I've got a bit of a problem. I'm 4'9" extremely petite and just don't seem to be able to fit a certain guy. He's 6'8" and he's got about a 9" long and extremely wide penis. missionary doesn't work, me on top doesn't work. Is it possible that I'm just too small? I really want to have sex with this guy but can't figure out how. Any tips would be greatly appreciated, I've only been with one other guy and he pales in comparison.
First thing, just because you are small doesn't mean that you have a correspondingly small vagina. Some women who are more than a foot taller than you may have the same size vagina as you-- just like penis size, there's no real correlation between body size and vagina length/width. Now, since both of you are on the very extreme ends with you being so petite and him being so well endowed, it may very well come into play that you physically don't have the potential to have a vagina as large as say, a woman who is of average height. However, I don't think it has all that much to do with it simply because very small women often have large babies (and vice versa). Women's reproductive systems don't seem to be all that limited by physical size. At least, not to a huge extent. For you, maybe some because you are very tiny.
Most women would have trouble taking a 9" penis and would have to work up to it. I know I would. I get sore from average penises and have to use lube at times. However, I know I could but that it would take some time.
If I could go back and push through, I'd tell you to use lots and lots of lube and be willing to take it slow and suffer through the pain and potential tearing. If he's much bigger, you will likely tear and bleed inside.
If you bleed and tear, you should stop. This is a cue to go slower, practice with dildos, use more lube etc. Vaginal tearing is bad.
so be ready for that and accept that you will have a larger pussy with habitual penetration of a big cock like that...
basically, smaller cock won't feel as good any more, so you're making a significant decision
This simply isn't true. It's a myth. The vagina has an amazing ability to contract and expand based on the size of what's in it. That's why those tiny little tampons we use are able to stay up there without moving even if we regularly have sex with men who are hung like stallions. The most important factor in how "loose" your vagina is the strength of your PC muscles. I encourage all women to exercise them as much as they can since it can make sex more enjoyable and, as you get older, stop those sneeze-pees and laugh-pees that are embarassing.
Now, a woman may find that she prefers a large penis for various reasons, but it's not true that once you have sex with one a lot, your pussy becomes permanently enlarged and therefore can't feel a smaller cock the way you used to.
Come on...a child's head is able to come through once...so why should with lube, patience and practice a cock not be able to fit?! just take time and not hurry into things
I do see what you're saying, but there are a lot more things going on during childbirth that make this possible-- the biggest one being the physical changes to the pelvis during pregnancy and childbirth. Also, there's the pain part that Alex mentioned. Yes, I agree with your point in that to an extent women can stretch girthwise a lot, but it's a lot less than the amount during childbirth. With that said, the circumference of a newborn's head is rarely under 12 inches with an average of about 14.25 inches. I don't see even the most shameless faker claiming to be that girthy.
The problem is more with the length-- some women have shorter vaginas than others do. Again, this is not correlated with stature. The OP may well have a vagina that is too short to accomodate 9". However, you don't know until you try, and I would venture that with some time it will be possible. The good thing is that if he's willing to live with it, he may just not be able to go balls deep into you or you'll have to avoid certain positions. I can only do doggy style very gently with most men (even average ones) because they bottom out.
At any rate, I recommend what everyone else does-- lube, lube, patience, lube, relaxation and a cooperative partner. If you're both in the headspace that you will indeed be able to do it, I'm sure it will go much more smoothly. A drink or two might not hurt either.