What are some of the silliest reasons you've heard why men are gay?

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I was in the gym and overheard two men talking about gay men. Unfortunately they didn't have anything nice to say. One thing I heard was one of them said.

"They only become gay because they were hurt by a woman earlier in life."

The other guy said you can't tell if you're gay before age 18, And that other gay men are corrupting boys to being gay by telling them to try it out and if they weren't corrupted they would be straight.

So what's your silliest/saddest/oddest reasons youve heard why men become gay?
 
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from my experience, its mostly guys assuming that a guy is gay just because he happens to express himself in a feminine way

i get that being feminine is a gay stereotype (not to say that a guy being feminine is bad, regardless of sexuality), but not all straight guys are masculine either lol
 

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My godfather said it was because my mother didn't teach me about god when I was younger. She did, I just decided it was complete bullshit and stopped listening. My step-father said it was because men weren't tough on their boys anymore and let them show emotion as children so it made them weak. He also believed that once a man became sexually active he had to have sex at least every 6 months or he would just keel over and die. People believe stupid things.
 

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I grew up in a Christian environment in the US. It was the 90s, EXODUS and conversion programs like it were all the rage. Two popular beliefs at the time were that people only became lgbt+ as a trauma response after suffering child /sexual abuse or because they were the children of a single mother and had no father figures.

So, imagine me spending most of my childhood, and part of my teen years wondering if I was gay because someone had done the unspeakable to me. Then trying to figure out how I still turned out gay when I came from a home where I had 2 parents in a loving relationship. Thankfully, I wasn't abused and I realized as I grew up that the traditional church has a peculiar hatred for single mothers/women. Still, sometimes I'd like to imagine how much more carefree little me could have been.
 
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I was told it was a demon and had an “exorcism” done. When that didn’t work (I know, I thought for sure it would) we tried an honest to god therapist. A licensed psychologist recommended by my church pastor who would help me find my “gay root”. Went to him for a year of endorsed self-harm. And I was in meetings with an ex-gay guy who was married to a lesbian and a complete flaming gay blade. from there I learned it was “generational iniquity“ — one of my ancestors sinned and opened the door for the devil to get me. Interestingly, this prompted my father to tell me about some frotting he and a male cousin did when they were young. He must’ve liked it bc he seemed to believe that was where the devil made his middle child gay (but no one else). Whew, being gay is so complicated to some people it’s no wonder it doesn’t make sense to them.
 

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i've heard a lot. Too much coddling from mom combined with not enough affection from dad was early assumption of psychology. Another psychologist from around that time believed it was rooted in "extreme procreation phobia"

The one I hate the most is when I hear that gay men are just men who hate women, that it's rooted in misogyny. Another along the same lines I've heard is that they choose to be gay because "they're too weak to handle women"

there's the more scientific hypothesis that most gay men aren't the first born, they're usually a later child, and its because the woman has a "weaker womb" from having been bore children in the past that the later offspring are more likely to be gay.

One big eye-roller I heard was a Serbian guy who told me I was gay because I was a woman in my previous life.

I do think @enbious wins for most ridiculous reason though.
 

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ironic considering that Disney approaches LGBTQ+ "representation" in a very disingenuous and corporate way lol
i agree with that statement. there's a very unfortunate negative feedback loop between disingenuous corporate representation and the homophobic right-wing who complain about gay stuff getting shoved down their throats.
 
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Born that way. That's the silliest since there's no proof that homosexuality is genetic or has any biological basis.
There are some genetic markers that have been identified (no one gay gene) generally but scientists definitely ascribe environmental factors play a role as well. It's not cut and dry.
 
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Born that way. That's the silliest since there's no proof that homosexuality is genetic or has any biological basis.
I think you mean there is no single gene that makes you gay. This is true. It's also true of heterosexuality. It's true of most things in biological organisms. There has been plenty of research that shows a correlation between hormone levels in utero, hormone levels post partum, etc. that affect the expression of genes that contribute to same-sex attraction. It also occurs in the animal kingdom a fair amount. There have even been documented instances of same-sex animal mates who adopt orphaned young of their species.

If "there's no proof that homosexuality is genetic or has any biological basis" then other sexualities, like heteronormative sexuality, also has no biological basis. Also, if you are trying to argue that homosexuality has a psychological basis, I'd like to point out that all psychology arises from a biological structure and it's interactions with other biological structures within the organism in question. So ... yeah, it's def biological.
 

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The thing about how the genome works is that it's not about one set map that describes who you are, but rather it's a myriad of possibilities of what you could be and then only a small number of those traits get expressed. So you could have the gene that makes you more likely to develop cancer, but that doesn't mean that you'll ever get cancer in your life. I'm quite sure that i have plenty of genetic code that's outright smashin some pussy right now but for reasons i don't understand those traits haven't been expressed much in my adulthood.

but anyway, the idea of one singular "gay gene" defining people I agree is a bit ridiculous and genetics definitely doesn't work that way. Everybody probably has some genetic code that could suggest a homosexual proclivity, but it's likelihood of that code getting expressed that's rare.
 
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There are some genetic markers that have been identified (no one gay gene) generally but scientists definitely ascribe environmental factors play a role as well. It's not cut and dry.
I think this seems to be the best understanding we have currently but there does seem to be some evidence that the hormonal environment in the womb during certain stages of pregnancy may be an important factor. Abnormally low levels of testosterone and its correlates in the mother during pregnancy (yes women do have testosterone too, just much lower levels of it than men) does seem to be predict less robust expression of a wide range of male characteristics in boys after birth. This may also feed into the observation that birth order has a bearing on homosexuality in males since testosterone levels decline with age in women as well as in men. We also know that older women are somewhat less likely to carry male offspring to term than younger women. Certain infections and diseases in women during pregnancy can also evidently disrupt the hormonal environment for the foetus and male foetesus appear to be more developmentally at risk from such episodes.

It seems at least plausible that there can be some genetic predispostion to homosexuality, even though evidently not linked to a single gene, an influence of the in-utero environment and finally an influence of the developmental environment after birth, but it appears that no one of these is likely to be decisive in and of itself. Perhaps the 'perfect storm' of two or three of these factors is what determines the final result.

We also have to consider that homosexuality, like intelligence, does not seem to be a single phenomenon but may have several or even many different forms and causes. It is possible that some forms of homosexuality are a behavioral adaptation to having a low expression of masculine physical characteristics, but clearly there are plenty of males with normal or even hyper-masculine physiognomy that also exhibit significant same sex preference, though this group may find it easier to experiment with opposite sex encounters as well. These are just the two most obviously different 'kinds' of homosexuality that spring to mind with the main unifying factor being a simple preference for same sex sexual encounters.

We shouldn't underestimate the importance of habit forming early behavior either. It is normal for young males to experiment sexually with both sexes and, for at least some of those who experience signifiicant early success with one or the other, that can easily become a self reinforcing preference. We tend to want to repeat behaviors that we have enjoyed success with previously.

It seems likely that the larger societal and cultural environment also plays an important role. Historically there have been a number of well known examples of societies that imposed significant attempts to regulate and control the sexual behavior of at least the non-elite class of their citizens. The late Victorian period in Europe and North America following on from the Industrial Revolution is probably the most familiar example of this and the concept of homosexuality as a defining part of personal identiy seems to be something that emerged in the 20th century in reaction to the sexual regulation that was imposed on urban middle class populations during the Victorian era. By their strong prejudice in favor of family formation, Victorian society seems to have created a social and legal box in which to put sexual outlaws that were not conforming to this expectation. Being kept in this box led to the development of a new sense of sexual identity for many of these 'outlaws'.

Before this time, although male homosexual behaviour was and remains common in all societies that we have knowlege of, it was generally not treated as defining personal identity. Rather it was just considered a behavior that was more or less appropriate depending on the circumstances in which it occurred, like swearing or fighting being accepted as normal among young men but not among or in the presence of women or the elderly. Even today there are huge parts of the world where this is still pretty much the case - cultures in which there is a high tolerance or even an expectation of homosexual behavior in certain contexts without it being seen as identity defining. People who are 'politically' homosexual in the sense of self identifying as homosexual seems to be a phenonmenon of the very affluent societies of the post industrial world and a very recent thing in human history - ultimately something not understandable without considering the history of such societies.
 

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NO LIE AND I MEAN NO LIE. I WAS TOLD….

It’s because the gay person’s father ate too much fruit during time of conceiving.

Less shocking is the one that said that it’s because our dads kissed us to much when younger.
 

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When dad left the family few years back, mom confided in her friend and told her a lot about what is going on in our family.

This woman's exact response are:
"Your ex husband's dad had two wives, your eldest(my brother) fainted the other day (missed eating times) and now your second(me) is gay. It must be a CURSE!!!"

This same woman is currently on an indefinite self imposed house arrest because she is also an anti-vaxxer.