Well-endowed long term married guys and cheating?

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I have copied MTWTFSS.

His statement prettily much describes the way guys think. "guys, from my little-but-growing-experience love to fuck way more than women... and like to talk about." Correct and accurate to the point.

Just let me add my experience, from a different point of view. I am single and intend to stay so. For the last 8 months or so, I m seeing this married guy who has a daughter. He is trying to get his wife pregnant again. However, he confessed that sex between the two of them is not that Interesting....
But when we are together, he is so relaxed and loves to worship my cock. After we fuck, he likes to text me a ton of messages and says how great i was and how much he likes being with me etc
And to be honest it is quite rewarding and gives me a confidence boost
However besides sex, i really enjoy his company and his sense of humor and we make each other laugh etc etc...

He doesn't act this way with his wife, he told me so.

To me it is absolutely normal for a man to seek what his marriage cannot provide....

I don't interfere with his marriage Can u imagine I don't even have his phone number.
I can't cause any problem to his marriage, I don't intend to.

But I do encourage him to spend time with me, whenever he can and certainly only if it doesn't cause any harm to his marriage.
How do you not have his number, yet you said he texts you after sex?
 
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How do you not have his number, yet you said he texts you after sex?
Yep u are right, my mistake.
Correction:
He emails me.
We only contact each other via emails.
No apps, or phone calls, or sms messages, just emails.

I just used the wrong term for the way we stay in touch, probably because we do everything on our phone and used the wrong term.

Exactly like last night, after we did our business, both of us went back home and he sent me again couple of emails, but like the log I am, I was snoring and didn't reply.... sorry....
 

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I had in mind asking this of guys married to a woman like myself, but maybe it could be the same for a gay man. When I first was married my wife enjoyed that I had a large penis even on occasion had a nick-name for it like "King Snake" or others where she had some focus about it. It was ego boosting and fun to hear that or things like I was way larger than anyone she had been with or other comments aimed about my superior cock. But, over the years besides sex becoming infrequent and mundane, she now could care less about my size or penis size in general. That has led me to cheating with meeting others because as I saw a comment from someone else one time, "I have a big cock and want to use it!" I know the moral thing is to feel guilty. But, I don't as I enjoy the reactions and comments I get from women or couples experiencing a large penis (especially with those who hadn't before).

I am interested if other married well-endowed men have similar reactions where this feature we are blessed to have is not satisfied because a long term partner is use to it or no longer appreciative about it? Thoughts?
Trulybig,

Your story partially rings true for me. My wife's sex drive has been on the decline for 20+ years. She just really isn't that interested. I don't think she has ever complimented me, that I turn her on, or that she likes my cock in any way. She has only initiated sex a couple times in the last decade. I'm an attentive lover, well groomed, clean, work, thoughtful, do more than my share of housework, I'm no romeo or hunk but take care of myself, etc. in other words I'm no ogre.

So yeah, I've had a similar thought, "there are women and couples that would enjoy sex with me, that would be nice." I finally posted some pictures to LPSG just to see what people thought and have been pleasantly surprised by the reaction. , I asked the wife about getting a fuck buddy which she didn't agree with, but wasn't mad about. I've thought about cheating but haven't. I considered finding a guy who wanted to provide regular service. But what I really want is a woman who is enthusiastic about having sex with me...who appreciates what I have to offer...
 

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You are echoing my experience (although you look to have a bigger dick). Early in our relationship she was obsessed by my 'fat cock'. Sex was almost constant, and adventurous, even after kids came along. But as she approached her 50s sex because increasingly infrequent. I would never consider an affair, but from then until COVID lockdowns effected things, I would visit brothels, or have one night hook ups when working away. To be honest though, now I've not cheated on her for over 3 years, I am feeling relief that our marriage is no longer threatened by her finding out.
 

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Here is a point of view, which some of you may not have considered.

I have been in a sexless marriage for 10 years now. My wife lost her sex drive with the onset of menopause, and, has done nothing about it. My sex drive has always been much stronger than hers; I addressed that with masturbation - a lot of it.

I was not going to accept this new normal; instead, I made my own.

I started going to bath houses and gay bars for quick sex while travelling for work. This led to other exploring gay sex further. I can say that I have gay sex exclusively now, and, would not want to have sex with my wife any longer, even if she suddenly turned into a nymphomaniac.

Why do I not seek a divorce?

We have 3 sons. They are not yet fully independent. We owe them as stable a home life, as we can give them. We are doing that. Our sex life has become "don't ask - don't tell".

I am quite happy to get it on the side.

You can judge me, if you like. Please remember, you have not walked a mile in my shoes. Wait until you have done so, before judging.
 

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If anything, perhaps your situation will shed some light on the fact that having a big dick really doesn't make or break a relationship. It's a perk and not a necessity.

