i am fine with them trying to help me, what i am NOT fine with is them calling me a liar and saying i am 15...they also said it was "people like me" who spread STDs....i also know for a fact, that he has NO diseases....
I'm 56 years old. I understand how you feel. I understand how trusting you are.
You asked for help. I wish I could tell you there is a way for you to fuck your friend without lube. The suggestions about using the finger in a circular motion will help. Also don't push it. By that I mean once you hit the spot where he feels pain, just wait a while until the muscles relax and then continue.
But the deal is some people HAVE TO USE LUBE, Some don't. You can get lube without getting caught. Suggestions were made. You may not know this, but a hospital or a medical clinic can't reveal what you get. The privacy act is supposed to prevent that. An employee revealing that kind of information and get caught will be fired.
About condoms. Please don't take the suggestions too harshly. They are really trying to help you. Maybe their choice of words wasn't the best for you to hear. But many of this guys have lost a friend because of unprotected sex. Consider it a well intentioned suggestion. Be thankful that even though you didn't ask for it, people were trying to look out for you. If you were about to walk across the road and a semi truck was about to hit you, you would be glad someone yanked you out of harm's way.
Here is the deal. I don't doubt that your friend is a virgin. I don't doubt that in this particular case you are safe. But consider this, patterns are set and are hard to change. Sooner or later, if you keep having bareback sex, some one who you trust will swear they are clean and you will contract something you don't want.
There was a case several years ago where a girl contracted aids. She deliberately seduced as many guys as she could trying to pass the disease on to as many as she could because she was angry. She was arrested for attempting murder as I recall for trying to give a terminal illness to someone. It was a big media event. Don't know how it turned out.
I don't like using condoms either. But I would never have sex with anyone without using one. At my age, anyone I might have sex with would have been around the block a time or two.
There have been wives who have contracted a dissease from the husband that they trusted with their lives. And sometimes it destroyed the marriage and wreaked havoc on everyone's lives.
I do understand how much you trust your friend and how much he trusts you. But since you have had sex with more than one person, there is no way to prove you haven't contracted somethinig without a medical test.
You have to act on faith in your situation. I just can't leave myself open to a possible disease. I don't have that kind of faith in people.
Do you know how many people have said after contracting something that they just trusting the other partner so much between sobs as they received their medical verdict.
I tell my teen boys in church, "If you are going to ride a motor cycle, wear your helmet. You never know when or where you might have an accident"
This anology tells it all. You can't know in advance which partner either lied or really didn't know that had "this disease."
Good luck to you.