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Has anyone had bariatric surgery? If yes:

1) What specific procedure did you have?
2) In what city and country was the procedure performed?
3) What was the approximate cost and did medical insurance pay for it?
4) How much weight have you lost?
5) Do you have any regrets?
6) Any other advice related to the surgery?
 

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My sister had her stomach stapled about five years ago.
She lost a bit of weight initially, but I think has gone back up to her pre-surgery weight.
It's not a panacea.
 

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Thanks :) Seriously, though... I know it seems like the only way you'll ever be able to get the weight off. I promise you, if I can do it, anybody can. Feel free to ask anything. I'm always happy to talk and help in any way I can.
 

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Hun I had gastric by pass. RNY. The best thing i ever done!!! I was over 300lbs now I am 135 and looking great...look at my pic's!!! Have any questions..look me up at ladydn287 on yahoo.com
 

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I have a friend who had gastric bypass. He lost a ton of weight but he missed being able to really "eat" food. Going out to eat with him was kind of a joke. He'd eat about 5 or 6 bites of his meal and be full. I felt bad for him. :/

Having said that, I need to lose weight very badly and have contemplated surgery. I am CONVINCED that I can do it on my own, I just have no idea where to start. The fact that I can't afford to eat healthily and the fact that I live with people that DON'T eat healthy are certainly stunting my efforts, however. Goal #1- move out. That will open up all kinds of opportunities for myself.
 

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I know a guy who is dating a guy who is at least 130 pounds overweight. He has tried to diet, but won't stick to it. I think he has diabetes and other medical problems related to it to. I told the guy to tell his boyfriend that he should consider the lap band surgery because it is less invasive than a bypass. He said it's a good idea but he doesn't know how to bring it up to him.
 

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Try everything in your power first to lose weight. Excercise, change of what you eat, change the portion size.

Surgery can work great but it doesn't matter if the person doesn't change their habits.

Example is Carnie Wilson: Carnie Wilson Opens Up About Her Gastric Bypass Surgery - Starpulse.com

who had a second bypass surgery and she is not alone.
 

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SethMan, you don't live very far from me. :) I'm in Kansas City. I'm with you, I envy people that don't have weight problems either. My brother has always had a high metabolism and could eat ANYTHING and not gain a pound. He was 6'0 and 160lbs until he was ~38, and he's just now starting to have very minor weight problems. He weights nearly 200 lbs and keeps complaining about how fat he is. Makes me want to smack him. Lol.
 

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It's true... These surgeries wont do you any good if you don't have the self control to stick to your diets and portions... Beyond that, I knew a man who had one done and didn't take all of the meds he was supposed to and ended up dying. Bottom line is, nothing is going to work until you want it badly enough to control your intake. Believe me... even if you had to cut your calorie intake in HALF... that's still going to be a helluva lot easier to manage than only eating a couple tablespoons of food at a time. This stuff all starts inside, though. You have to get your head right and figure out what's wrong inside before anything will work. Losing weight is like taking pain meds for a broken bone. Short term results and it will not heal the problem. When you fix the core problems, weight loss becomes a side effect.
 

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Snarky - VERY true and very well said. I think any successful weight-loss program has to have counseling involved to change bad behaviors (while teaching new eating habits) or any weight loss will be short term.

Intoxicating -- We're practically neighbors! At the grocery store today, I overheard a 20-something girl complaining to her friend that "No matter how much I eat, I can never seem to gain any weight!" Seriously bitch???! That's like complaining you have too much money!
 

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Intoxicating -- We're practically neighbors! At the grocery store today, I overheard a 20-something girl complaining to her friend that "No matter how much I eat, I can never seem to gain any weight!" Seriously bitch???! That's like complaining you have too much money!

Haha! I'd have been like, "Want some of mine?"
 

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That's not true, either. They actually have it harder than we do... and think about how insensitive people are to that. No one ever looks at us and openly says "Jesus Christ! Look at you! Quit putting so much fucking food in your face!". How many times have you heard someone say to a skinny person "Good God you're skinny! You need to eat!". People are horrible to skinny folks. Skinny men are made to feel less than a man because they're often weaker and seen as less masculine. Skinny women are told that "real women have curves". People have absolutely no hesitation about showing their absolute disgust at super skinny bodies, nor do they hesitate to accuse someone of an eating disorder. Over eating is a disorder, too... but it's unacceptable to point that out to anybody. Just be conscious that the struggle goes both ways.
 

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I'm one of those slender people but have had a good bit of experience with other people's bariatric surgery. My take is that surgery is an effective tool but no substitute for determination. The surgery can be defeated both by eating/drinking calorie dense items and deliberately eating large volumes that stretches the remaining stomach. I've known of people who put pizza in the blender and drank it on a regular basis and complained they were't losing weight!
Several women I have known who has surgery and successfuolly lost the weight and kept it off have said the social adjustment is even more challenging than changing eating habits. They have found many of ther women "friends" to be furious with them for losing weight and being competition and no longer being the "fat friend." If they were overweight since childhood, the new attention from men is disconcerting. Some have commented on gaining insight into how many relationship compromises they made, once they reach normal weight. It seems to me that becoming unfat is a huge status change in this culture and some will resent the fat person not staying in their lower status. Finding new friends really helped.
All the people I know for whom surgery was successful were in ongoing, open-ended therapy before and long after the surgery.
Dave
 

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The problem is that if a person is morbidly obese they have large stomachs and need more food to feel full. Surgery can correct that and make them feel full with less food. If they choose to drink, or blend all their calories back all they are doing is sabotaging themselves and they should not have gotten the surgery in the first place.
 

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Agreed. However, things that seem like easy fixes tend to be attractive. I'll add that people can be very attached to social roles, even those that bring them much unhappiness. An example might be the defiant teen who could make accomodations to his or her parents but instead constantly "forces" his/her parents to place him/her on restriction. Some overweight people find the social changes of losing weight to be very challenging and, while initially quite motivated, may decide it's easier to be overweight than to lose one's friends, spouse, etc...
 
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