My wife, to this day, has not shown any slow-down towards my penis yet. I will also add that it has probably more to do with me as a person and how I continue to keep our relationship interesting and fun. She's never "bored" is what I'm trying to say. Anyone can and will get bored of a big dick eventually if your big dick is just "big" and nothing else.

As for cheating, I don't condone it and I also understand. It's your life and you do what you want as when the consequences show up, it's you that have to suffer them, not any of us strangers on the internet.

I've never cheated on my wife since we have always had an open relationship. I still get the "big dick reactions" however it's not as big a deal anymore as it was when I was younger. Just like your wife got bored of your big dick, I think I've become bored of the reactions because it's always the same so now I'm indifferent.

If it works for you, roll with it. :)
Reading your comment amongst the pool of others condoning cheating was very refreshing! Thank you for your perspective!
 

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I'm in a similar situation to some of the above: we have both been slowing down a bit as we age. My wife used to compliment my size (mostly my length) all the time, and now rarely does. So I get that fulfillment here, online. LPSG is a pretty good substitute for that!

As for cheating: I wouldn't consider it. I'm entirely str8 so having a guy as a play partner is not of interest. Another woman would feel like a betrayal. And honestly it's not so much that I'm worried she would find out, since I feel confident she wouldn't leave me, but that even the act of cheating would betray my moral code, and I'd feel worse about myself. It's the kind of standard I hold myself to in other areas of life.

So I'm willing to live with the decline in sex and enjoy what compliments I can get here -- the "support" in LPSG means a lot to me!
 

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I'm in a similar situation to some of the above: we have both been slowing down a bit as we age. My wife used to compliment my size (mostly my length) all the time, and now rarely does. So I get that fulfillment here, online. LPSG is a pretty good substitute for that!

As for cheating: I wouldn't consider it. I'm entirely str8 so having a guy as a play partner is not of interest. Another woman would feel like a betrayal. And honestly it's not so much that I'm worried she would find out, since I feel confident she wouldn't leave me, but that even the act of cheating would betray my moral code, and I'd feel worse about myself. It's the kind of standard I hold myself to in other areas of life.

So I'm willing to live with the decline in sex and enjoy what compliments I can get here -- the "support" in LPSG means a lot to me!
THIS THIS THIS! A strong sense of internal morality is probably one of the only things I find as sexy as a thick, meaty cock!
 
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I'm in a similar situation to some of the above: we have both been slowing down a bit as we age. My wife used to compliment my size (mostly my length) all the time, and now rarely does. So I get that fulfillment here, online. LPSG is a pretty good substitute for that!

As for cheating: I wouldn't consider it. I'm entirely str8 so having a guy as a play partner is not of interest. Another woman would feel like a betrayal. And honestly it's not so much that I'm worried she would find out, since I feel confident she wouldn't leave me, but that even the act of cheating would betray my moral code, and I'd feel worse about myself. It's the kind of standard I hold myself to in other areas of life.

So I'm willing to live with the decline in sex and enjoy what compliments I can get here -- the "support" in LPSG means a lot to me!
Achieving satisfaction from online engagement of a sexual nature outside of marriage unbeknownst to the spouse can be seen as cheating by the spouse. Cheating vs not cheating is more complex that just the activity engaged in, it is about the honesty with which the activity is undertaken. If online sexual activity is kept hidden a spouse will likely feel betrayed, if not cheated on, if the activity is fully disclosed they likely won't.

edit: Not judging, I'm in no place to judge. It is something I think about...if my wife doesn't know and in general would be unhappy about it and I engage (online) in a sexual exchange would she feel betrayed? yes, would she consider it cheating...maybe.
 
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Achieving satisfaction from online engagement of a sexual nature outside of marriage unbeknownst to the spouse can be seen as cheating by the spouse. Cheating vs not cheating is more complex that just the activity engaged in, it is about the honesty with which the activity is undertaken. If online sexual activity is kept hidden a spouse will likely feel betrayed, if not cheated on, if the activity is fully disclosed they likely won't.

edit: Not judging, I'm in no place to judge. It is something I think about...if my wife doesn't know and in general would be unhappy about it and I engage (online) in a sexual exchange would she feel betrayed? yes, would she consider it cheating...maybe.
I agree entirely, and do feel that being on LPSG surreptitiously is morally questionable. But we do allow a certain amount of private solo play so don't feel this is a big violation (she has some activity that she doesn't tell me about too). And I'm not looking for some kind of emotional affair here, nor a way to find hookups. So I think this, for me, is definitely not cheating and probably not betrayal territory.
 

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Here is a point of view, which some of you may not have considered.

I have been in a sexless marriage for 10 years now. My wife lost her sex drive with the onset of menopause, and, has done nothing about it. My sex drive has always been much stronger than hers; I addressed that with masturbation - a lot of it.

