What Are The Things Your Spouse/Boyfriend/Girlfriend Loves About You?

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My boyfriend says he loves my energy and "vibe" - that "you make me feel like everything will be okay".
It's the most romantic thing any guy has ever told me.
I've always been told I act just like my grandmother, and that I'm an old soul and very maternal (my aunt is a great-grandmother now, and my sister is a grandmother, so I guess it runs in the family).

I had a family friend who spoke with my entire extended family about me and he told me, "I heard all the stories about you and your grandmother. You're just like her. You're all about courtship."
For a homophobe like him to say that (and we've argued about his homophobia before), for the second time in my life, I felt seen and understood.

The first time was with my boyfriend, and his "energy" and "vibe" statement, which also made me feel seen; I almost cried because I used to get bullied for being so maternal and nurturing (due to gender roles as well - my family is ultra homophobic and they'd do the "Real men do this", "Real men do that", "If you don't cut your nails, they're going to call you a sissy." - that was the dynamic, but they just let me be me now.

I went through a lot (especially with my crazy family and a lot of my exes), and my boyfriend is the first man I've ever known, besides my dad (who died when my parents were contemplating filing for divorce at the time), who understood me.
I've always been rebellious and the "black sheep", who says things people are too terrified to say; before I met my boyfriend, I'd been in so many relationships, I thought it was time to become an eternal bachelor.
But I truly found my soulmate.

The things I love about him, are his sense of humor; we have the same insecurity about our teeth; he has the same work ethic as my parents (both my parents were ahead of their time, but had class disparity issues); my boyfriend is also socially conscious like I am (he protested at a BLM march); he's also big on preserving his family's traditions and cultures, since he's biracial (and my grandfather and great-grandfather were both biracial, and that was 1891 and 1926 - back when you kept those things private); so we bonded on so many things and we truly love each other.
 

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Should I put my advice cap on even though you didn’t ask for it? Lol… I’m sure you know what’s right for YOU! And, CONGRATULATIONS On the move!!!!

Yes, I love Erik to death. We were meant for each other. He say’s that all the time, that or he’ll text me something like, “I am just watching you walking towards the car with your stuff, and I just thanked God personally that you’re in my life…dang, and you’re SEXY AF!”

lol… I love those simple things. They ARE the most attractive things, and get me revved up too!

JEFF
 

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Should I put my advice cap on even though you didn’t ask for it? Lol… I’m sure you know what’s right for YOU! And, CONGRATULATIONS On the move!!!!

Yes, I love Erik to death. We were meant for each other. He say’s that all the time, that or he’ll text me something like, “I am just watching you walking towards the car with your stuff, and I just thanked God personally that you’re in my life…dang, and you’re SEXY AF!”

lol… I love those simple things. They ARE the most attractive things, and get me revved up too!

JEFF
Thank you!
And that's true love - I've got true love too, which is why I decided to leave the only life I've known (in my hometown in New Jersey) to discover the unknown, across the country, in California.
 

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Thank you!
And that's true love - I've got true love too, which is why I decided to leave the only life I've known (in my hometown in New Jersey) to discover the unknown, across the country, in California.
Oh, honey… we need to talk. I did the same thing…lol! Just kidding…, but, I did move for someone…urrggg, I learned early on to NEVER to do that again, but…we all have different outcomes, and mine just didn’t work out at the time. I also had a LOT of growing up to do…Oh well. In the end, it worked out great!

To be honest, I REALLY DO HOPE that everything works out EXCELLENT for YOU And HIM!

CHEERS!

kisses to both of you on your pink parts ❤️
JEFF
 

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In the beginning, (it's over now) but there were some really special things he said and did to make me know there were things he loved about me. When we first met (he was married, btw) he'd had sinus surgery. We were under the guise of just friends, and I was going to be at their house to help out when he came home from the surgery. He'd told me his wife was so unsympathetic to his needs. I remember late that night alone in his man cave, he held my hand with a tear in his eye and told me he was so glad I was there for him. I never even thought of sex, but he kept promising me a blowjob that night when everyone went to bed. The thought of a blowjob after his ordeal turned me on insanely but I didn't dare push it. He ended up going down on me at midnight that night on the sofa. I was so turned on I almost shot immediately. To feel the expertise of his talented mouth on my sensitive cock and thinking about his crazy desire to suck my cock and take my load under the circumstances. The release he gave me that night was intense even though I was uneasy about his post-op surgery condition. I never worked harder to constrain moaning during that blowjob.

Another time we'd gone out to get a few things and were standing in line waiting to pay at a store. I noticed a woman smile at me in such a friendly way but didn't think anything of it. He had noticed her too and as he told me later, he noticed her a lot more than I did. He later told me he wanted to tell her, as he quoted, "he's mine, get your eyes off of him."

He used to tell me I had a cute nose, lol. He even pointed it out to me in a picture once. It's good to feel loved and these were good memories even though it's over now.
 

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In the beginning, (it's over now) but there were some really special things he said and did to make me know there were things he loved about me. When we first met (he was married, btw) he'd had sinus surgery. We were under the guise of just friends, and I was going to be at their house to help out when he came home from the surgery. He'd told me his wife was so unsympathetic to his needs. I remember late that night alone in his man cave, he held my hand with a tear in his eye and told me he was so glad I was there for him. I never even thought of sex, but he kept promising me a blowjob that night when everyone went to bed. The thought of a blowjob after his ordeal turned me on insanely but I didn't dare push it. He ended up going down on me at midnight that night on the sofa. I was so turned on I almost shot immediately. To feel the expertise of his talented mouth on my sensitive cock and thinking about his crazy desire to suck my cock and take my load under the circumstances. The release he gave me that night was intense even though I was uneasy about his post-op surgery condition. I never worked harder to constrain moaning during that blowjob.

Another time we'd gone out to get a few things and were standing in line waiting to pay at a store. I noticed a woman smile at me in such a friendly way but didn't think anything of it. He had noticed her too and as he told me later, he noticed her a lot more than I did. He later told me he wanted to tell her, as he quoted, "he's mine, get your eyes off of him."

He used to tell me I had a cute nose, lol. He even pointed it out to me in a picture once. It's good to feel loved and these were good memories even though it's over now.
You guys broke up?
I'm sorry to hear that.
What led to the relationship being over?
 

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My husband says one of the things he admires the most about me is my pure and open honesty.

And one of thing things that drives him mad is how open I can be with that honesty. Straight shooter and shoots straight from the hip.

I think it's best for people to know where I stand when the situation warrants.

So honesty and my butt. He says he truly loves my butt.
 

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He loves that I'm an outstanding cock sucker. I suck cock like a pro, heart and soul into it.

I love that he's a good person, a nice guy. He's also a very good clit sucker.
 
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Mine usually tells me he loves me for my honesty .. and sense of humor.. and in the bedroom I am open to do anything he wants ..that there’s no label if he’s a top bottom or likes spanking or being spanked.. and anything else pleasurable.. that everything in bedroom is an equal thing we have ..
 

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Mine usually tells me he loves me for my honesty .. and sense of humor.. and in the bedroom I am open to do anything he wants ..that there’s no label if he’s a top bottom or likes spanking or being spanked.. and anything else pleasurable.. that everything in bedroom is an equal thing we have ..
That's beautiful.
I'm poly now, with 2 boyfriends - and we're still in the honeymoon phase (I've dated #1 for 6 months and #2 for around 1 month now).
So I only wish to have an amazing love like yours.
 

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My husband and I first started living together in Tokyo—he’s Japanese, and was a bit of a fixture on the gay scene. We had a gay guest from abroad, and I was assigned to show him around Shinjuku Ni-Chome, the gay bar district. Our guest was on the dance floor flirting with all the cute guys, and I hung back at the bar. Got to chatting with the bartender, and explained that I had a partner so wasn’t out flirting. It came up in conversation that we lived in Toranomon, and the bartender asked if I was Ma-kun (an affectionate way in Japanese to make my name into a nickname). He was an aquaintance of my husband, and knew that his new love interest was a tall bald foreigner, with a body he described as beefy, in a good way. “He mentioned that you were very intelligent,” said the bartender. I was a little surprised, since I had never viewed our relationship as terribly cerebral! It was kinda nice.