What are some great tips when a man wants to a pleasure a woman?

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  1. blackonidragon7

    blackonidragon7 New Member

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    I've been seeing this woman i know for a while, but we are getting bored with sex. I tried to be spontaneous, but sex is still kind of boring. I'm tired of just getting the regular wetness when I have sex with her. I want to see her cum!

    Now, I'm not 9+ inches. I'm around 7.3 x 5.97 inch range. I know I can make her finish before me, but I think I'm doing something wrong.

    Does anyone have any tips that might steer me in the direction finishing last like a proper gentlemen is supposed to?
     
  2. D_Cam_Cunnon

    D_Cam_Cunnon New Member

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    I don't think it's the intercourse part you should be focused on. Have you tried massaging her gspot with your fingers prior to sex?

    If you want to see a girl go wild, spend a good amount of time with 4play - full body massage, some kissing and licking all over. Go down on her and really get her fired up. Work a finger up and in to her gspot area, perhaps 2 and massage and stroke gently. Read her body language, try different amounts of pressure.

    I usually find that doing this for some time tends to build up some fluids which she'll end up gushing out. The gspot pressure nearing her orgasm should be fairly firm once you've teased her enough.

    Give it a shot! If she cums she'll be wild about having your cock inside and intercourse will just naturally be hotter.

    My 2 cents. Good luck!
     
  3. SR_Festus Salmonodor

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    Agreed. Also some women simply cannot cum from intercourse alone, regardless of your size. You have plenty to work with. Stimulating the clit during intercourse works well. If you go at it doggy style you should be able to reach around. Or she could play with it. I personally love it when they diddle themselves while we're fucking. Seems extra dirty to me!
     
  4. cbrmale

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    To clarify the above post; the majority of women can't come from intercourse alone, and the ones who can are a precious rarity. My experience is that it's my partners ability to get into the 'moment' with me, and to focus on what's happening to them that makes the difference. For example yesterday, with a young lass I paid money to have sex with, and she came with an average volume of ejaculate. I didn't do anything more or less with her than any other partner in my life, but during it all she got tuned in and turned on and had a marvellous time. And she was young, twenty, so hardly a sexual veteran.

    As men it's not our responsibility to make any given woman come, but it is our responsibility to be caring and considerate lovers.
     
  5. mattbryant84

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    i dunno about the whole "ejaculate" thing.. not into having a girl piss on me.. however her actual cum (vaginal juices, discharge, etc) just happens, i guess it depends on the girl. some its thicker than others..

    you can even see it sometimes in porn.. looks like the guy came, but he hasn't. that white stuff is the girl!
     
  6. D_yexysoy

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    Female ejaculate isn't piss. It's the same for a woman as a man, when she is cumming she can't urinate, same mechanism, it's locked down. The squirting is from the g-spot (actually a gland) filling with fluid. Never done it myself but I can get really wet from everything else.

    Now..as to how to turn a woman on, that's the key..everything else! Dirty talk, fantasy sharing is huge, HUGE. Touching, find out what pleases her, spend alot of time on her, and no most women do not orgasm from sex alone, I almost never do and have a spectacular sex life. Women are very mental, the slightest thing can turn them on, or off. Start with some leading conversation "I'm going to do this..." or something whispered, or even text it, like hours before, builds the anticipation. My husband and I do this all the time.

    Take your time, explore, It only get's boring if you let it.
     
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    thanx. everyone, i'm gonna do all that tonight. I'll let you all know how it went.
     
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    Good communication, pay close attention to her subtle oohs and ahhs, and/or a nice vibrator will do wonders.
     
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    give talking dirty a shot too.... if she ends up liking it, you can then turn her on just by whispering into her ear. gotta get her mind into it as much as her body.
     
  11. D_Leighlily Liddletitz

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    ...Well imo the big problem most guys make(even big ones) is that they place too much focus on intercourse and don't learn proper foreplay.
     
  12. blackonidragon7

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    okay...the foreplay thing totally worked.

    We were at a party, and I was seducing her...Like biting and blowing on her ears gently. Grabbing her waist from time to time. The kissing and licking her all over was a major plus because she was really wet when I took her panties off.

    I kind of cheated because I drunk a Red Bull and took some Stamina Rx before the party.

    Point is she didn't squirt, but she was twitching like hell around twenty-five minutes into the sex, and I earned myself an oral reward...Thanks, everybody!!! :)
     
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    Always take care of her first. And it doesn't always mean using your dick. You will always be considered a good lover.