I was not going to accept this new normal; instead, I made my own.

I started going to bath houses and gay bars for quick sex while travelling for work. This led to other exploring gay sex further. I can say that I have gay sex exclusively now, and, would not want to have sex with my wife any longer, even if she suddenly turned into a nymphomaniac.

Why do I not seek a divorce?

We have 3 sons. They are not yet fully independent. We owe them as stable a home life, as we can give them. We are doing that. Our sex life has become "don't ask - don't tell".

I am quite happy to get it on the side.

You can judge me, if you like. Please remember, you have not walked a mile in my shoes. Wait until you have done so, before judging.

Yes, exactly. I was putting up with my wife's lack of interest in sex of me for quite a while. Then, when I get back from an overseas business trip, she tearfully admits getting fucked by her old boyfriend. Now, we have a good marriage outside of sex, so I just think to myself, ok, you opened that door, I'm walking through it. I still can't quite justify fucking women, but I have a new hobby. Daddy's boys. Young, hot, eager college boys that absolutely love an older man fucking them for hours. They're complimentary, appreciative, VERY vocal during sex, and give me all the ego boost I could ever want, far more than my wife ever did. And I love pleasing them. Every man needs a hobby. ;)
 
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I'm on vacation solo for two days.... I've been on Grindr, checking out the scene..While at dinner (again, solo at bar) I start chatting w/ a guy on Grindr and we trade pics. He's a smooth bottom, younger than me (by 18 yrs)... sends me his location.

Here's why I like fucking other men over chasing women for some ass... I found a cool bottom tonight. Gay guys, from my little-but-growing-experience love to fuck way more than women... and like to talk about.

I got there to his place, we immediately got naked and I hit my pen (cannabis) and he has poppers. He was smooth and soft... tonight was the first time I ate ass. I eat ass like I eat pussy- a champ. :laughing:

This sweet little fella was flopping like a fish, then I fucked him. Shot my load deep in him and he came. We went round 2, but I couldn't nut again.

But here's what's cool- afterwards we laid there and talked about fucking. He told me about his past experiences... then we start watching videos of him getting fucked. I loved it. I know it's taboo, but I love hearing how many guys have been up in him before me.

I kinda went too far by suggesting he bring a friend over. IDK, but for some reason I really want group play.

But yeah I'm married, but there's zero sex at home. But that's fine with me... as long as I can have some ass on the side.
That is really, really hot @MTWTFSS Thank you for posting this.
 

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Here is a point of view, which some of you may not have considered.

I have been in a sexless marriage for 10 years now. My wife lost her sex drive with the onset of menopause, and, has done nothing about it. My sex drive has always been much stronger than hers; I addressed that with masturbation - a lot of it.

I was not going to accept this new normal; instead, I made my own.

I started going to bath houses and gay bars for quick sex while travelling for work. This led to other exploring gay sex further. I can say that I have gay sex exclusively now, and, would not want to have sex with my wife any longer, even if she suddenly turned into a nymphomaniac.

Why do I not seek a divorce?

We have 3 sons. They are not yet fully independent. We owe them as stable a home life, as we can give them. We are doing that. Our sex life has become "don't ask - don't tell".

I am quite happy to get it on the side.

You can judge me, if you like. Please remember, you have not walked a mile in my shoes. Wait until you have done so, before judging.
This sounds like my marriage. Although I have not yet ventured into any physical affairs with someone else the thought has crossed my mind many times. The feeling of not being sexually wanted by someone that I truly love is slowly killing me.
 

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Interesting. I'd lean towards stress or a hormonal imbalance... Ya know that women can also have low testosterone and other imbalances, just like guys... that can cause them to lose interest in sex.

I've been with the same girl for a few years, and I can't remember if there was a session where she didn't talk about the thickness or length or the general size of my cock. I don't think she's an anomaly either...
 
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If anything, perhaps your situation will shed some light on the fact that having a big dick really doesn't make or break a relationship. It's a perk and not a necessity.

My wife, to this day, has not shown any slow-down towards my penis yet. I will also add that it has probably more to do with me as a person and how I continue to keep our relationship interesting and fun. She's never "bored" is what I'm trying to say. Anyone can and will get bored of a big dick eventually if your big dick is just "big" and nothing else.

As for cheating, I don't condone it and I also understand. It's your life and you do what you want as when the consequences show up, it's you that have to suffer them, not any of us strangers on the internet.

I've never cheated on my wife since we have always had an open relationship. I still get the "big dick reactions" however it's not as big a deal anymore as it was when I was younger. Just like your wife got bored of your big dick, I think I've become bored of the reactions because it's always the same so now I'm indifferent.

If it works for you, roll with it. :)
Does your wife know that you are on this site?