Want to have Hetero Sex

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I have wanted to have sex with a woman for years now and just never have made the leap and gone for it. Now I have the chance, opportunity to do it and I am so nervous. I spoke to a friend, I thought totally gay friend, but one I had suspected had been having sex with a girl on the side, and turns out he has been. Even he is encouraging me to do this to. He is even willing to help arrange it for me, even the girl he has been fucking says she knows someone who is more than willing to do it to.

So do I got for this and go all out get converted? I've thought about it for years, and seriously thinking it would be best. :confused:
 

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You've thought about it. It seems like you WANT to do it - so do it! Go for it! You never know if you'll like it or not unless you finally give it a shot.

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Can I ask, what's stopping you? Why are you nervous?

Guess am a bit nervous about liking it more than gay sex? Also if I do then what? Other than continuing, then there is dealing with friends, family members and such. Have a feeling that I am going to enjoy it so that I may have to deal with that. IDK I know I just need to go for it once and for all.
 

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You've thought about it. It seems like you WANT to do it - so do it! Go for it! You never know if you'll like it or not unless you finally give it a shot.

Simba

I do man, really do. Ef it, am going to get it worked out and do it once and for all.

Anyone else thought about doing this and having hang-ups with going through with it? Message me or comment please.
 
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Go for it the hell with the white noise.

You are what you are only if you tell yourself what you are (blah, blah, blah, etc).

If a straight person wanted to try Gay sex you would probably encourage them to drop the preconceived notions, forget the labels and do what feels right. This is the same thing.

No one will (nor should they) hate you for wanting to have sex with women; if they do then right them off as they are no different than haters on the opposite end of the perspective.

The only thing I would offer is to take the same precautions you would with another man regarding safe sex (women engage in risky sex as well).
 

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Go for it the hell with the white noise.

You are what you are only if you tell yourself what you are (blah, blah, blah, etc).

If a straight person wanted to try Gay sex you would probably encourage them to drop the preconceived notions, forget the labels and do what feels right. This is the same thing.

No one will (nor should they) hate you for wanting to have sex with women; if they do then right them off as they are no different than haters on the opposite end of the perspective.

The only thing I would offer is to take the same precautions you would with another man regarding safe sex (women engage in risky sex as well).

Okay guys so since I have decided to go and do this, regardless of the white noise, any tips?
 

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Your anxieties seem to be a lot like the anxieties of anyone else having sex for the first time...you just have the experiential bonus of having had past experiences with guys. My suggestions: Try to be as calm as possible. Make sure you're doing it with someone you're reasonably comfortable with, to lessen your anxieties. Don't demand the world of yourself on the first try.

I'm not sure why you're scared of dealing with friends and family. Elaborate on that? Are you worried that being bisexual or even preferring women might mess with your identity? Honestly, if you still prefer men romantically, I don't see why you'd need to disclose sleeping with women. Your romantic life might be a little relevant to your friends and family, but your sex life is only their business if you choose to let them in on it.
 

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Best advice I think I could give would be "Just be yourself". I know it's a bit of a cliché but it's true. If the girl likes you enough to want to have sex with you then you've pretty much already done all the scary stuff that needs doing! The sex is just the icing on the cake so to speak. If you've got any hang ups just remember she will have to. I know its a bit crass, but don't go putting the pussy on a pedestal. She'll probably have her own little worries also, she's only human, does my hair look OK, does he things my thighs are too big, I hope he doesn't think I have an ugly (insert female pet name for pussy here).

I agree with Young Native in that your sex life is your own business, if anyone judges you on that, are they really worth taking any notice of? You're not a gay man, a straight man or a bi, you are YOU!

Be yourself, take your time and just let it happen naturally.
 

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Your anxieties seem to be a lot like the anxieties of anyone else having sex for the first time...you just have the experiential bonus of having had past experiences with guys. My suggestions: Try to be as calm as possible. Make sure you're doing it with someone you're reasonably comfortable with, to lessen your anxieties. Don't demand the world of yourself on the first try.

I'm not sure why you're scared of dealing with friends and family. Elaborate on that? Are you worried that being bisexual or even preferring women might mess with your identity? Honestly, if you still prefer men romantically, I don't see why you'd need to disclose sleeping with women. Your romantic life might be a little relevant to your friends and family, but your sex life is only their business if you choose to let them in on it.

Thank you.

I guess I didn't write that the way I meant it. My sexual life is just that, my life and is not something I am worried about so far as family or even friends. I guess what I meant is that if by chance any of them found out, or say saw me out with a women, how I would deal with it then. Someone described it as the "white noise". More or less if after having sex with a woman, and enjoying it as I have a feeling I will, then how do I deal with this world I have built around me. With friends all knowing or at least up to that point believing that I am gay, along with my parents and everyone else I know. That is the part I feel has prevented me from going there in pursuing of something I really crave.
 

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I do man, really do. Ef it, am going to get it worked out and do it once and for all.

Anyone else thought about doing this and having hang-ups with going through with it? Message me or comment please.


You're not alone Rybarra, I've had the same curiosity for a long time but haven't acted on it. Similar reservations that you've expressed well: would it mess with the identity...
Thanks for bringing up this topic.