Virginity?

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richie: I'm a 24 year old virgin and am really ashamed of it. Unlike some of you guys I haven't been "saving myself" for someone special. The reason for my virginity is simply that I've had zero success with women due to severe shyness, lack of confidence etc. I'm also quite nerdy and skinny and am one of those "nice guys" who women never seem to be attracted to. I really need to change otherwise I may never get to use my 8+ incher on anyone

richie

 

[Pecker]

LOL, richie, you sound just like I did at your age - not dating - and a hopeless virgin.

Here's what happened when I was 24: My roommate met a girl in December and they dated. Then I was introduced to her roommate and we were invited to double date with them. The last week in December I worked up enough nerve to ask her for a date on New Year's Eve. In Febrauary I proposed. We married in May.

Now, I don't generally recommend marrying the first girl you fall in love with like I did, but we were together for 20 years and had 4 great kids before we divorced.

So, richie, don't give up.

Some enchanted evening you will meet a stranger...across a crowded room.

Pecker

 

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ORCABOMBER: [quote author=da_blissmachine link=board=youth;num=1038278877;start=15#18 date=12/13/02 at 21:04:17]Sometimes it gets to me how all this cock is "going to waste"[/quote]

Somehow I didn't think being a Virgin at 18 was a prob IMHO. Hey, not being judgemental, but you get randier towards your thirties...or something like that!

 

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ORCABOMBER: [quote author=richie link=board=youth;num=1038278877;start=15#20 date=12/15/02 at 11:53:53] I may never get to use my 8+ incher on anyone  
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Welcome to my world... sorta!

 

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Late_Bloomer: If you just want to lose your virginity, you could always take some horrible advice and find a size queen. ;D

 

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Icarus213: It would probably get you laid, but I doubt it would be worth it.  

 

[D_Martin van Burden]

Lost my virginity at 17 but, by no means, have been a "player" since. Though I don't regret the decision to have sex (though I could have had a better choice in partners, haha), your decision to remain a virgin is incredibly commendable in a time kids are having sex sooner and sooner. You're right; what's the rush? At the very least, being a virgin means you don't have to worry about the terrifying stuff like STDs.

 

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7x6andchg: I was 28 (which makes it...last year : )..like chipster said, it's never too late to get started.

Make sure, though, that both you and your partner are doing it because you WANT to. Otherwise, as I am sure many on this board can attest to, things can get ugly afterwards.

As Jeanane Garafolo said in Reality Bites :" Didn't anyone tell you the little secret? Sex is the QUICKEST way to ruin a friendship"

7x6&c

 

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ORCABOMBER: Amen to that bro, I mean, I might fuss to the whole thing, but at the end of the day, I'll memorise the "fucking" Karma-Sutra if need be, now that's something to remember!

 

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7x6andchg: Orcabomber -

And there is a story behind my words of "wisdom"..but that's another board, another time.

7x6&c

 

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junk792: Hey Richie and all,

It's kind of nice to see that at 22 I'm not the only virgin left in the world I saving myself for the "right girl", but the "right girl" is pretty much any girl who wants to sleep with me ;D

My reason for being a virgin, besides the obvious "doesn't exactly look like Brad Pitt" reason, is mostly an asocial streak. I'm not really shy - I have no trouble speaking in front of a crowd; but nearly all of the common social things people do, I hate them.

Take bars for example: I don't drink, I hate mindless chit chat and crappy music (alright, some bars have ok music, I guess). So I'm not about to go into a bar and be bored out of my skull.

Plus I guess I just don't care. Who wants to go to all that trouble and anguish with dating when sexual release is in the palm of your hands

Junk792

 

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Alligator_Jack: i lost mine when i was 10, i was sort of raped, but in the end i didnt really mind, heh, ive been having sex pretty regularly since, im only 16, i think im just lucky, well, i look at it as im lucky

 

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ace420: I did not lose my virginity until I was in my 20's. The size of my penis and balls made me self concious.

 

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ORCABOMBER: The wisest words are the most secret huh?

 

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ORCABOMBER: I know that feeling, I've only started drinking socially since I was 19 (that's legal in the UK BTW, starts at 18) , bit of a late dewveloper socially, but what the heck, we have [glow=red,2,300]the p0wer of the hand[/glow] Bwah ha ha!

 

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richie: Re: drinking. I don't like drinking and feel uncomfortable in bars and clubs where everyone is drinking and I'm not. I feel shy and nervous and out of place in these situations. But, unfortunately, where I'm from (Ireland) "socialising" = "heavy drinking in bars and clubs". There are very few alternatives for those who wish to socialise but do not wish to be a part of this drinking culture. Also, drunkeness is perfectly acceptable and normal in social situations and in fact those who don't drink to excess are often viewed as abnormal and weird. I hate to say it, but the stereotype that the Irish are a nation of drunks is pretty accurate.

There is also a strong drinking culture in the UK, socialising does tend to involve drinking in bars and clubs but life doesn't revolve around alcohol quite as much as in Ireland. Of course, the culture in continental Europe is completely different, and in the US it's different again.

richie

 

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wvu_kerq: Okay, I hear a lot of stuff about nice guys never finding girls or girl going after jerks. Here's a little secret: it's all about your ego. Jerks come off as guys who have tons of self confidance, they're smooth, and they don't seem like jerks until after you sleep with them. Where as "nice guys" sit quietly in a corner waiting for the right girl to come along. Hoping. Pining. And not getting anywhere. If you really want a nice girl you have to be proactive! Go out, meet people, be friendly, open, and easy to get along with. Girls would probably rather go along with a guy who has a good personailty and lots of self confidance that one who is all looks and no brains. But the main thing is you have to go out there and show the girls that your a friendly guy too.

If that doesn't work THEN you can complain that women only date jerks.

 

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lilAmy: thats right wvu!

Its because girls have enough problems being confident, they want a man who's their rock and has tons of confidence in themselves because if this confident guy I going out with you then he must be confident that you're perfect.

 

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ORCABOMBER: Thanks LilAmy and Wvu!

 

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7x6andchg: Yes, LilAmy and WVU, I'll second Orcabomber's post. Thanks.

One thing I have found in my roughly 3 decades of life on this planet is that the number one thing every woman wants is a confident man...now, if only I could find that confidence...I know I put it here somewhere....

<sound of man rustling around in his dresser>