This post is about being a virgin (or somewhat so) at age 29. I've hit this topic in posts before but here Im really trying to find out why its so wrong to be a guy at my age who hasnt had sex before? My life isnt over yet so whats the big deal? My lack of sexual experience started out as a conscious choice to abstain (waiting for marriage) and now Ive decided to let that slide (now I just require a committed relationship). The obstacle now is just a matter of being isolated from large groups of available women (self employed, always traveling around and live away from the city) and the lack of time to go out and find them. (Though my 2009 resolution is to meet more women.) I also have very high standards ... not unrealistic standards ... just very high. I dont really hide my lack of experience and I suppose Im rather proud of my commitment to quality relationships. But the pressure from society (and recently from friends) makes me heavily second guess my choices and makes me feel like Im doing something wrong ... or rather not doing something right. I'm a rather attractive guy (if I do say so myself), I get plenty of attention from women, Im polite, respectful, passionate, romantic, intelligent and ambitious. I can fix a car, remodel a house and I even cook! Oh, and seeing how this is LPSG ... I'm on the "above average" side of the scale. I own my own house, drive a reasonable vehicle, run my own business and generally do things that would be considered "successful". (Though it's a startup business so Im not a millionaire yet.) Earlier this week I had a little discussion with my best friend and two girls and decided to essentially "spill the beans" about my sex life. I did it because I wanted to see how other people reacted in person. Essentially they where all completely shocked. One girl ended up curled up in a ball on her chair as if my "virginity" was somehow going to affect her, the other girl was looking at me like she wanted to jump over the table and take me right there and my best friend was sincerely concerned that I had some sort of psychological problem. (As if I was anti-social or depressed in some way.) Now before I continue, the reason Im using the word "virginity" in quotations is because Ive both given and received oral sex on a few occasions but Ive never had intercourse or had a relationship. So while I may not technically be a virgin, Ive not had the complete sexual experience and reserve it for someone who Im physically/emotionally attracted to and shares the same feelings toward me. I mean, when a girl opens herself up to me physically I take that very seriously and truly respect the opportunity. I want to take my time and enjoy her body and let her enjoy my efforts. Honestly I have more fun servicing the girl, listening to her moan and squeak and wiggle around as I work my way around her body. I've often fantasized about having a woman in an exotic location with a warm breeze blowing through the room, scented candles and oils in play and just spending all night taking in the entire experience. But instead, my experiences have ended abruptly when the girl realized I wouldnt just pound her? I mean, I realize that girls get horny just like guys and I realize that sometimes a down and dirty fuck is in order ... but I just can't get into that when I don't know the girl well. If I was with her for a while, was very comfortable with her and had that sudden raging lust ... than sure! But I just cant get comfortable with a random chic. The thing that really drives me nuts though is the reaction I get from other guys when I act polite and respectful toward women. It's as if Im some sort of freak? Like, if my mindset is not to pin her down and fuck her senseless than Im not a man? (Now don't get me wrong, the thought of pounding every hot girl I see certainly crosses my mind ... but I have enough self control not to verbally communicate that fact to every other guy within a 12 foot radius.) I guess in that way Im very different from most other guys and that difference tends to alienate me. So what do you think of all this? Do I sound like I have a problem? Or do I simply sound like Im waiting for the right girl to come around?