Wedding Night

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  1. kevlo

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    I am getting married (we both are 24) this May and am curious as to what other couples did on their wedding night as far as contraceptives. My fiance is currently on the pill and when we have sex now, we are using condoms. I really want to blow inside but my fiance is not fond of it yet.
     
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    My best friend just got married yesterday and I'm pretty sure she was a virgin until last night... but I haven't asked her if she's on birth control or if they were going to use condoms or what... it's really none of my business and I do not feel comfortable asking her. If she mentions anything I'll let you know... but she keeps most things like that very private, so I imagine she'll never tell me. lol

    Congratulations, by the way, on your upcoming marriage!!
     
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    Yet? Uhm, ask her what the problem is with you not using a condom? Does she fear an unwanted and untimely pregnancy? Or is it the mess factor.

    If you don't want kids right away Mirena is supposed to be a good option and she doesn't have to worry about taking a pill every day.
    I prefer au naturale in an exclusive, committed relationship.

    I'm a bit concerned that you are engaged and presumably exclusive and you haven't had sex au naturale yet. That just seems odd to me. :confused: Maybe it's a generational thing?
     
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    seems odd to me to that she is on the pill and still needing to use condoms?
     
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    My wife went on the pill shortly before we got married. We'd been using condoms up until then. No condom on the wedding night! We both prefer nothing in between us.
     
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    Yeah, the wedding night thing (providing you both don't pass out from exhaustion first), I think should be, most romantically, with nothing between you. That means consummation to me. There are diaphragms, sponges, the female condom, IUDs, and male condoms.
     
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    Thanks everyone for their replies as I really appreciate it! We have never went without a condom for fear of a pregnancy out of wedlock. Our parents are very strict and we dont want to cause any problems. I do believe that the wedding night should be without any barriers for consumation of the marriage. We do not go without condoms also because she is at risk of a high risk pregnancy due to rheumatoid (not sure about spelling) arthritis. She currently takes Methotrexate and Enbrel.
     
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    I am curious. If you say your parents are strict doesnt that mean that they expected the two of you to not engage in penetrative sex at all until your wedding night? If so you have already done the do. The condom simply hid the evidence as is the case for those from generations prior who engaged in anal sex so that they could technically be said to have abstained until marriage. Your marriage has ALREADY been consumated.
     
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    I'm :rofl: at the notion of grown adults giving a shit what their parents might think about what constitutes appropriate sexual behavior for them. Seriously, millenials crack me up.
     
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    My wife was on birth control when I met her. we used condoms for several months because at first we werent exclusive, but once we were exclusive, there was no risk of STDs because we were both clean so the only risk was pregnancy which was adequately controlled by the pill so we were going bare for quite some time before we actually got married. now that we have a family, we dont use anything. if we dont want another kid now, i just cum on her. if she gets pregnant anyways, its no big deal, we already have a family. when we decide we dont want any more kids at all, we will do something else, but till then, we just have fun and she gets plastered
     
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    Sounds as though your girlfriend is Irish, using two forms of contraception, To be sure To be sure
     
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    My wife and I only used the pill for a dozen years and sex thousands of times, with two children, both planned. I think you can ditch the condoms on your wedding night, if not before. Natural sex feels much different and better for men and women (women feel enjoyment from the sensation of skin against skin too). Natural sex is also more intimate, and there's something about coming inside that's hard to quantify.

    Taken same time each day, the pill is extremely reliable.

    I had a vasectomy more than 10 years ago, but until then it was the pill and nothing else.
     
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    Once again thank you for your replies as I greatly appreciate them. Also thanks to each of you who take this seriously and not try to pick it apart.

    When I say our parents are strict it is meant as in pregnant before married. They do not believe that is something that should ever happen. When we first started having sex, we both agreed that even though she is on the pill, we would still use condoms. I was just wondering when do you ditch the condoms?
     
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    I would have ditched them already but, but that's just me. :tongue: For you, I would say anytime between now and the wedding is a good time to ditch the condoms.
     
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    I understand what you are saying about using more than one form of birth control before getting married. I was put on the birth control pill at age 18 to regulate my period.

    I also know the fear of getting pregnant was so taboo I think I was doing 3 forms of birth control before I was in a committed relationship. And I do have friends who got pregnant on the pill.

    Do you and your future wife ever intend to have children? If not, the easiest solution would be for you to get a vasectomy.
     
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    I forgot to answer the question. On my wedding night (I was still on the pill) and we didn't use a condom.
     
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    the wife was on the pill before we were married, and we never used condoms until after our 2nd child was born. so we went from 1976, (married in 78), to 1987 without using condoms. she always used the pill up til then, except when we were trying to have kids. and we never had problem with fertilization. the first month off the pill, I got her pregnant. this was the case with the first 2 boys. I remember the first attempt at son #1. we wanted a boy first, and we read some stuff about the Jewish book Talmud, and used some of that info. she finished her period and then we waited for about 2 weeks for the peak of ovulation. I did not have any sex of any kind during this time. my balls were hanging and full when we had sex, and I blew a big load. in feb 88, we had a "sex olympics" nite, and I split a couple Magnums, 3rd son got his start that night.
     
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    On our wedding night, she used a diaphragm, with spermicidal jelly. I always had a condom handy, in case she was too drunk to insert the diaphragm properly. We didn't want kids right away, and the pill did crazy things to her body chemistry.
     
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    On our wedding night, she used a diaphragm, with spermicidal jelly. I always had a condom handy, in case she was too drunk to insert the diaphragm properly. We didn't want kids right away, and the pill did crazy things to her body chemistry.
     
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    Learn her cycle and when the "safer days" are so you can drop the condom once and a while as 2nd level of protection. We used to do that too. Talk to her about it. It's nice to be able have that feeling of letting go inside her even if it's only a few times a month.

    Congratulations too!
     
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