Wanting to explore my sexuality

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by D_htrdyhh, Oct 24, 2011.

  1. D_htrdyhh

    D_htrdyhh New Member

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    So I want to hook up with guys but I am too nervous about anyone finding out. I don't think my girl would be about it.
     
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    Well you sure won't have any trouble finding male volunteers !!! Good luck and keep us posted.
     
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    yes, i know that feeling. maybe if you have a great friend who is also interested or go and try it somewhere far from home... good luck. btw you look magnificent! and have a perfect cock!
     
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    If that's a side of yourself you want to explore, you owe it to yourself to do so. You will never be genuinely happy, fulfilled or at peace if you leave essential questions like these unanswered. That said, acting this out within a committed relationship, if the current rules include monogamy, constitutes cheating and I can't condone it. You need to either discuss this with your girlfriend, explain your needs and desires and get her "permission" to go outside the relationship, or break it off and explore new horizons on your own.
     
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    DL is all the rage now. you will find a guy/s to help you out.
     
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    Great way to put it Nick. I've mentioned it and we even watch bi porn. It's her religious morals that's making it hard.She also loves to get pissed on which makes no sense.
     
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    Getting pissed on and being cheated on are unrelated. Even if you tell her you want freedom from her...maybe a one month vacation apart from each other...it would let her know you are not committed anymore. If you mess around with a guy and you decide that same-sex action is not your thing...you could ask her to take you back if that's where your head is.

    Just don't cheat on her...and don't try to lure someone out of an existing relationship...that's just tacky.
     
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    Second on most of the above. Exploration is great, but do it responsibly and with honesty toward your girl.
     
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    Ex, you've got to admit that there is no biblical provision against war sports. Unless I miss my guess, no one ever wrote "And Jesus said unto them, 'Let not man nor woman asketh to be pissed upon'".

    P.S. If you do a nude caricature of me, will you draw me with an exaggeratedly large penis, please? :biggrin1:
     
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    Leviticus 12:23

    But maybe I'm thinking of something else.

    BTW, wasn't walking on water the first water sport?
     
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    I feel the same way i'm married...but very curious ....i'm attracted to white guys with toned bodies... but scared someone is going to find out.wish you were close so then both of us can explore with each other. ; )
     
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    Thanks guys. I would never cheat on her with another female.
     
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    Being opposed to bisexuality or homosexuality is the moral position of some religions and some religious people, not all religions or all religious people; in other words, it is A moral position, not THE moral position. Not all morals are conservative/repressive: I argue that advocating for a person to self-actualize (by, for example, exploring their sexual identity) and not having to do so privately (and preferably without being condemned by others) also is a moral position--and even advocated by some religions, not to mention advanced by various international human rights treaties, resolutions, etc.
     
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    Come down to Wilmington.... I doubt you'll know too many people here.

    :wink:
     
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    I went through many years of agonizing over my desire for cock while married fo 20 years. While I don't justify cheating on wives and girlfriends, my experimentation led to my realization of my true sexuality nd I am now in my 6th year of a committed relationship with n amazing man. My advice is to be open to unexpected life changes that open you up to true joy ou never expected.
     
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    It comes down to finding someone you can trust. Being a bi male, I have had two "straight" friends confide in me to explore. There's nothing wrong with trying to figure out your sexuality. It's definitely not the same as a guy cheating on his girlfriend for kicks.


     
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    :rofl:
     
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    I have a young friend that came to me to give me oral, four days before his wedding, which I had no idea of. Now, a couple months later, he wants to do it again. He says he's str8,but likes cock. My advice is figure it out before you marry.
     
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    I personally haven't done or find it ok to do stuff with guys on the down low. It isn't a traditionally moral thing with me but more an issue of being truthful with myself and others. It makes for a more integrated life. I know it may be very difficult but eventually talking with your girl friend about your desires and urges is the best bet for you. It doesn't have to be some big deal. In normal conversation this stuff comes up. It would be good if you have some sense of why you want to get with guys. It would help her and you understand what's happening for you. All the best. :smile:
     
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