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My boyfriend says he loves my energy and "vibe" - that "you make me feel like everything will be okay".
It's the most romantic thing any guy has ever told me.
I've always been told I act just like my grandmother, and that I'm an old soul and very maternal (my aunt is a great-grandmother now, and my sister is a grandmother, so I guess it runs in the family).
I had a family friend who spoke with my entire extended family about me and he told me, "I heard all the stories about you and your grandmother. You're just like her. You're all about courtship."
For a homophobe like him to say that (and we've argued about his homophobia before), for the second time in my life, I felt seen and understood.
The first time was with my boyfriend, and his "energy" and "vibe" statement, which also made me feel seen; I almost cried because I used to get bullied for being so maternal and nurturing (due to gender roles as well - my family is ultra homophobic and they'd do the "Real men do this", "Real men do that", "If you don't cut your nails, they're going to call you a sissy." - that was the dynamic, but they just let me be me now.
I went through a lot (especially with my crazy family and a lot of my exes), and my boyfriend is the first man I've ever known, besides my dad (who died when my parents were contemplating filing for divorce at the time), who understood me.
I've always been rebellious and the "black sheep", who says things people are too terrified to say; before I met my boyfriend, I'd been in so many relationships, I thought it was time to become an eternal bachelor.
But I truly found my soulmate.
The things I love about him, are his sense of humor; we have the same insecurity about our teeth; he has the same work ethic as my parents (both my parents were ahead of their time, but had class disparity issues); my boyfriend is also socially conscious like I am (he protested at a BLM march); he's also big on preserving his family's traditions and cultures, since he's biracial (and my grandfather and great-grandfather were both biracial, and that was 1891 and 1926 - back when you kept those things private); so we bonded on so many things and we truly love each other.
It's the most romantic thing any guy has ever told me.
I've always been told I act just like my grandmother, and that I'm an old soul and very maternal (my aunt is a great-grandmother now, and my sister is a grandmother, so I guess it runs in the family).
I had a family friend who spoke with my entire extended family about me and he told me, "I heard all the stories about you and your grandmother. You're just like her. You're all about courtship."
For a homophobe like him to say that (and we've argued about his homophobia before), for the second time in my life, I felt seen and understood.
The first time was with my boyfriend, and his "energy" and "vibe" statement, which also made me feel seen; I almost cried because I used to get bullied for being so maternal and nurturing (due to gender roles as well - my family is ultra homophobic and they'd do the "Real men do this", "Real men do that", "If you don't cut your nails, they're going to call you a sissy." - that was the dynamic, but they just let me be me now.
I went through a lot (especially with my crazy family and a lot of my exes), and my boyfriend is the first man I've ever known, besides my dad (who died when my parents were contemplating filing for divorce at the time), who understood me.
I've always been rebellious and the "black sheep", who says things people are too terrified to say; before I met my boyfriend, I'd been in so many relationships, I thought it was time to become an eternal bachelor.
But I truly found my soulmate.
The things I love about him, are his sense of humor; we have the same insecurity about our teeth; he has the same work ethic as my parents (both my parents were ahead of their time, but had class disparity issues); my boyfriend is also socially conscious like I am (he protested at a BLM march); he's also big on preserving his family's traditions and cultures, since he's biracial (and my grandfather and great-grandfather were both biracial, and that was 1891 and 1926 - back when you kept those things private); so we bonded on so many things and we truly love each other.