
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    Well, in that case get on your knees! ;)
     
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    Wait just a minute ... How did I get mixed up in this? :eek: I didn't even get an invitation!
     
  17. Imported

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    carolinacurious: smartguy,

    Look through the older posts in this topic. From my relatively short time here I've seen this question come up several times and while I don't disagree with the advice given here so far I know that in some of the older posts different types of advice was given.

    Remember, if you really want to do it, you can. Don't get frustrated; you've got a really thick one to deal with here. Also, another tip, some toys feel great and some toys (which seem fairly similar to the great ones) are intolerable.

    carolina
     
  18. Imported

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    carolinacurious: ok, I did a little looking for you... (this pops up in the other topics as well)

    http://www.lpsg.org/forum/index.php?showtopic=10123

    http://www.lpsg.org/forum/index.php?showtopic=9817

    go to this link:(same as appears a few lines down)

    http://www.sexuality.org/l/incoming/analrule.html


    some of my previous comments:

    In the porn stories it's always "it hurt for a moment but then felt wonderful." I've known a few people who claimed that this was the case but real life is seldom so kind. You both need to be prepared for the possibility that you may take your time, do everything right and still not be able at first. Lube between the legs can be handy if it comes to that. Patience and practice WILL pay off.

    With a 6+" girth I don't really know what sort of "warm up" you're thinking of, just the head is going to be tough.

    Personally, I had a really rough time at first but love it now.

    http://www.sexuality.org/l/incoming/analrule.html

    "When a finger, object or penis is intorduced into the anus, the anal muscles go into spasm, as if fighting off an invasion. Pain will result if the partners do not wait for these muscles to relax. Under sufficient stress they will eventually collapse and the pain subside, unless further damage is done. But, any 'pleasure' afforded from this kind of activity derives mostly from the absence of discomfort.

    Maximum anal pleasure requires the elimination of all pain or physical trauma from the anal experience. Self-protection on the part of the passive partner involves being ready to say "no" until he or she is ready to proceed. Readiness is a combination of physical relaxation, usually helped along by plenty of leisurely anal touching, and desire."

    AND

    Glad you liked the info. I thought of this, it may be obvious or it may have been in that link I sent, but the thing to remember is to push out. At first, everything is counterintuitive: you're trying to let him 'in', so why would you push 'out'. Tightening up may seem like you are holding him in but in reality you will force him out and cause yourself instant spasms and lots of pain. The thing to remember will be to push out and when you get hit with a spasm get back to that 'push out' mindset fast.

    LATER, you will get into advanced techniques and use that muscle for his and your pleasure, but at first don't even think about it, just try to stay loose and relaxed.

    There really is a lot to be said for a gentle anal massage until you open up, then partially inserting AND HOLDING STILL, this will cause your inner sphincter to relax, and then hopefully you'll be grabbing his ass and pulling him in.

    There may be a totally different sort of pain with full insertion, for now it's a "Dr. It hurts when I do this situation."
     
  19. jeepwranglerboi

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    Wait just a minute ... How did I get mixed up in this? :eek: I didn't even get an invitation!
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    You know that you always have an open invitation with me babe! ;)
     
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    You know that you always have an open invitation with me babe! ;)
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    That's true, DMW, you do. :)
     
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