I have been with my love for 3 years. I am 19 and she is 18 and recently she asked me to elope. Firstly I am still in college and so is she so we know that that comes first. My major problem is that it was literally an hour after we settled a dispute about me finding e-mails in which she proclaimed her love for someone else. She tells me that it was fleeting and during a time when she thought we were not doing so well. She says she didn't do anything with him and that she doesn't love him anymore and realized she really loved me. Things have been going great but that threw a major kink into things. He is just a dick with no relationship experience that thought he could buy her affection with gifts (kind of worked huh?). He is now angry at her because he feels that she used him and threatened to tell me lies about them have sex. She realized now that he didn't really care about her like I do and just wanted to be with her. I would give everything for her happiness even if it meant losing her to someone else and she now sees this. I am totally sincere when I say things like "I would gie everything to see you smile." And she realizes that the gifts from him mean nothing. I still love her and can't stop doing so but this has caused some deep wounds in my heart. I will always bear the open wounds from the rest of my life that can not but she has helped me so much. This event has just worked to cut some of the stitching that held my heart and mind together. lol you people finally get to see the frailty behind the strength and the pain that has birthed me into the being I am today. I have such outward confidence and charisma but it hides so many scars bith emotional and physical. People are usually suprised when they see my body upclose. She is the only person I have in my life I feel comfortable talking to and if I try to bring it up it just makes her sad. I don't want to cause her unhappiness anymore. She feels so guilty already and it is completely unnecessary to do so. I am not sure what to do. I love her but am so unsure of so many things right now.