    Once had a gal tell me that dicks are worthless to her. It's the tongue that matters. Remember that one, lads.
     
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    Have to agree with this 100% current guy is fucking excellent at this. :biggrin1:

    Have to commit to it though otherwise it just sounds funny AND if she isn't in to it she may just think you're a perv.:smile:
     
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    As was said by others already, never assume that a woman is going to orgasm from vaginal penetration alone. If you do, you are putting pressure on her, and are setting yourself up for dissapointment. And I don't know what percentage of women actually experience female ejaculation ("squirting" or "gushing"), but I've never been with one, or else I didn't have what it took to make it happen.

    My experience with female orgasm (for what it is worth): out of a total of around 15-16 partners roughly half had orgasms with vaginal penetration alone (or else faked it well). But of this 50%, only some could do so consistently. Around 3 came nearly every time with vaginal sex, and one lover could only come with vaginal penetration. The rest came pretty reliably from oral sex or manual clitoral stimulation.

    Maybe it was my poor technique, but I have never had a lover who really got off on a lot of vigorous fingering in her vagina (although most seemed to like a little as part of foreplay).

    As for my wife of 25+ years with whom I have had sex thousands of times, she orgasms 99.9% of times from either manual clitoral stimulation (erect cock or fingers), oral clitoral stimulation, or a combination of both, along with a healthy dose of nipple sucking. She orgasms occasionally with vaginal penetration alone (no manual stimulation), and when this happens it is almost a suprise to us both since we don't seem to be doing anything differently than on many other occasions when she didn't. She says, however, that when we are having vaginal intercourse she frequently has "little orgasms" that may not be apparent to me. We have never used vibrators or other toys.

    I agree that it is a real treat to watch and feel a woman having a wild orgasm on your cock, but I don't think you can expect to have that with all gals, and not every time with any. If you want to increase the chances of her coming during vaginal sex I would suggest that you encourage her to stimulate her clitoris, or let you do it. If that doesn't fly, maybe you could try one of those cock rings that has a tiny bullet vibrator to target her clit.

    I knew one gal (best vaginal sex ever) who had great pelvic and vaginal muscles and could use them to bring herself and me off with vaginal sex. I have heard some other women say that rhythmically contracting their perivaginal muscles as they approached orgasm was a key to getting them over the edge. So you might suggest she start doing Kegel exercises and try this.

    Of the women I have had sex with who did orgasm with vaginal penetration, cowgirl (facing) seemed to be a favorite position with deep penetration, and a lot of rocking and grinding against my pubic bone as they got close. One, however, prefered missionary with her legs up on my shoulders ("jackhammer") and for a couple it was vigorous doggystyle with my balls banging against their clits.

    I'm not sure how much penis size matters (if any) in determining a woman's ability to orgasm with vaginal sex, but I am a little over 7 inches functional length and about 5 1/2 inches in girth, for the record.
     
  16. FatHiptedMama

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    So I'm guessing your goal is to make her ejaculate. I'm not sure if all women can ejaculate, but I never thought I could, but starting this year it happened. So maybe my experience can help you a little bit. Stimulating her G-spot is a great idea, I've heard many women that can ejaculate do it this way. I actually never did with g-spot stimulation. But there's another spot, it's been referred to as the A-spot, and stimulation to that makes me ejaculate. It doesn't make me ejaculate every time, maybe about 60% of the time. It also helps if I'm well hydrated (not I just drank alot of water and have to pee hydrated, but generally well hydrated overall).

    And I don't know if this has anything to do with it, but my partner did express that female ejaculation turns him on way prior to me ever doing it. It could be that I always could but was a bit inhibited before.

    Don't be too disappointed if she doesn't or can't. If she thinks your disappointed about it she might develop a complex or something.

    I hope that helps, and good luck trying to make her squirt kid.
     
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    okay, thanx...I gonna try that...
     
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    I'm female and I've only been unable to cum with one guy. The problem is that he moves too much, too fast. So it's difficult for me to find his rythm for me to get mine.
     
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    finally, i made her ejaculate. i did the foreplay thing. I massaged her first, kissed her, fingered, and ate her out. 10 minutes into the sex, I noticed some splashing around the pubs. I stopped for a lil' bit and she told me to keep goin'.

    She finally let me bust on her face today...Thanks again everybody, my sex life will get better from here on. :smile:
     
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