Were you in love with your first sexual partner?

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I was just wondering if anyone or how many people like me losing my virginity with a friend. I was somewhat naive, I really enjoyed my first time, but I didn't love or have any emotional feeling aside from good friendship with the guy I was with. Has anyone else have the same experience?
 

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The girl who I lost my virginity to, and who coincidentally lost her virginity to me, yes, I was truly, madly, deeply in love with.
Many, many years later when I lost my virginity to a man, special though it was, no I wasn't in love. It was a one time event and circumstances dictated that we never saw each other again.
Both events, though years apart and very different, remain equally meaningful.
 

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I wasn't in love with the girl or anything like that. We would mess around playing with each other which went on for awhile until one day we just did it. Pure curiousity and hormones. I was young and not thinking about love during it. Just that it felt awesome.
 
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Not exactly, my first time wasn't that romantic, a random hookup with a girl at a party. We kept in touch for a while and ended up fucking again a few times, but it was nothing serious. Pretty memorable though lol.
 
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No; I was horny and wanted to lose my v-card. She was older and dated college boys. We hooked up, it was a mess. But that summer she showed me how to control, what to do how to make her the centre. Her sister was my second lover- I worshiped her.
 
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No; I was horny and wanted to lose my v-card. She was older and dated college boys. We hooked up, it was a mess. But that summer she showed me how to control, what to do how to make her the centre. Her sister was my second lover- I worshiped her.
No. Just wanted to lose my V-card as well.
 
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While I thought at the time the first person I had sex with involved deeper feelings, I've since realized long ago it was more what one would define as "puppy love" and simply infatuation with the first one willing to give it to me. While I can't go into details due to the site rules, but let's just say it was also at a time when one is usually too immature to understand "true love" and what relationships entail.

My second time, which involved my future wife, would fit more with the meaning of being "in love", especially considering I already had feelings for her months before we even had sex.
 
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I was just wondering if anyone or how many people like me losing my virginity with a friend. I was somewhat naïve, I really enjoyed my first time, but I didn't love or have any emotional feeling aside from good friendship with the guy I was with. Has anyone else have the same experience?
I lost my virginity to a friend, but I had been attracted to her for almost a year before I actually made a advance with her and she very willingly responded. While I believe I had felt 'in love' before, sexual intimacy certainly strengthened my feelings towards her.

My second time, which involved my future wife, would fit more with the meaning of being "in love", especially considering I already had feelings for her months before we even had sex.
I didn't know my future wife very long before a first kiss turned into a make out session, that progressed all the way through spending the night together and multiple sex sessions. I fell in love with her over time, as she was (is) a wonderful woman.
 
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No, but we were best of friends. He was not a boyfriend but a "friend boy" and a confidant.

We knew each other for years. I just think one day we realized I was a female and he was a male. Curiosity got the better of us.

I think what was eye-opening about the whole experience is that all of the horror stories I heard about the first time didn't happen. It didn't hurt. I felt no guilt. But it wasn't mind blowing for me. It was just penetration.

Two weeks later we tried again, and it was a much better. We did more than just penetration, and I was glad we did it again otherwise I might not have been sold on it.

But that was it. I don't know if guilt got the better of him or what. And that's probably what it was because we were not in love with each other. It was just a physical thing we wanted to "get out of the way."

We're still friends to this day, both married with our own families.
 

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my 1st MM sexual experience was with a best friend and we definitely were not in love, we were in lust for each other's cock and cum.
my 1st MF sexual experience was with a woman that I thought I might love but was unsure. I was definitely in lust though and we both had very intense orgasms.