we're both virgins.

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Well me and my girlfriend tried to have sex for the first time today.

we spent 3 hours trying to just get penetration going :confused:
I feel humiliated, but she was actually really ok with it since Its a love type thing and I was nervous.

...I'm just wondering how I can get it in quick!
we're under covers so its dark and I can't see anything.
(our first time is more than likely going to be a traditional missionary position instead of some raunchy doggy style action lol)

we're trying again when we get the chance.

does anyone have any advice...I don't want that happening again.

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I'm a virgin too (19yo) and I'm hoping my first girl will be a virgin too. Kinda takes on a new dimension, like you are learning together. I dunno, I think it's better you are both virgins so neither of you feel worse than the other.

How old are you wowBig?
 

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Was she wet?
Had you been kissing and making out prior to trying to enter her?
Women need foreplay/prep time. Sometimes it's a bit longer than men are comfortable with. :redface:
Next time try lube and have her put her hand on your cock to guide you in.





 

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18 ! *she is too*

Yes.

we did a bit of foreplay as you say.
I don't want to really freak her out with lube or anything.
she got really really comfortable after just a couple minutes.
 

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no...I forgot to add it's a bit difficult for me to stay hard in the missionary position for some reason


I didn't know it would be so ...difficult!
 

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we did a bit of foreplay as you say.
Do more, there is no such thing as too much foreplay.


I don't want to really freak her out with lube or anything.
Why would lube freak her out? :confused:

she got really really comfortable after just a couple minutes.
So then there really isn't a problem, is there? :rolleyes:


]Is it a size issue? If you're too thick, try using your fingers first to loosen her up.[/b]
I don't think it's a size issue. He mentions in another thread being 6x5. He claims she was ready. :confused: I'm puzzled.
 

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no...I forgot to add it's a bit difficult for me to stay hard in the missionary position for some reason

I didn't know it would be so ...difficult!
Oh for Fucks Sake! :12: Then try a different position they are quite a few of them available. :rolleyes: :duh:


 

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Sounds like a possible case of performance anxiety to me. I've had a recent experience with that...new and very sexy partner makes me worry about my own adequacy with the result that my erection isn't what it could be otherwise, leading to lack of adequacy etc etc.

Try a different position, as NJQT says, and try to focus on how sexy she is and how much you want her, not whether you'll be adequate. Lots of oral first helps too, I find. (and, if all else fails, try a vibrating penis ring!)

Good luck to the two of you!
 

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Oh for Fucks Sake! :12: Then try a different position they are quite a few of them available. :rolleyes: :duh:
hey.
chill out.

I ment that she was comfortable being naked.
its the first time we actually seen each other like that.

its the way SHE wants to do it.
it doesn't mind me as long as I stay erect.

I'd stay erect if I'm laying on my back.
she got on top and we tried that way.
almost had it but for some reason no luck.


I don't know about the lube situation it just feels weird on my fist time bringing lube into the situation.

and yes I have a average sized penis?
it does the job. who cares.
 

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Sounds like a possible case of performance anxiety to me. I've had a recent experience with that...new and very sexy partner makes me worry about my own adequacy with the result that my erection isn't what it could be otherwise, leading to lack of adequacy etc etc.

Try a different position, as NJQT says, and try to focus on how sexy she is and how much you want her, not whether you'll be adequate. Lots of oral first helps too, I find. (and, if all else fails, try a vibrating penis ring!)

Good luck to the two of you!

I think your right on the performance anxiety issue.
I want nothing except the best for her.
and I kind of had that in mind the whole time.

also sex toys would be really nice to use. but she doesn't know that I have any (I actually have a basic penis ring just to play around with)

thank you!
 

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As long as you get a fast enough running start you should have no problems.

On a more serious note, try using a lubricated condom so you can use some lube in a more subtle method.
 

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No need to swear NJ...

Anyway to the OP:

Stroke yourself as much as you need to to stay hard. Also it might help to squeeze the base of your penis hard when entering, to keep the blood inside.

Alternatively, have her get on top and lower herself down. Finger her (one finger, maybe two if lucky) before entering. Eat her out if you're kind.

Good luck. Try not to worry and just think of the fun you'll have. Constant stroking and squeezing is the answer.
 

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As long as you get a fast enough running start you should have no problems.

On a more serious note, try using a lubricated condom so you can use some lube in a more subtle method.

...you mean like a tide stick:|

oh god we were on white sheets.:eek:
 

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Are you using a condom? if not, you should. Then you don't have to worry about bringing lube and having kids!!! It should help get you in. Good Luck!
 

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I'm actually a virgin too (19yo). The girl im talking to however is the same age as me but shes been around the block a few times. We talk about sex and the different facets of sex sometimes. I'll admit even though I'm not experienced with sex I'm very knowledgeable about sex and I do my research. My best answer for you TC is foreplay, foreplay, foreplay get her as wet and as loosened up as possible and you should have an easier time of getting in. The first time is always the hardest with a girl and its going to hurt her for a little bit. Just have patience and don't rush.
 

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I know it's going to hurt a bit. *does it always bleed the first time?* thats kind of another thing I'm afraid of.
I don't want her scared something is wrong if lots of blood runs down her leg


I'm trying to be very gental*sp?* with her but still at least trying
to get some penetration.