weight related male attention.

[MickeyLee]

hmm i am thinking the image women are fed is a very vulnerable woman. and men are told to be attracted to the same weakness. sorry, but feminine is not defined by weakness. least not to me.

the proportions of the face are childlike. the body is fragile. and immature. hips are slimmed to nothing. in porn breasts are exaggerated to cartoon proportions. fashion is restricting and enhancing. the shoes alter a natural gait to a shortened hobble. *makes it harder to run away

a being acted upon. not a being of action.

but.... is not that the attention is more.. is just attention from a different class of men.

in my natural gangly dork girl form i get indie boys, bookish dudes, hang out dudes, and older men.. the wonderful learned ones. *sigh*

model skinny ML seems to attract the asshole. i'm a trophy not a person. is creepy.

 

[bananaclubcock]

Dolfette specified in the OP that is was when she was clinically Underweight she got this reaction.

Ok. I was just suggesting that it is hard to really nail down health as purely determined by the numbers, but perhaps she was just creating an image.

 

[dolfette]

I'd have to believe it is because girls that are thin are in more demand than girls of any other weight class. They are much more rare to find. Average and overweight girls are everywhere, thin girls not so much.

And as bananaclubcock stated, I don't automatically think or assume girls who are on the lower end of the bmi scale are unhealthy. Aren't basically all Victoria's Secret models on the low end of the BMI scale? They look fine to me.

nope, like i said before, i was very obviously not healthy.

Back to the subject. Dolfie, you are always to the point and never one to shy away from a position. Does that change when you feel you a emaciated? Do you draw into yourself, making it seem you are vulnerable. I s there some point where you lose the confidence you seem to have in print?

nope, my angst isn't over my weight. my angst is with food. sometimes i just can't bring myself to eat. it tends to snowball... the less i eat, the harder it is to eat.
but my body image is fine.

model skinny ML seems to attract the asshole. i'm a trophy not a person. is creepy.

truth.

 

[MickeyLee]

nope, my angst isn't over my weight. my angst is with food. sometimes i just can't bring myself to eat. it tends to snowball... the less i eat, the harder it is to eat.
but my body image is fine.

hello recognition.
things like ensure are a life saver sometimes.

 

[dolfette]

hello recognition.
things like ensure are a life saver sometimes.

ha! you do that too?

 

[MickeyLee]

is sometimes texture of food. all food. i hate it.
or i the thought of chewing..and spit.. and food bits.
*shudder*

or sometimes i just don't want to eat.
just "meh, food"
and being hungry kinda feels good

end sidetrack

 

[bananaclubcock]

na, i was dangerously underweight.
ribs showing and passing out.
i looked ill.
i was anorexic.

i'm slim now. healthily slim.

Ok. I didn't get that this was at least as much your judgement as that of the NHS/WHO/etc. With that in mind, I'd echo what Mickey Lee said, but not necessarily regarding fighting. I'm amazed at the emotional states that are appealing to others, perhaps you were giving off a particular vibe? In other words, your thinness per se wasn't the primary driver of this attention?

 

[dolfette]

mclee, we're craziness twins

 

[dolfette]

Ok. I didn't get that this was at least as much your judgement as that of the NHS/WHO/etc. With that in mind, I'd echo what Mickey Lee said, but not necessarily regarding fighting. I'm amazed at the emotional states that are appealing to others, perhaps you were giving off a particular vibe? In other words, your thinness per se wasn't the primary driver of this attention?

my weight goes up & down a lot.
between almost dead and healthy.
i don't think it changes my vibe especially.

 

[hsarge]

Dolfie, your problem with food. Does it relate to taste or just a mental dislike. I was Ill once and my taste just went. Any food tasted liked cardboard and I just couldn't eat. Lost 27 pounds on a 165 frame. Finally got a pill that gave me an hour window where I could eat. Used it twice a day until the ilness passed and I was able to eat normally.

 

[dolfette]

Dolfie, your problem with food. Does it relate to taste or just a mental dislike. I was Ill once and my taste just went. Any food tasted liked cardboard and I just couldn't eat. Lost 27 pounds on a 165 frame. Finally got a pill that gave me an hour window where I could eat. Used it twice a day until the ilness passed and I was able to eat normally.

na, i'm more pavlov's dog.
shitty parents, shitty food, stressful meals.
food = stress
i still prefer to eat alone in the privacy of my bedroom.

 

[Pendlum]

In the same vein as Mickey, being with a more petite woman makes you seem more masculine. And as it has been mentioned it's what we are 'supposed' to like according to the media etc.

I'd like to believe that the reason you get more passes when you are underweight is because those foolish or stupid enough to fall into the media/society trap are the ones who are always on the prowl, trying to be players and what not. And the hopefully majority of us are just not there to hit on you when you are a healthy weight. That's me being optimistic though, and I could just be wrong and I am in the minority.

 

[dolfette]

could be that the healthier mindsets who are attracted to healthier bodies are just less likely to hit on strangers.

 

[hsarge]

Wow,and I thought my regimented upbringing had caused me some hang ups. Sincerely, good luck with the struggle.

 

[Pendlum]

I have a very difficult time hitting on strangers I find attractive.

 

[nicenycdick]

hmm i am thinking the image women are fed is a very vulnerable woman. and men are told to be attracted to the same weakness. sorry, but feminine is not defined by weakness. least not to me.

the proportions of the face are childlike. the body is fragile. and immature. hips are slimmed to nothing. breasts are exaggerated to cartoon proportions. fashion is restricting and enhancing. the shoes alter a natural gait to a shortened hobble. *makes it harder to run away

a being acted upon. not a being of action.

but.... is not that the attention is more.. is just attention from a different class of men.

in my natural gangly dork girl form i get indie boys, bookish dudes, hang out dudes, and older men.. the wonderful learned ones. *sigh*

model skinny ML seems to attract the asshole. i'm a trophy not a person. is creepy.

That seems to answer the question for me. The jerks are more likely to want a weak, helpless woman...makes them feel more like a man, I guess. I would think that a confident man would prefer a healthy, able and self-possessed woman. There are guys out there who can only get or only want a woman they can bully or overpower. If they find one, they pounce.

 

[KTF40]

nope, like i said before, i was very obviously not healthy.

What are you saying "nope" towards in my post?

 

[meandus0529]

I prefer women who are the true American size. There is nothing better than looking at a voluptuous woman.

 

[MickeyLee]

how did you get a huge avatar??

i want one!


avatar jelqing *giggle*

 

[ManofThunder]

how did you get a huge avatar??

i want one!


avatar jelqing *giggle*

It's so big, it causes lag. :tongue: