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Hey idk if this is the right forum for this but I'm recently 20 years old and I've still not even kissed a guy! (I've made out with a few girls but that was not my thing) should I get on an app just to lose my virginity and do you guys have advice? I feel once I get it over with I would be more comfortable dating and stuff because I'll have somewhere to go after getting to know guys.
 
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Dude, I wouldn't rush it. Just be patient. It'll happen. Just be safe and treat everyone like they are positive. Use protection even if they don't want to. Protecting yourself and staying clean should be your top priority. Always use condoms. There's too much stuff to catch out there.
 

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I concur. Don't rush it. In addition to avoiding STDs, I think that your first time can have a long-term shaping effect on sexuality. Date, Find someone you REALLY like. Go through the steps of increasing intimacy, including emotional intimacy. Is he kind? Is he honest? The mechanics of sex are not complicated. Fleas manage just fine. It is the emotional aspects that require care, consideration, and growth.
 

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Now is also a perfect time to develop your core values as it relates to sex. Know what you want, how you want to live and love. I got caught up in gay life very early and it was like an all you can eat buffet. I did things that definitely don’t reflect who I am. Before you have sex and get caught up in lust, it is a perfect time to ask yourself questions like do I want to have sex on first dates? Do I want multiple partners? How do I feel about open relationships? Is monogamy your thing? Are you looking for casual sex or a relationship ? No judgments from me on any of your answers, but just know who you are and how you want to behave sexually. If you know your answers, you won’t find yourself far from the path you want to take in life. Good luck; I think you received some good advice from others and enjoy your sexual self when the time is right for you.
 

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All the above cautions are important to consider.

That said I have to ask if you think or feel like you'd be disappointed or even traumatized by having sex with someone just for the sake of sex. No love. No emotional connection. Just body to body sex... with someone who's essentially a stranger. If you're a gentle or sensitive soul it may not be for you.

If you're not there's something to be said for doing it just for the sake of doing it no strings attached. If you think you're up for it I say go for it.
 
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I think im pretty sensititve but i am not sure exactly how I would feel because its rare for guy to notice me at all so idk how id feel if one did even for a night