Wank Fodder and Appropriateness

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  1. B_subgirrl

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    In light of some recent discussions in other areas of LPSG, I thought I'd ask the following?

    What kinds of threads (if any) do you class as 'wank fodder'?

    Do you think these kinds of threads are appropriate in Women's Issues? Why?

    Are there any thread types that are similar to 'wank fodder' threads, but seem more legit? What is it that makes them legit rather than wank fodder?
     
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    I don't mind if a thread is titillating, but sometimes it is irritating if someone is really obvious about fishing for sexy stories to wank to. It's just cheesy. I like being titillated, though, so I appreciate the sexy posts a lot. I think I may have written one or two sexy posts myself since I've been here, even though I'm a bit shy about that sort of thing.

    For example, the thread asking for opinions on giving good head to a woman. I don't mind at all if that one is titillating, and I think it's appropriate for the women's forum.

    The threads where guys clearly just want lots of ladies to ooh and ahhh over their penis and tell them all the things they want to do to it? Yeah, those are annoying, mostly because of the assumption that that's the reason why we're here, to worship their cocks, one by one.
     
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    Werd to that, yo.:biggthumpup2:
     
  4. B_subgirrl

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    I'll post my thoughts about this now.

    The threads I define as wank fodder are usually asking for sexually explicit content. They don't tend to state a purpose (a purpose might be something like making oral sex better for a gf), although some wf threads DO state a purpose and some threads without a stated purpose aren't wf. They usually just feel like the OP is asking for material to get off with. They often use words or sentences that sound like they came straight out of an issue of Penthouse Letters or a similar publication. I was going to give an example, but can't come up with anything. I'm crap at dirty talking :redface:.

    I don't think these kinds of threads are appropriate in WI. Largely because the forum rules imply they aren't (I'm a bit of a rule following). But also because I don't like the implication that women are only on this site to provide men with material to wank off to. It makes me feel rather like an unpaid prostitute.

    Some threads may seem similar to the wf threads, but for me there are subtle differences. Some men will ask for detailed information out of a genuine curiosity and interest in sex - just like someone interested in sports might ask a sport related question. Rawdog's posts are an example of this kind of question (hope he doesn't mind me mentioning his name here :smile:). Yes, his threads and posts are sexually explicit. But rather than making me feel used, Rawdog makes me feel a part of the conversation. He gets me interested. And I know (or think!) his primary interest isn't having a good wank.

    Another example of a non-wf thread is Gecko's recent one on oral sex. Again, the thread is sexually explicit. However, Gecko provides the explicit information himself, rather than asking for explicit replies. He gives the impression that he is asking to make sure his technique is good, and if it isn't he will be changing it (not sure if you really will Gecko, that's just the impression I got from it).

    The non-wf, but similar, threads are totally appropriate here IMO. I love them. I also love the sexually explicit content (although the beginning of this post may have suggested otherwise). I just like threads to be polite and respectful and conform to the rules.


    Disclaimer: These are all my opinions and I don't claim that any other women share them, even if I did accidentally put a 'we' or two in there!
     
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    I'm not sure I understand what wank fodder is and isn't to be truthful. Maybe I'm confused, but isn't a good part of what we talk about sexual in nature on this forum? If someone asks "what do you want your man to do in bed," I just answer the post. If they fap off to it, then they do. I don't know that is what they are doing. I don't know that maybe they aren't pleasing their partner and they want some ideas? I'm just answering a question. I'm not trying to feed them that information for that purpose or kiss their ass or anything. I'm simply stating my opinion.

    The whole mess generally confuses me. The only posts I'm ignoring are the ones that say "ladies what do you think of my..." because there is an area for that type of question.
     
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    Ok, but attacking someone for starting a thread is not polite, nor respectful, nor does it conform to the forum or site rules.

    Speaking of the forum rules in particular, you mention they've been there since you've been a member of this site. The post date on the Forum Rules Sticky might lead one to believe so but it isn't. Had those rules been posted and you aware of them I doubt you would have posted this. http://www.lpsg.org/189200-**-rob-**-petition-to.html#post2829720. Why would you agree to creating a subforum with these very rules four weeks ago (June) if these were already the rules for the WI back in May? Why would MB have felt the need to start the petition for a subforum with these very rules if they were already in effect? Why wouldn't a mod or any poster for that matter point out that those were the rules already if those rules had been posted prior to the petition thread's creation? I'm not trying to pick on you but I do want to illustrate that the rules are new and that threads posted prior were not in any kind of violation.

    How could the post have been created in May and we're only seeing it now? There are forums visible only to mods (they discuss the important stuff there, like forum rules and ToS ammendments) The post could have been drafted then discussed, then voted on and once consensus was achieved the post moved from the hidden forum to WI and stickied so it would be near the top.

