I've talked to two of my male friends about this over the past couple days, and it's got me wondering what the rest of you think. This question is definitely for both men and women. Anyone who wants to answer. For starters, what type of body are you most physically attracted to? Or do you have a "type"? Are you one of those people that has a specific body you like, or are you more open-minded when it comes to that? Also... do you have a limit to how big or small someone should be before you'd consider dating them? And finally... if you met someone that you were attracted to and got into a long-term committed relationship and then their body changed to the point that you weren't attracted to them anymore, what would you do about it? Would you say anything, keep quiet? Break up with them? Try to help them?
I guess since I'm starting the thread, I should give you my own thoughts and opinions on the subject. I have always found myself more drawn and attracted to bigger guys. That can mean anywhere from tall/broad without necessarily being fat or overweight... or to being simply fat and overweight. :tongue: I have my own theories on why this is, main one being that I'm not a small girl and I want to feel safe and feminine and attractive when with my guy. I don't feel like any of those things when I'm around guys that are skinny and narrow-bodied.
I do have a limit on how big or small a guy I'd date would have to be. Altho it's a pretty broad range. I won't do super skinny beanpole-type guys. And on the other end of the spectrum, I wouldn't be able to date a guy that was too fat for certain things. Namely hygiene and sex. I have a personal friend that is a very large guy. (I'm talkin like, 6'0, 500+lbs.) I love him to death, and he's a super good person, but he's so overweight that he has a tendency to smell almost all the time. It's not a horrendous smell, but it's not pleasant either. And I'm pretty sure that comes from him being so big he simply can't reach all the parts of his body that need to be bathed/scrubbed. I would have issue with dating a guy like that. The other thing is sex. If a guy were so big that his penis couldn't be of any use, I'd take issue with that too. I feel like a horrible person saying that, so let me explain a bit. Sex isn't the most important thing in a relationship. I can think of a million things that mean more to me. BUT... I do enjoy sex with someone I love, and it's a part of the relationship I enjoy partaking in as often as I can. :smile:
Finally, if a guy I were with gained so much weight that we encountered the previous issues, or if he lost so much weight he was considered a beanpole, I most likely wouldn't leave. If he gained weight, I'd do my best to help him lose it again, for his health if nothing else. If he lost so much weight he was a beanpole, I'd ask him to teach me how he did it. :tongue: Skinny isn't my favorite body type, but if I were in love with a guy, I wouldn't let it get in the way.
So anyway. This post ended up being way longer than I had originally intended. :tongue: So tell me what you think!
I guess since I'm starting the thread, I should give you my own thoughts and opinions on the subject. I have always found myself more drawn and attracted to bigger guys. That can mean anywhere from tall/broad without necessarily being fat or overweight... or to being simply fat and overweight. :tongue: I have my own theories on why this is, main one being that I'm not a small girl and I want to feel safe and feminine and attractive when with my guy. I don't feel like any of those things when I'm around guys that are skinny and narrow-bodied.
I do have a limit on how big or small a guy I'd date would have to be. Altho it's a pretty broad range. I won't do super skinny beanpole-type guys. And on the other end of the spectrum, I wouldn't be able to date a guy that was too fat for certain things. Namely hygiene and sex. I have a personal friend that is a very large guy. (I'm talkin like, 6'0, 500+lbs.) I love him to death, and he's a super good person, but he's so overweight that he has a tendency to smell almost all the time. It's not a horrendous smell, but it's not pleasant either. And I'm pretty sure that comes from him being so big he simply can't reach all the parts of his body that need to be bathed/scrubbed. I would have issue with dating a guy like that. The other thing is sex. If a guy were so big that his penis couldn't be of any use, I'd take issue with that too. I feel like a horrible person saying that, so let me explain a bit. Sex isn't the most important thing in a relationship. I can think of a million things that mean more to me. BUT... I do enjoy sex with someone I love, and it's a part of the relationship I enjoy partaking in as often as I can. :smile:
Finally, if a guy I were with gained so much weight that we encountered the previous issues, or if he lost so much weight he was considered a beanpole, I most likely wouldn't leave. If he gained weight, I'd do my best to help him lose it again, for his health if nothing else. If he lost so much weight he was a beanpole, I'd ask him to teach me how he did it. :tongue: Skinny isn't my favorite body type, but if I were in love with a guy, I wouldn't let it get in the way.
So anyway. This post ended up being way longer than I had originally intended. :tongue: So tell me what you think!