Waiting for marriage to fuck

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Call me a prude, but I think a person should wait till they are married before they fuck each other's brains out...what do you think?
I cannot legally get married. Where does that leave me? My partner and I have been together for 6 years, but we are not married...
 

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I firmly believe that holding on to your virginity past age 25 has a negative effect on a person emotionally and mentally. Think I'm kidding? Chat with some of the virgins over age 30 on this site. They all seem to suffer from chronic depression. :redface:

I think once you are past age 30, even if you have attained career and personal success it becomes your persona. You won't be remembered by people newly introduced to you as John Smith, the 28 yr old veterinarian who saved 2 children and 4 kittens from a burning house. People will remember you as that 28 year old virgin.

And yes, it will be discussed behind your back and to your face because it's just friggin' weird in todays society especially for a guy.

It's acceptable if you are a member of a strict religious sect; but I don't even want to start talking about what is wrong with the majority of organized religions today. :redface:
 

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For me I think getting married should be more of a mental commitment than a sexual one. I think having sex is a great thing to do with a person you truly care about but doesn't have to be someone you're married to. Basically, sex is just as good before you are married so I don't see the point in waiting unless it goes against your beliefs but I just don't share those beliefs. The only thing I might want to wait for marriage for is having children. However, nowadays marriage doesn't seem to be an important commitment for many people. Therefore, having a child married or not married probably wouldn't be much of a difference for a lot of people.
 

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I don't think your a prude and you are entitled to your beliefs and values. It is a very personal choice to sleep with someone and your best off waiting for someone who you know loves and cares about you.

I didn't wait and I am not sorry. I was 16 years old and I dated the man for over 3 years after we made love. It was a very loving and good experience for me and made the relationship very enjoyable.

Now once I got married I had less sex while I was married than I was use to in a typical year doesn't work for me.

But again, I am to the stage where the next person I make love to will be someone who has my heart and I want to spend and make a life with them.
 

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I firmly believe that holding on to your virginity past age 25 has a negative effect on a person emotionally and mentally. Think I'm kidding? Chat with some of the virgins over age 30 on this site. They all seem to suffer from chronic depression. :redface:

I think once you are past age 30, even if you have attained career and personal success it becomes your persona. You won't be remembered by people newly introduced to you as John Smith, the 28 yr old veterinarian who saved 2 children and 4 kittens from a burning house. People will remember you as that 28 year old virgin.

And yes, it will be discussed behind your back and to your face because it's just friggin' weird in todays society especially for a guy.

It's acceptable if you are a member of a strict religious sect; but I don't even want to start talking about what is wrong with the majority of organized religions today. :redface:

Yes. I am 44 years old and have never been married. I have had sex but I have not had ENOUGH sex! There's no way I could wait until I'm married. I will probably never marry (not because I don't want to, but just because), and also, if I did, I would want to know that I am sexually compatible with him before that. And I thought I was weird because I didn't lose my virginity until I was 21...
 

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Well, unfortunately I can't get married to someone I love in most of the world because I'm gay. So waiting until marriage wasn't much of an option.

I have great respect for those who decide to wait and are able to do that. But I know for most of us, it's not something we're able to do, nor is it something we really wanted to do. Granted I did not lose my virginity until I was 25, for a variety of reasons. And I've had casual sex quite a few times since then when not in a relationship. Still, sex is something that I enjoy most when it's with someone I know well and care deeply about. I prefer sex in a relationship, but I also know that I have sexual needs that I need to meet even when I'm single.
 

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People are supposed to have sex, and waiting till you're married carries within it an implication that sex is somehow wrong. It's fun, why the hell wait till you're married? There's no reason in this day and age when women aren't considered chattels and unmarriageable if they've been had by someone else.
 

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People are supposed to have sex, and waiting till you're married carries within it an implication that sex is somehow wrong. It's fun, why the hell wait till you're married? There's no reason in this day and age when women aren't considered chattels and unmarriageable if they've been had by someone else.
i can totally understand people wanting to keep it special & following their beliefs.

i only get pissed off when they start saying what other people should be doing.

if we start lecturing on who & when they should sleep with then we're as bad as they are.
 

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Sex is too fun to wait so long and only do it with one person. Also, cue the "do you buy a car before test driving it?" and "Prohibitions of premarital sex are merely chains of patriarchy" arguments. All of the above.
 

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Sex is too fun to wait so long and only do it with one person. Also, cue the "do you buy a car before test driving it?" and "Prohibitions of premarital sex are merely chains of patriarchy" arguments. All of the above.
are you the creepy guy who was sending abusive pms, or was that someone else?
 

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are you the creepy guy who was sending abusive pms, or was that someone else?
Careful, dolfette, careful. I mistook him for someone else in another thread (even though the sentiments he expressed were almost identical to another member's, it wasn't him). He was not too happy about it.
 

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Careful, dolfette, careful. I mistook him for someone else in another thread (even though the sentiments he expressed were almost identical to another member's, it wasn't him). He was not too happy about it.

No, actually I enjoy being mistaken for the wrong person, at least one of whom apparently is an asshole, twice in one morning. I especially like it when someone does so after a completely innocuous post on my part. Please continue!
 

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I think everyone should do whatever they are comfortable with. In my personal opinion, I think sex is a very important part of a relationship. There are some guys out there that I'm not sexually compatible with. Why wait till I'm married to find that out? I would want to know beforehand.
 

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No, actually I enjoy being mistaken for the wrong person, at least one of whom apparently is an asshole, twice in one morning. I especially like it when someone does so after a completely innocuous post on my part. Please continue!
Perhaps I will, perhaps I won't. Perhaps our favorite vapid slut will continue with you, though. Deal?
 

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i can totally understand people wanting to keep it special & following their beliefs.

i only get pissed off when they start saying what other people should be doing.

if we start lecturing on who & when they should sleep with then we're as bad as they are.

Very true. I don't like it when people try to shove their beliefs down my throat, whatever the belief is. I think as far as this goes, people should do what feels right for them.
 

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Like many other philosophies and outlooks upon life, if it works for you then go for it--as for me, I really want no part of it. Thank you.

Also, the longer you wait, you run the risk that the person who is "meant" for you didn't wait for you. . . Just a thought.