Me and my boyfriend have been together for over 5 years. Our sex life in the beginning was great. Not all the time but he made sure i finished. Then over time it changed and things got stale. I suggested toys and porn and thigs seemed to pick back up but it was short lived. No matter what I tried he didnt seem interested in me..
When i have brought this up he tells me that im wanting too much and that it cant be planned just has to happen naturally.
We used to sext alot and i thought we both rushed home to have sex but I'm realising now i probably rushed and he didnt. In the end he used to say it could wait till another day.
The kissing has become less and if i hug him im told to get off and that im annoying.
A few times now iv sent him tons of porn and got him horny enough to touch me in a dark room but anything past that is a no go.
I see him get slightly hard over other guys and that doesn't bother me as i do the same when seeing hot guys online or whatever, but he says that hes not the slightest bit interested in sex and that even the thought of it makes him feel like shit.
My question is if he still gets hard and watches porn and jerks off but wont even look at me am i the problem?. I know hes depressed atm but if i touch his dick it doesn't get even slightly hard no matter how hard i try and im made to feel like a pest but he gets hard easily over other guys
Is this normal for 5 years in ?
He wont even joke with me about sex so i cant even try to bring it up without being told to be quiet yet I know porn is a big deal to him.
We have both put on alot of weight so i get its different now and i know im not the same body i used to be ans i wish i could change that overnight but i cant.
What do you guys suggest?
He seems to think that im talking to other men but i would never i am loyal always.
Really hurts me deep to.not.be enough
When i have brought this up he tells me that im wanting too much and that it cant be planned just has to happen naturally.
We used to sext alot and i thought we both rushed home to have sex but I'm realising now i probably rushed and he didnt. In the end he used to say it could wait till another day.
The kissing has become less and if i hug him im told to get off and that im annoying.
A few times now iv sent him tons of porn and got him horny enough to touch me in a dark room but anything past that is a no go.
I see him get slightly hard over other guys and that doesn't bother me as i do the same when seeing hot guys online or whatever, but he says that hes not the slightest bit interested in sex and that even the thought of it makes him feel like shit.
My question is if he still gets hard and watches porn and jerks off but wont even look at me am i the problem?. I know hes depressed atm but if i touch his dick it doesn't get even slightly hard no matter how hard i try and im made to feel like a pest but he gets hard easily over other guys
Is this normal for 5 years in ?
He wont even joke with me about sex so i cant even try to bring it up without being told to be quiet yet I know porn is a big deal to him.
We have both put on alot of weight so i get its different now and i know im not the same body i used to be ans i wish i could change that overnight but i cant.
What do you guys suggest?
He seems to think that im talking to other men but i would never i am loyal always.
Really hurts me deep to.not.be enough