    As you've illustrated what can be considered wank fodder is subjective. Different people will view it different ways and in some cases one person can be unsure if it is or not and rely on "feeling". That's subjective. We can't read the OP's mind so it's rare when we can state categorically what the OP intends with accuracy.

    Even in cases where the OP may have wanted that the thread can become constructive by individuals choosing to respond in a constructive manner. If an individual is convinced that it's WF and doesn't want to feel like an unpaid prostitute the option of not answering is always available.

    It's confusing because it's subjective.

    Regarding the "what do you think of my" threads if you report them with the suggestion they be moved to "Show Off" they can be removed from WI sans muss or fuss (there's no sanction against a poster for incorrect thread placement unless it's a constant and apparently deliberate thing so you don't have to worry about getting them into trouble).
     
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    Agree.


    I feel the petition thread was asking for something a little different to what the forum rules state. There are many 'ask the women' questions which don't quite fit into the 'not appropriate, piss off' box. I would like it if these questions were in a sub-forum. Probably more because I am fond of boxes and labels than for any other reason. I'd quite happily answer them, I just like things to be neat and tidy.

    You could be right in that the rules are newer than I am. In my memory, they were there when I first came, but this may not be so. I may have just assumed the rules based on predominant attitudes of female posters in WI. In my (often flawed) memory they were there when I arrived though.


    This is quite interesting. I was certainly unaware that an early thread creation date could reflect this.

    Agree entirely. That's why I think this thread could be valuable. We'll never be able to determine exactly what threads are wf - particularly because we can't read the OP's mind. We won't even be able to come up with a true consensus of what is and isn't appropriate, because it will be different for each one of us. But it would be nice if we could come up with something a little clearer than what is currently stated in the rules.


    All true.


    I have to admit that I am quite wary of the report button. And we do have our good old sticky for the size questions.
     
  8. dolfette

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    define?

    fuckit, i make it up as i go along!
     
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    No idea to be honest but if a thread makes me feel uncomfortable as in i feel the person posting it is looking for words to visually arouse them......i leave that thread alone.
     
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    I know a lot of people say, "Why don't you just ask her?" when someone asks for technique ideas, which I agree is something that must be done with a lover if you want to know what she/he really wants or enjoys in bed, but a person can't ask for something if it's never been done to them before! Sometimes it's good to get new ideas that's outside the experiences of both you and your partner. For example, I couldn't ask a lover to kiss the area above my vagina like he'd suck on my neck before TheBF did it, because I never knew before how amazing it felt! And sometimes maybe you've already had that talk with your partner and you already know their answers, but you'd still like to surprise him/her next time you're in bed by pulling out something totally new unexpectedly, a surprise for him/her that could be a lot of fun. That was the motivation behind my "best blowjob" thread. A got a few condescending remarks along the lines of "well I have no problem telling my partner what I like" and "you could just ask" but I already have! I wanted to do something no lover has ever done to him before, and I wanted it to be a surprise. There was no need for snarky remarks!
     
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    Yup, I do this too.
     
  12. dolfette

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    most of those threads are less ''give me some new ideas for oral. i need some new tricks!'' than ''how does my wife like to be eaten out?''

    and seeing as my sex ideas often involve electrodes and duct tape, taking my advice might not be such a good idea.
     
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    Exactly! Where else can we talk about these things if not here? I always say what I like or what I have done or experienced myself and then I always add but you should really ask your partner. I want to share and learn, but I try to remind the OP that we all like different things. As Dolfette says "she likes electrodes..." where personally I'm more into tongue....

    I say lets share and share alike. And now I'm going to look for this BJ thread of yours because I have really wanted to ask that question myself but I didn't because of the same reaction many of the threads get.
     
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    But see, you've talked about these electrodes so many times, now I've become curious! I wanna know!
     
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    Thanks for posting as I am so horrble at the search function. I'm learning though! I look forward to a titillating read...:tongue:

    I second this I find myself looking at things I never thought I would be interested in, including now Enids violet wand that I had read about in a book and had mixed emotions on. Now I'm increasingly curious about these things and I look forward to each post.
     
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    Well I don't know about other dudes on here but for me ok sure I do enjoy reading sexy posts if/when the occurr but with the availability of high quality hardcore porn these days why would I bother jerking off to a thread on a forum? Not to memton i get actual regular sex etc.

    But yea I do get your point. I'm not sure but I think you may be overestimating the amount of wanking that we may do in response to thread posts.
     
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    the wank fodder posts usually just make me roll my eyes,
    but i do get fuming angry about some of the ''how old were you when...'' threads. the ones where the guy is very obviously getting off on the idea that 14y/o girls do this/that/the other and love it.

    as the mother of a teenager, as a decent human being, those threads make me homicidally pissed off.

    a new pervert is born!
    i need to think of new freaky shit i've tried to post about.
     
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    LMAO... long live the freaky shit!
     
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    Freaky shit can never be bad. Sadly some of the freakier stuff I'm into most people never are.
     
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