What Am I Doing Wrong ?

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  1. SexyJean

    SexyJean New Member

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    I was reading some of the posts elsewhere and in the Women's Section and I was kind of surpised to see so many ladies who post here able to deep-throat very large cocks or large portions of their partners size: 7", 8", 8 1/2", etc.

    Maybe it's just me -- I do have a kind of small mouth -- but I can't take more than 3" or so, maybe 4" tops. What am I doing wrong?

    My husband isn't big on oral sex, and I'm not either, but I can't help but believe if I was better at it that we might be able to enjoy it more and more frequently, even if it wasn't a regular staple.

    Suggestions?
     
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    Dont try and take more than you are not comfortable with.You wount enjoy it, and neither will your husband if he senses your discomfort.
     
  3. GottaBigOne

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    I second that, deepthroat is cool, and its hot to watch, but the lips and toungue can feel better than the throat because they can be manipulated.
     
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    My mouth is on the small side too and I have to strain to take in what I can. A guy friend suggested I concentrate on the head (with lips and tongue, as others mentioned) and use my hand on the shaft. He said that works for him.
     
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    I agree with what's been said. Sex shouldn't feel like the Olympics, just do what comes natural. We all have different size issues and do things a bit differently, one isn't better than the other. Personally, I extended my "limit" of intake by exercising my jaw and back of my throat when I was alone (yes, this looks ridiculous!) so that I could take more into my mouth without scraping my teeth on it. I doubt I'll ever get beyond about 7'', but that's fine with me- it seems to be where my gag reflex just won't let me go further.

    I know what you mean about being envious of the ones who can take a lot more, but we do all have our limits. We women have less competitive nature than men, but we do still need to remember it's not a contest.
     
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    Yeah, it's really simple: You do whatever you're anatomically best-equipped for. Not every time has to be like in the porno.
     
  7. SexyJean

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    Thanks all....Madame Z, I agree it's not a contest and I in no way feel inadequate. But it just seemed that virtually EVERY woman was saying they could handle 6"-9", and I'm no where near that. I've experimented on some items alone without my husband and I pretty much duplicated what happens in the bedroom: a bit over 3" before I physically can't fit more and/or gag.

    Needless to say, this is one sexual item I CAN'T ask my gyno and even friends. It's one thing to ask about fitting with my husband vaginally, but outside of here I've never broached this with anyone. Thanks for the assistance all!

    Like I said, it's kinda fortunate that it's a good match: I'm not very good at this at all, but thankfuly my husband isn't into it either. Still, it'd be nice to have for a rainy day -- guess I can practice or study up in the meantime.....
     
  8. MASSIVEPKGO_CHUCK

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    Well, aside from telling you not to go any further with it than you can already handle, don't sweat it; some people will try and overcome this and risk severe damage, in particular lockjaw, or even dislocated jaw.

    The human jaw is not elastic and can unhinged and rehinged like a reptile/snake's.
     
  9. Kat

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    I can take all my husband when he is soft! However, he is way to thick to get any more than the very tip of his cock in when hard. I have to be careful to get him out of my mouth before he starts getting thick or I could probably severely dislocate my jaw. I'd love to see the EMTs arrive at our house for that call!!! For us, it just physically doesn't work. He doesn't mind though. I still love it when he, or I jack him off and he comes in my mouth.

    kat
     
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    I wouldn't worry to much about not being able to take it all. I am by no means "huge" (7.5" X 5.75") compared to men here and no woman I have met has been able to deepthroat me. I would say the woman who visit here are rare and so are most of the men thats probably why so many females here can achieve such novel feats.

    Be happy with what ya got going on and I am SURE it is wonderful for your husband.

    -LongNights-
     
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    SexyJean
    I cannot deep throat my SO. I, also, have a small mouth & even the dentisit remarks about that during dental work. So, here's another woman who cannot do it, but shows lots of eagerness to do what she can.
     
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    the average oral cavity is only about 3 to 4 inches long, you are not doing to bad. I think you said your husband it 13 long and 8 round. I think you are not doing bad to get that. I would think it would be a good gig to talk to him and say I would like to get more down and something of the sort and see what he thinks.
     
  13. Imported

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    Acctualy, I used to work w/ a girl that had a birth defect that allowed her to unhinge her jaw, like a snake :wow: . She could fit NINE! oreo cookies, stacked on top of each other, between her top and bottom teeth. It was incredible!
     
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    One of my good friends can fit the wide side of a normal-sized water glass in her mouth. She did it at dinner one night and every guy in the cafeteria was staring at her.

    I felt a bit upstaged, to say the least.
     
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    Ditto.
    No problem.
    Beware tumescence if your mouth is wrapped around a big-headed fella.

    Here's something that can be fun for both - barring large discrepancies in trunk lengths and sharp, bare fingernails.
    69.
    While he's working on you, your man is laying flat, full-length beside. Work only on the underside of the penis head / shaft junction with your mouth. Grasp the shaft lightly with thumb on his belly side, four fingers evenly divided (only) over his urethra. Keep your fingers pressing and circling over the urethra, with your little finger thru his scrotum into the urethra as "low" as it goes. Vocally compliment his attention and let him know when to change - and not change. He should do the same.
    By varying your glans and little finger efforts you will see close-up how he changes as he becomes more and less aroused. If he gets ahead of you, desist with the glans first; ofttimes the little finger pressure/circling will keep him on a plateau while he brings you “up”.
    Play him like an instrument - both of you work together to close on a climax, drop to a plateau, then return. Individual men are different, but if he almost gets there without delivering more than three times - Blue Balls is guaranteed, so Don't Do Dat ! Women suffer pelvic congestion too. During your first time only get each other there once beforehand, next time twice, etc.
    When he goes, you'll feel his shaft swell and throb as his produce travels under your fingertips on its way out. Ma Honey finds this fascinating.
     
  16. NaughtyGirl

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    Dont worry about it, just do what feels comfortable to you! You are not doing anything wrong tho, dont you worry about it! :)
     
  17. myself_the_elf

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    Relax, SexyJean! Always remember, when giving it's the thought that counts! In that vein, you may try to give that next BJ California-style. Translated, that is all-show-and-no-go. Mix equal amounts of the following and magic will occur: vigorous tugging at his genitals, prodigious amounts of spittle and plenty of primal grunting/groaning. Get what you can into your mouth, his imagination will take care of the rest. I think I read that in a column from Heloise.

    Semi-seriously, we're all different in our capacities, as the replies have indicated. There was a woman in my Tourette's Syndrome Support Group who could easily accomodate a half dozen hard boiled eggs in her mouth and still carry on a conversation, although it was difficult to be sure with all of the shreiking and shaking that went on.
     
  18. Aruba 1st

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    Ma Honey's the same. She enjoys playing with her "worm".
     
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