Well Im done.

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  1. Gecko4lif

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    Just found out today my girlfriend cheated on me. Im kinda in shock.

    Best part is that she was too chickenshit to tell me but instead texted me. What an age we live in.

    Well. Im done with relationships now. Fuck em and forget em. Army style.
    She gives ME shit about having alot of female friends and I havent done more than hug a single one of them since we started dating SHE fucking cheats on me. ON ME?! That fucking bullshit.

    Ok now im fucking mad. She is lucky im so clear headed or I might be tempted to throw a brick through her windshield. ARRRGH. Im so pissed off.

    Shit im mad at myself for not seeing it coming.
     
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    Sorry. I know how you are feeling. Shit happens. It took a lot of time for me.
     
  3. IntoxicatingToxin

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    Two things I've learned. Lesson 1. If your significant other is convinced you are cheating, good chance they'll do the same to exact revenge. Lesson 2. If you're significant other is convinced you are cheating, good chance they've been cheating and are secretly hoping you're guilty too so they don't feel bad. It's usually one or the other... or, it can be chalked up to really low self esteem on their part.

    Either way, I'm sorry to hear this happened. :/ That sucks.
     
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    Sorry about the heartache and anger, but each experience teaches us the lessons to take to the next. And there will be a next one, and a next one after that and if you are lucky a next one after that but you have to be open to it.
    I don't believe you are done. You may be done with this one, which I don't think you really are because you are still too angry and hurt. When you are really done with this one you can move on to the next adventure in life.
    Again sorry for what you are going through right now. I wish I could say it gets easier but it never does unless you become heartless and that is a tradeoff I don't advise.
     
  5. SpeedoMike

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    the good side: you didn't take her to dinner (as in Pay) and have her then break up.
     
  6. helgaleena

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    It is terribly rude to break up by text. Do find a classier sort of female next time.
     
  7. Gecko4lif

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    Yeah. I can already hear the "I told you so's" from a couple of my friends.
     
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    Who cares! Friends will say I told you so and good friends will say I'm so sorry; REAL friends will support you and help you move on.
     
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    Gecko this is the second crazy girl in a few months. You're not selecting girlfriend material:confused: or you attract the bad girls like moths to a flame. I'm sorry this happened again, just remember

    Brick thru window = Gecko in jail

    These girls are not worth it at all! You'll meet someone good one day, there's no rush:smile: So be done for now, you'll be ready again later.

    EDIT: Sorry nudeyorker the first one wasn't his girlfriend just someone he was interested in :eek:) She didn't cheat (no commitment) but she was using him if I remember correctly.
     
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    OK this relationship is only two months old? And it happened before? Take a break and sleep around for a while. (Please practice safe sex) You are not ready for a relationship because for some reason you are settling for second or third best. Hang out for a while until you are ready to have a real relationship.
     
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    Agreed. Two months and this has already happened again. Dude too much drama. Try having it happen after several years.
     
  12. Gecko4lif

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    I do attract bad girls it is ridiculous.
     
  13. lucky8

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    Fuck one of her friends. It works wonders
     
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    Sorry bro. Tough. Bang one of her friends.
     
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    Every single time one of my good true friend spouses has accused them of cheating (they did not) they were example of Lesson 2 above. All found out the wife had a stud on the side, some since before they even got married. Its not just men who cheat.

    Sorry this happened to you. Do not be done! Write make a list of everything she was on a sheet of paper, then look for the exact opposite of everything she was to date next. If you do not look for someone completely different you will keep dating the same "type" and thats just dating the same girl over and over with the same end result. Good luck and keep us posted on your new search for a great person. They are out there.
     
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    Poor Gecko :frown1: Hugs.
     
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    Sorry you had to learn this way, but take comfort, most people do.
    Cheating is the result of assuming monogamy from your partner.
    In your next relationship (and statistically, the several after that one)
    please have an open discussion about boundaries and monogamy.
    Really, if you love someone and they have a wont of porking around, either choose to accept that or don't. But keep that power, do not assume they know what you want, feel and need.
     
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    Like other peeps, I'm sorry to hear about it.
     
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