Waiting for marriage to fuck

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As another poster mentioned, where do those of us who are Gay stand when it comes to this subject? We can't get Married, so it's either sex before marriage or remain celibate our whole lives, sorry but I don't have that kind of resolve. Besides I'm very devoted to my boyfriend and he is to me so if we fuck each other's brains out it's nobody's business.
 

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Call me a prude, but I think a person should wait till they are married before they fuck each other's brains out...what do you think?
My wife and I exchanged virginity (she took mine, and I got hers in return) on our wedding night. We were both 23. Probably the lousiest sex we've ever had - and one of the most significant and meaningful events in both our lives.

But for the last 6 months or so of our engagement, we did just about everything BUT intercourse . . .
 

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I would not want to wait for marriage for sex because I believe sexual chemistry is SO important in a relationship.

However, I know some people who are saving themselves for marriage and are in their early 20s...I think they are fucking nuts, but hey, whatever works for them.

A relative (33 and sexually active) just married a woman his age who has a child, and they decided for whatever stupid religious reason to not have sex until they got married. It's been three weeks since their wedding and already the problems have begun....she doesn't want to fuck him, touch him, and has been telling him she doesn't want sex and if he really needs it that bad she will just lie there.

What the fuck, right?
 

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Although I'd jo a lot before marriage (and still do after marriage), I did wait to marry before intercourse. Both my wife and I were virgins when we married. The sex topic was always an uncomfortable topic at home and, well, I really did not want to be judged...even though it's not like I would advertise my personal life. Also I didn't want to scare off my girlfriend (now wife). To be honest, we took it really casually and slow even on our wedding night we didn't just dive in. We were both self conscious that our first bath together was in our undergarments. In fact she had no idea how big I was so when we did do it, it had to be taken really slow. Needless to say it was pretty messy that first time.
 

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Call me a prude, but I think a person should wait till they are married before they fuck each other's brains out...what do you think?


(Yeah, I feel for you.) I think that when you are young...and really, really intelligent and considerate to read up on using birth control and maintaining your sexual reproductive health...(wear those rubbers...use diaphragms...don't be raw dogging the vaginas and anal cavities too damn much...and get a full STD screen and a hepatitis combo shot...) Then, maybe you will have some decent sex with a lot of peeps...get all that fucking out of your system so that when you get ready to settle down...get married...you will both know what you like sexually and can FUCK the headboard off the honeymoon suite for a week. Sex IS an important part of a relationship. I hope that couples have had sex before they decided to get hitched...what a fucking shame to find out you definately can't fuck on your honeymoon because your religion praises you to wait...God didn't wait when he put the seed in Mary to make baby Jesus, did he? And Mary was Joseph's wife!!!:eek:
 

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My wife and I were not virgins when we met but we were both at a place in our lives where we wanted to live a different way so we did decide not to have intercourse. We dated for 6.5 years and did not have sex with each other until we were married. It has been just over 10 years of marriage now and the sex is still GREAT!!!! I have no regrets about waiting.
 

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to each his own. my wife and I didn't wait. she wasn't a virgin when we met and neither was I. she had never been "satisfied" before I fucked her. she said sex was not all that important to her, she was in love with me anyway, but I took her sex life to a different level, a level she did not know existed. and for myself, she was the best lay. some gals look good but just don't know how to fuck.
 

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I'm a cynical romantic. Whenever I hear of a couple that waited until marriage and about how glad they were that did and how great it is, it melts my heart. I love hearing stories like that, but I still don't think people should wait. I suppose I feel it's like winning the lottery. Yes, someone wins, sometimes a few people at once, but the other 23,874,284 people who played lost. I'm very glad that I didn't wait.

I still remember being a horny teenager. If I believed in waiting until marriage, I think my hormone addled brain would have talked me into getting married at 18, and I can't tell you how glad I am that I didn't do that. It would have put pressure on me to get married for all the wrong reasons and I would have had a life I'm glad I didn't have.
 

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I've always respected anyone who wanted to wait. For some that decision is way more important than sex. Even heard from a few that have done it and are happy (or at least thats what they say). The cynic and romantic in me are having a huge battle with this one. :p

I would have to agree that waiting until marriage for any sexual stimulation is a mistake. I'd also have to say that there are ways to know before hand what a partner likes or dislikes in the bedroom. Everybody fools around an does the "safe stuff". And it is a good way to test things out but yeah complete abstinence is a good way to insure complication in your marriage.

I say complication instead of total destruction because the romantic in me just won't shut the hell up lol. Some problems in a marriage can be fixed or worked on and some just can't. It mostly depends on the people.
 

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Marriage is of the heart not the piece of paper from city hall

which one are you giving more credence to?

If you cant be intimate with someone because you are waiting on your state to recognize you something is wrong.
Besides most of the time ppul just marry to fuck when they have this mentality.

Its also not all about "testing the goods" even if the sex is wack if you are willing to marry someone you will make the sex work regardless
 

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Good for you for waiting. That can be a special gift you share with each other on your honeymoon. Hopefully your marriage can be the beginning of a lifetime of exploration and pleasure. I respect your decision to wait, but you should have a very frank conversation with your fiancé about what you want in bed, and don't be shy about it. Make no apologies for wanting what you want. The key to a good marriage is open communication, especially in the bedroom.
 

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Waiting until you're married is just xtian bullshit, part of that patriarchal religion's way of controlling people via their sexuality. Our pagan ancestors would have thought the idea ridiculous, and they didn't have contraception; they thought sex beautiful, natural and above all, bloody good fun! With contraception and STD protection, there's no reason for people to deny themselves one of the pleasures of being human just because some holy book, prophet or priest says they should. Any deity that gives you natural urges then prohibits you from following them is a sadist, and not worth following!

Furthermore, it's a bit late if you wait for your wedding night to find you are sexually incompatible. Find out beforehand, and have plenty of other experiences for comparison.
 

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Do what you want. Wait or get to humping. It's you and your fiancés choice. Don't let others tell you what to do.

And, waiting until marriage doesn't have to be based on religious beliefs. It could be based on the notion that you don't need to buy the cow when you get the milk for free.
 

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A relative (33 and sexually active) just married a woman his age who has a child, and they decided for whatever stupid religious reason to not have sex until they got married. It's been three weeks since their wedding and already the problems have begun....she doesn't want to fuck him, touch him, and has been telling him she doesn't want sex and if he really needs it that bad she will just lie there.

What the fuck, right?
Horrors! I wouldn't be surprised if she fabricated her 'not before marriage' philosophy to hide her distaste for sex until she had him trapped.

Prime reason for not waiting, IMO.

For those who waited until their wedding night and felt it made it more special, how do you know it would have been any less special a moment had it happened earlier?
 

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Call me a prude, but I think a person should wait till they are married before they fuck each other's brains out...what do you think?

Call me a tramp with the morals of a yellow dog but I disagree. I think there would be more happy marriages if people had explored their sexuality before getting married. And it also would lead to less people winding up like this .
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