waititng for the right one

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by onelastdance07, Apr 6, 2008.

  1. onelastdance07

    onelastdance07 New Member

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    i know i have talked about this in main chat before but is it wrong to wait to loose your virginity to your soul mate even if you spend your whole life and never find them. plz give opinions thanks
     
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    it's not foolish to wait until you find your soulmate. your virginity is special and it's something that you can never get back. wait until you find the right person who'll appreciate you, body and soul.
     
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    I don't believe that a person only has ONE soul mate. I believe there are many possibilities.

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    Sex with someone you love is way more special than sex with other people.

    So if you have an idea about HOW you want to de-virginize, I say stick to your guns.
     
  4. D_Portelay Porquesword

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    First of all, to ask if is it wrong is unfair to you and opens the door for all manner of "opinions". This adds to an already complex issue.

    To wait for the right one is to believe there is someone there for you.

    Is it right for YOU to do this? Is this what is going to bring you the greatest amount of joy?

    For me, I believe there are several someone's that bring new experiences that will enrich my life on some level.

    Good luck with everything and listen to your heart.
     
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    (Quote) Sex with someone you love is way more special than sex with other people.

    All these issues, Oh boy! Take your time, you'll know when the time is right. And it's the right person.
     
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    Dude, I've been in chat when you were discussing this and I think the fact you still have doubts says you need to get laid. :tongue: :biggrin1:

    Seriously, you know that there is only one issue preventing you from even dating. Yet you refuse to do anything about it; because you want to be accepted as you are. :rolleyes: Well that's sensible however unrealistic. People are shallow and judge based on appearance.

    Excellent points! I just think that like many kids he is young and wants the fairytale.
     
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    I say sow your wild oats. You're young, get it all out of your system. Don't two-time people and keep it safe and clean, but have fun above all else. The chances that you find your soul mate right off the bat are very slim, and even if you did, you'd be denying yourself years of good times. Don't make any big promises to others or yourself too early on and try to keep all your doors open as long as possible. It's best to wake up each morning with a story to tell and regret some things rather than never do them and wonder 'what if' down the line. You'll know when something really great crosses your path, and chances are, it won't be for a good while yet.
     
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    You may wait for your soul mate and still miss them because you haven't had enough sexual experiences. As you get older and remain a virgin you will feel more awkward and be afraid to meet the man/women that is your soul mate. I think it's good to get some experience, but still be fairly restrictive in who you do have sex with. No one can hold that against you.
     
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    I think the best way to find a good partner is to get out and date people. By dating and having sex with others, you find out who is good for you, and who isn't. You find out what you want in a relationship, and what you will never put up with. I can't think of a better way to find out if somebody is sexually compatible with you than to have sex with them.

    Not for a minute do I believe in soul mates. Some people make better matches for you than others, but you will likely never find somebody 100% compatible with you. You may find several people 95% compatible, which means you may get to choose one or more of them as partners. Why give up on the joy you can experience today with a good friend who is 95% compatible? Why give up on that and search for that elusive somebody who is 100% compatible when you may never find such a person?
     
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    personally I don't believe in the whole "soulmate" thing...
    however if you want to wait, then wait.
    your virginity is one thing you can never get back.
     
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    To quote Penn & Teller:

    "The Bible is bullshit."

    When you use your own eyes and ears and mind, you see that we are nothing but animals. Do you see dogs ummin' and arrin' over whether to tag some bitch pussy?

    No, you don't.

    How special is sex - really - when every living thing on the planet is doing it. Personally, I would have as much (safe) sex as often as possible because one day I won't be able to. Why wait until marriage? Marriage isn't some magical ceremony that automatically makes someone love you. A lot of marriages are not loving relationships, hence they fail.

    You would be better of interacting with women on all levels and then settling down with one and becoming safe in the knowledge that you both "love" each other, sans marriage.
     
  12. onelastdance07

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    I appreciate all idea's but scared littleboy i dont like Penn and Teller lol. I guess my concern is that even though i am still young that means the woman are just as judgemental and i aint a fan of porn so i wont meet up to there standards which can be problems and could make me more shy than i truly am. Now if you guys give me advice on not being shy that would be great :)
     
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