Was I too harsh?

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They are all practices that are condoned under the umbrella of religious/cultural rights, and arranged marriages often work because of the stigma of divorce in those instances. They're free to reject a partner but they don't because that would bring shame on the rejectee and on their family. And don't advise me on what to say, when I need advice from someone who's consistently been hostile I'll give up using the net.
 

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Honour killings, female genital mutilation and other such horrors are in no way comparable to arranged marriage. I'm not condoning it, but people in those marriages tend to be at least as happy, if not happier, than people in our "enlightened" society. Granted some occur under coercion, and this, of course, is wrong, but in many places either party is free to reject the partner.

In terms of manners, I guarantee there's a lot of people who would be very offended if they read your message comparing them to murderers and torturers. I'm no moral relativist but watch what you're criticizing.
no, there tends to be hugely underreported abuse, suicide & murder in many of those societies.

in pakistan one of the most common official cause of death for women is "death by stove".
that's what they call it when a guy burns his wife to death & blames it on a cooking accident.
why? because arranged marriages are hard to leave.
if they try to leave, their family is ashamed and often dissowns.

oh, it CAN work for some. it DOES work for some.
but to say that most women are happier is nonsense.
 

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he actually thinks he's doing what he believes in his heart to be best for his daughter.the guy has an assload of pride.i have a daughter and im very picky...TO THE EXTREME!its called pride folks.your kids are a reflection of you.if they date scum then you are looked upon as......:eek:
 

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I've always believed in that crazy notion of raising your kids to have decent values and education so you don't have to act like an overlord when it comes time for them to select a mate. I also think that it's a little arrogant to think that if your kid turns out "just like you" then they'll be alright in life. I personally would rather see my kids NOT be "just like me" but to be a major improvement on me. Take the good parts that they like from my personality and livestyle and build on it with their own character and flavor.
 

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I've always believed in that crazy notion of raising your kids to have decent values and education so you don't have to act like an overlord when it comes time for them to select a mate. I also think that it's a little arrogant to think that if your kid turns out "just like you" then they'll be alright in life. I personally would rather see my kids NOT be "just like me" but to be a major improvement on me. Take the good parts that they like from my personality and livestyle and build on it with their own character and flavor.
i don't want them to be like me!

i think only the insecure need to create little cones for personal validation.
 

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It sounds very creepy and incestuous. I hope its fake. Crazy ppl.

The God Delusion is a good book to read regarding religion.

Its okay to have pride and be wary/cautious of guys IRL but what the fuck is he doing posting an ad on the TINTERNET, probably without her knowledge. Sounds like he's forcing HIS beliefs/wants/needs on his daughter. Does she want a military man? Strictly caucasian? And all that other crap? Probably not. The whole thing is very weird.
 

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It sounds very creepy and incestuous. I hope its fake. Crazy ppl.

The God Delusion is a good book to read regarding religion.

Its okay to have pride and be wary/cautious of guys IRL but what the fuck is he doing posting an ad on the TINTERNET, probably without her knowledge. Sounds like he's forcing HIS beliefs/wants/needs on his daughter. Does she want a military man? Strictly caucasian? And all that other crap? Probably not. The whole thing is very weird.
yup, she's not dating but he thinks it's time she did :rolleyes:
 

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damn... Why doesn't his daughter post on there? I'm looking for a fishing and hunting girlfriend. hey WhatIreallywant, you like to fish and hunt? I never thought to ask you that lol.
 

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So, interpersonal relationships now are subject to Affirmative Action? And anyone who doesn't think so is fair game for lectures from sanctimonious asshats?

No, I don't think so.

This is the step Dad, not the daughter. For him to require that his daughter only dates a caucasian if that is not one of her requirements makes him a racist.
 

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This is the step Dad, not the daughter. For him to require that his daughter only dates a caucasian if that is not one of her requirements makes him a racist.

Thank you. That is what I said but bd just wanted something into which to rub my nose.
 

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They are all practices that are condoned under the umbrella of religious/cultural rights, and arranged marriages often work because of the stigma of divorce in those instances. They're free to reject a partner but they don't because that would bring shame on the rejectee and on their family. And don't advise me on what to say, when I need advice from someone who's consistently been hostile I'll give up using the net.

I wouldn't say I've been "hostile" but rather controversially assertive. :biggrin1:
 

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He probably doesn't even realize he's being racist or sexist. He probably works on commercial lawnmowers all day and sits in front of his house next to Bobby Jim Bob and "Bubba" drinking Coors and talking aobut the good ol' days like he has been for the past forty something years. The step dad is from a society where "that's just the way we do things" is an acceptable answer and they don't really think about the ramifications their staid way of life has on people who didn't grow up in a time of segragation and outright prejudice.

I'm not really sympathizing with the guy because he doesn't really have a right in 2007 to choose who his daughter should love, but I'm just making an observation.
 

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More than likely he is a picture collector and the descriptives fit the type of men he is looking for. All the rest is made up. He is insisting it's for a beautiful female so he can get to the straight guys.
 

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damn... Why doesn't his daughter post on there? I'm looking for a fishing and hunting girlfriend. hey WhatIreallywant, you like to fish and hunt? I never thought to ask you that lol.

I thought of that too - if the daughter wanted to post on there, SHE would post... Stepdad doesn't need to post for her. And I'm still fuming over that "She has an unusual amount of common sense for a woman" comment. :mad:

Never been hunting and not sure I'd like it, but fishing, sure!
 

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He probably doesn't even realize he's being racist or sexist. He probably works on commercial lawnmowers all day and sits in front of his house next to Bobby Jim Bob and "Bubba" drinking Coors and talking aobut the good ol' days like he has been for the past forty something years. The step dad is from a society where "that's just the way we do things" is an acceptable answer and they don't really think about the ramifications their staid way of life has on people who didn't grow up in a time of segragation and outright prejudice.

I'm not really sympathizing with the guy because he doesn't really have a right in 2007 to choose who his daughter should love, but I'm just making an observation.

Most people who are racist do not realize that they are because to them it's the status quo. Plus most of them base their self esteem on this aspect of their belief system. So to loose this part of their belief system would cause them to re-evaluate the basis of their self-esteem.
 

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no you were right on.
he is sexist,racist,and a bit TOO patriotic for my taste.
he was totally pimping his daughter.
i would hate to imagine the girls mindset.
gutting a deer is a very eerie experience.
i could not date a deer gutter.:rolleyes: