What are the side effects of not getting enough?

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  1. Drifterwood

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    We have had plenty of debate, mass debate if you will, about the morality of "cheating", but I am interested in the downside of not getting as much sex as you need, whether in a relationship or not?

    I could have put this in the relationship section, but I don't want to limit the question to people in relationships. Also I have never heard of gay guys complaining - is it predominantly a straight thing?

    For those who will say that you should compromise, can I ask which other areas affecting your health and happiness you compromise?
     
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    The downside of not getting enough? How much sex does one really "need"?

    It's difficult to answer if an over active libido condones cheating as there are many reasons why people cheat on each other and many of those reasons aren't about just sexual cravings.

    Personally, I think touching and physical affection is more important for one's well being than indiscriminate sex is. You can always have sex with yourself if needed but there is no substitute for the former.

    It would be interesting to see the cheating rates of gay couples vs. straight couples.
     
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    Why do you presume that the sex is indiscriminate? Do you really think that masterbation is a straight substitute for sex?

    Str8 couples is around the 50% mark I think. Though I don't know if that is for people of a certain age or longevity of relationship.
     
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    The biggest potential pitfall I can imagine is depression.

    If in a relationship the one not getting their requirements met can feel abandoned or punished -----> depression.

    If single the lack of contact can lead to a feeling of disconnectedness and undesirability -----> depression.
     
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    I wouldn't know. All of the boys come round to visit the junk in my trunk.
     
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    ...and then depression makes you unattractive to potential mates. Downward spiral.

    I guess another factor here is what exactly is one not getting enough of. Is it penetrative sex? Is it physical contact? I have gone very long periods of time with neither. I would think we all have different needs and tolerances.

    Interesting post, I look forward to seeing what others say...
     
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    When it happened to me I felt less desirable, not depressed though.
     
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    I've heard one's penis can fall off without the proper amount of usage.
     
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    FRUSTRATION!!! I never get enough! Some health issues with my husband has resulted in some ED issues but I am way more sexually driven then he is so I do not get enough sex by any means. I end up getting frustrated and I do get down about it. I do not condone cheating but I can see why one would at times.:eek: The fence post looks good certain times of the month to me:rolleyes:
     
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    And all joking aside, aren't "blueballs" supposed to be a legit problem for guys who aren't getting enough sexual activity?
     
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    That's not true. I am living proof... :rolleyes:
     
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    Perhaps one should consider taking you into a lab and studying your cock.:biggrin1: I'm sure Mr.Boy would help you out... and Mr3000 might like the testing.
     
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    Isn't sexual energy transferable?

    If I'm not getting any, and am feeling pent up, I generally can go blow some steam off at the gym or take a long bike ride. Then, once I jack off, there's no residual sexual energy left.

    Don't artists sublimate sexual energy into creating stuff?

    Maybe sexual energy is just one manifestation of the total energy package and can be released in a variety of ways.
     
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    I'd think physical contact would be the key factor but there has been suggestion that not just the penetrative aspect but the ejaculate itself contains hormones that can act as mood elevators.

    Semen acts as an anti-depressant - 26 June 2002 - New Scientist

    Just one of those things that make you go "hmm".
     
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    If my partner denied me for a long period, I imagine I would feel punished, start to question my overall desirability as a person, and my self-esteem would nosedive.

    I love to love, touch, kiss, cuddle, and have sex, I couldn't go very long without that sort of contact and if forced to, especially in marriage, due to some outmoded, impractical code of ethics, I would wither into a glum, mean, sanctimonious ass.

    However, since I condone cheating and polyamory, I would hope not to find myself in the situation.
     
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    Your user name will turn out to be d-low1, to answer the question.
     
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    Damn, I'm gonna stop getting rid of my spooge then. I have none to spare! No wonder monks are so giddy. :biggrin1:
     
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    JAMA had an article last month about the importance for guys 18-30 to unload a lot of goo on a regular basis to prevent prostate cancer later in life.
     
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