Were your parents divorced?

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by Ms.Teacher, May 13, 2008.

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Were you parents divorced?

  1. Yes

    15 vote(s)
    40.5%
  2. No

    22 vote(s)
    59.5%
  1. Ms.Teacher

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    Just curious as to whether your parents are divorced or still together. My parents are still together.

    When I was a child every once in a while a friend at school or in the neighborhood would tell me their parents were splitting up. They were usually devastated, and it was a life changing experience for them going from having two parents around to just having one.

    Sometimes I'd ask a friend about making plans for the weekend, only to be told that it was the weekend to go to dad's house. They usually seemed kind of happy to be seeing their dad, but in the same respect their pet wouldn't be there, they didn't like where they slept, or there was some other reason that made them feel uncomfortable; it didn't seem like home to them.

    If your parents are deceased, still participate.

    It's an anonymous poll.
     
  2. scorpiokc

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    My folks are still together and have been for almost 46 yrs now (I'm almost 46, too, so that's an easy one to remember.) They got married when mom was 15 and dad was 17 ... I've never once heard them argue. Unusual, I guess, but I'm glad.
     
  3. Ms.Teacher

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    When I was a kid and mom and dad got into an argument I'd ask, "are you getting divorced?" lol For some reason I assumed arguing would lead to divorce, and I'd be one of those children going from house to house. They would either ignore me, roll their eyes, or tell me to go out and play.
     
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    Yes my folks divorced when i was 9, back in 1984 we handled it fairly well, we didn't have a choice she told us and said she loved us and that me and your dad can no longer live together. So in 1986 she married again. They have been together since.
     
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    Mine are still married. They have to wait for the pets to pass away before they can split up. :rolleyes:
     
  6. B_The Greek Dude

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    My father left the family when I was 12.
     
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    still married, for 30-something years.. although they're not together right now due to work commitments..
     
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    They divorced when I was 10/11.
     
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    My parents split when I was 2 so I was too young to remember. Unfortunately when i was in elementary school I was the only one with a single parent so it was hard to understand.
     
  10. exwhyzee

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    My parents separated when I was 15 (my mom had the sheriff escort dad out of the house) and divorced when I was 20. It was a really ugly divorce, and they still hate each other. I recall mom saying she wished dad would die of cancer and dad wishing mom die of a heart attack. I remember thinking TV soap operas like Dynasty and Falcon Crest had nothing on my family life at the time. lol

    Second marriages for both, and both remain very single.
     
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    sadly my parent got divorced when I was 13 years old. Sadder still was my dad worked out of town and my mom went on a merry holiday leaving me to raise my 9 year sister till I was sixteen and got fed up. Lucky for me my dad found a job in town and I moved in with him. My mom findly come back from her lala land and found a boyfriend that had a brother who tried to rape my sister. So she moved with me and dad when I was eighteen and going to college.

    My dad loved us very much and always was there when he could. My mom I still wonder were her head is at. She lives in mexico now and I occasionally get a letter from her.
     
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    My parents have been married for almost 45 years as of this June....2008. Gosh thinking about it, I probably need to throw some sort of party for them....since who knows what will happen in the next 5 years. They are both 68 years young and they are enjoying their Golden Years from what I can tell. Mom is a retired high school business teacher and I think she has more things going on now than she did when she had a teaching contract. She is also really involved with her retired teacher's travel group. So when she and dad are not on some retired teacher's travel club trip.....I think they do one every other month.....mom is able to work whenever she wants to work. The schools come to her wanting her to work for them.

    My dad has a different way of enjoying his retirement..... When he isn't on travel trips with my mom....he has his own little daily routines......which include going to the Senior Citizens Centers and visiting with people there. (My dad was a real estate and insurance salesman.....and he started hanging out at the Senior Citizens places when he was in his forties..... Which was a very good career move for him......because he became a trusted problem solver / friend for many......and he was rewarded with their business.... and still is to this day....) Then he makes his rounds to play dominoes with all his retired men friends. I am sure he has other errands on his rounds but they change from day to day..... The dominoes and the Senior Citizens Centers are daily routines.


    My parents don't get along every minute of the day.....my mother is high strung.....hard worker type.....she isn't happy unless she has something going on...... And my dad is real relaxed and easy going......but as he is aging he is becoming more hard headed.....stubborn.....junky....packrat..... My poor mother works really hard to keep her house clean and my dad is constantly bringing home stuff from garage sales or junk his friends from the Senior Citizens Center give him because it is free. I know I have had to talk to him......and basically I told him that nobody is going to put up with him bringing junk into someone's house. If there is no place for it, you don't need it. And if mom kicks him out he isn't bringing that junk to my house. He will have to get his own place to junk up.

    Anyways, I think there is a little bit of packrat sydrome / junkyard / child of the depression / mental illness that seems to be creeping up in my dad's later years.....And my mom has her hands full. Luckily my dad likes all the money my mom is bringing into the house and the benefits he gets from being her significant other.....so it helps in overcoming his stubborn streak......but I can see that living with him would not be a piece of cake.

    I am just worried to death since I take after my dad so much that I am going to become just like him.

    Anyways so my parents have almost been together 45 years.......but who knows if they will make it to 50 years. (without divorce or my mom killing my dad)
     
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    My parents are still married after nearly 40 years, although I have always attributed the longevity of their marriage to the idea that neither one of them realized how dysfunctional the relationship was and never considered that maybe they should have been divorced. All through my childhood I prayed and wished they would get divorced and I would get to live with my father (the lesser of the two evils), but that never happened. I was actually jealous of the kids in my class whose parents had split up because they had to live with only one horse's ass of a parent, instead of the two I had to put up with. God, I am so glad to be away from that mess.
     
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    They're divorced and THANK GOD for that!! They should NEVER have even dated much less married. When the court-appointed shrink asked us, "How do you feel about that?" My sister and I shocked the judge by loudly proclaiming, "The sooner, the better!"

    They're much nicer people away from each other.
     
  15. B_Artful Dodger

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    Mine are celebrating 27 years in August. I could never stay faithful for that long! :eek: Lol
     
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    My parents were utterly devoted to each other until my father's death, after about 20 years of marriage.
    My mother lived another 17 years and never thought for one minute, I don't suppose, that she would marry another man.
    We had the insecurities that my father's bad health imposed, but never the slightest doubt that these two people were in this marriage for keeps ... till death did them part.
     
  17. musclebare9

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    Mother - Married, divorced, married, divorced, married, divorced and married.

    Father - Married, divorced, married, divorced, married and divorced.


    They don't have many years left, I think they have settled down a little.
     
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