You're correct, but gender is considered an element of sexuality, hence the term transgendered. For simple male/male and female/female relations, it wasn't an issue if they had sex, unless they were cheating or something equally bad. A winkte wasn't quite the same thing as being gay, but they were expected to marry someone of the same (anatomical) sex. Confusing, no? I've heard wicakte used to describe the reverse; it would be a contraction of wicasa kte meaning 'wishes to be a man'.
A lot of people have been too simplistic about it, actually. I mean, I've even heard some descriptions make it sound like a winkte was some sort of prostitute. And yes, 'Crazy Horse was gay' can be added to the mile-long list of 'lies about Crazy Horse'.
[quote author=DoubleMeatWhopper link=board=meetgreet;num=1078018594;start=20#22 date=03/05/04 at 17:37:21]But, Jon, it is my understanding that the Winktes (my use of the word is in deference to those who feel that the term berdache is derogatory) did not consider their role as an expression of sexuality, but rather as one of gender. They adopted female clothing and chores and ritual 'pregnancies' to separate themselves from men. They didn't consider themselves to be men or women, but members of a 'third gender'. They didn't view their marriages as same sex unions because they were not, by their point of view, male. Winktes were viewed as great healers possessed of shamanistic powers. The Lakota considered it a great honour to have such an esteemed member of society in their family, and it remained so until the Europeans came and decided that they were 'sexual deviants'. The Winktes largely went into hiding. I wonder where Kinsey would place them on his scale?[/quote]