Virginity And Fear Of Catching Diseases

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Hi everyone. Here is my problem, I am 32 years old and I am a virgin. The main reason is that I am extremely afraid of catching diseases.
I don't know how to overcome my fear, I am totally stuck in this situation. Help me please.
 

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Hi everyone. Here is my problem, I am 32 years old and I am a virgin. The main reason is that I am extremely afraid of catching diseases.
I don't know how to overcome my fear, I am totally stuck in this situation. Help me please.
Wear a condom and go have fun. Just know who you are with before you do anything.
 

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Hi everyone. Here is my problem, I am 32 years old and I am a virgin. The main reason is that I am extremely afraid of catching diseases.
I don't know how to overcome my fear, I am totally stuck in this situation. Help me please.
Sounds like you need to deal with your fear of catching diseases, which will help relax you enough to help you actually have sex.

I was over 18 when I first had sex, and I used a condom, as I wanted to be sure to protect us both, from pregnancy (she wasn't on birth control at the time) and from any STDs (I didn't know her sexual history at the time).

There is no stigma in seeing a therapist, who can help you with your fears.
 

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Being a virgin isn't a problem regardless of your age.

You're wise to be cautious about disease, but letting terror prevent an experience that you otherwise want can be its own problem. Intimacy is always risky in one way or another. The trick is managing the risk at a level where you're comfortable proceeding.
 

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How do you want to have your first sexual experience? With a friend that you are attracted to and want to have sex and a relationship with? From a meet up at a bar or somewhere where people are looking to hook up and have sex, something casual? Meeting someone online? This decision can help you overcome your fears of catching disease because you can either choose a riskier or safer partner depending on who they are and where they hang out.

Wear a condom! Since you are gay you probably want to have sex with a man, so make sure he wears a condom too! But, there is kissing and oral sex too. So, you and your partner, if you both really want to have sex with each other, can get STD tests together so you both know you are safe and okay.

Do you fear going out to hang out with people in public because you might get sick? (I'm not talking about COVID-19, just like the flu or a cold in general.) Did you feel this way before the pandemic?

Hope you find the strength to enjoy one of humanity's greatest experiences of all time!
 
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Hi everyone. Here is my problem, I am 32 years old and I am a virgin. The main reason is that I am extremely afraid of catching diseases.
I don't know how to overcome my fear, I am totally stuck in this situation. Help me please.

I understand you completely and I'm like that too. However, I met someone whom I could trust. He was the only person that I've allowed to fuck me.

I think you need to meet someone whom you can trust completely. And it takes time man.

Wish you all the best
 
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I don't have any additional advice, but I really wish you well. The first time you bust in someone's pussy, ass, mouth, or wherever, is going to be the one of the most awesome experiences of your life and it will probably be tattooed on your brain forever. I know it was with me. I really hope you get there.
 
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