Why is it such a big deal to be a virgin still? I am 25, and still a virgin...but I seriously can have sex whenever I want. Is it wrong for wanting the first time to be meaningful? Call me picky, but I just don't see what the big deal is.
Why would you want to be around people who judge you based on whether you're a virgin anyway? I think that's your own personal business, and if someone isn't going to accept you because you haven't slept with anyone...well are those people really worth knowing anyway?
The problem is that MANY of us virgins want to lose it to someone special in a meaningful relationship (notably, us gay virgins that have actual morals, but I won't rant on morals here). It is NOT that we care what others think of our virginity. It is our own stigma that we feel unwanted and undesirable, which is why we're virgins (at least, in my case and the case of friends).
Also, in the straight world, of course you can have sex anytime you want. Women aren't hiding the fact that they like men and vice-versa. Granted, not every gay man is hiding it (who wants one that's hiding it anyway?) but we are still not numerous enough. Last, most that don't hide the fact are usually to loose to want to lose it to, as you feel there is no chance of commitment so why bother with the risk? After all, you can't change anyone succesfully. If a person changes for someone else, respect is often lost and resentment is often seeded.