What are you looking for?

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I've been with a number of bi-curious guys and I thought I understood what they're generally looking for, but now I'm not as sure.

Usually, it seems like they're interested to try things they can't do with a woman, which makes sense to me. They want to feel another man's dick, maybe take it in their mouths, get him off.

I'm getting ready to meet up with a new guy, though, and he says he wants to start with me giving him a massage and then he wants a bj from me. He's in a long-term relationship with a woman, though, and these are things she can do for him, so I'm not clear on why he wants to do this with a man. I'm happy to oblige him, of course, but I don't really understand the point. He says that, in time, he thinks he may want to blow me, but not at first.

Anyway, this all has me wondering: Is there a typical bi-curious fantasy? I see on another thread on this page that many are looking for suck buddies, but they're having a hard time finding them. I'm a fairly good-looking, discreet gay guy who is not into anal sex and prefers to be with straight or bi guys. I would think I'm a bi guy's wet dream, and indeed, I have a number of bi friends, but they're so terrified of their gf's or wives finding out that our plans keep getting aborted at the last minute.

Also, are bi guys ever interested in forming a personal / emotional connection with another guy?

I would like to find a compatible guy, be able to talk and enjoy each other's company, have a beer or meal or watch a movie, get each other off, then have him go home. An occasional sleepover would be fine, but I'm not looking for a husband. Would you, as a bi guy, find this idea appealing? Does it help when you know that I have no interest in anal? Or are you looking for that as part of the experience?

Basically, this is all a long-winded way of asking "What the hell do you guys want??" :confused13:
 

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I think most of the guys looking for a bj are doing so because their S.O. will not do that for them. Several of the guys I've blown have said this. Yes I would be in a one-on-one relationship with the right guy. All of the guy's I've been with so far are married, got a single guy coming over tonight who is looking for a regular, as his previous has vanished on him. Hopefully I can do him good enough he wants to cum back for more. My married friends have such a difficult time getting away from their wives. I sense it is more frustrating for them than it is for me.

I've done anal twice, and like to say I am total submissive oral, but total dominant anal. Anal is not happening unless I want it to happen. Occasionally I itch down there and it needs scratching. Been using dildos all my life since my teens, but will let the right guy do it for me if he is there at the time I need it.

Other than that, always up for a nice mouthful of cum. Guy coming around tonight has been saving up for me, so it ought to be a good one.
 
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What you need to understand first and foremost is that there is no right way to be bisexual. It varies greatly and it depends on how comfortable the guy is with himself. Not all us bi guys go with guys just to experience what we can't with a woman. Sounds to me like this new guy you're about to see hasn't had much experience with a guy, and wants to start with what's familiar. It could be that he is nervous about jumping into those acts. Or he knows what he likes, and who's to say he can't enjoy it with either gender.

There's also a difference between being bi-curious, on the down low, and being an open bisexual. There are all kind of stages that exist around our kind, and self discovery can be quite taxing and frightening and confusing. For me, as an open and comfortable bisexual, I certainly have no problem developing a romance or relationship with a man or woman.

To answer your question in a nutshell, you can never know what bisexual guys want in general. All of us are individual with different attitudes, likes, and fears. I suggest you get a feel for each person, instead of trying to figure them out by their sexuality. If anything, trying to presume something about every bisexual will drive you crazy!
 

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As far as hanging out, and chilling, and hanging out with a bi guy, no strings attached, sure that's feasible! I just wanted a friend that I could have a good time with and get off with all the time as I was getting into my late teens and early twenties. The idea still sounds nice and ideal if under the right circumstances. If you look hard enough, I'm sure you can find him!
 

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I think a large percentage of Bisexual men who live heterosexually fall the side of the spectrum where they really only feel emotional, romantic feelings for women, but have feelings of pure lust over men.

They understand that for most women, sex is intimately tied to emotional relationship... but that, for men, sex CAN be a strictly animalistic release.

What they are looking for is sex with someone who thinks the way a Man thinks about sex... that, sometimes, its just about the release... with no emotional strings attached.

Men are horny fuck fiends... and most male hetero porn deals with the ultimate male hetero fantasy... that of Women who crave nasty mindless sex just as much as men do.

Think about it... the women in porn films act like men... they want it so bad they'll do anything with anyone, they can't resist the sight of a boner, they suck like its the most important thing in their lives....

In short... the male fantasy is that women want US with the same physically raw intensity with which we want Them. ( which is simply not the case )

Part of the appeal of male on male sex for many hetero-prefering bisexual men is this understanding that other men just WANT IT as bad as you do.
That another guy isn't doing YOU a favor by sucking your cock, rather You are doing HIM the favor of Letting him suck it.... cause he really does crave it.


This is the appeal. This is why men want a suck buddy... they seek sex that is hot and intense... but OVER when its done... until the pressure builds again.

They like the idea of male sexual intensity... and want it as effortless as hanging with a friend.
 

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Sorry, this was a reply to markrf. Fl. Bi/Down-low. & I want it all. But you said your not in to the arse. Does this mean(You) dont top,cause thats what i want Just giving you my resume.
 
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I think a large percentage of Bisexual men who live heterosexually fall the side of the spectrum where they really only feel emotional, romantic feelings for women, but have feelings of pure lust over men.

They understand that for most women, sex is intimately tied to emotional relationship... but that, for men, sex CAN be a strictly animalistic release.

What they are looking for is sex with someone who thinks the way a Man thinks about sex... that, sometimes, its just about the release... with no emotional strings attached.

Men are horny fuck fiends... and most male hetero porn deals with the ultimate male hetero fantasy... that of Women who crave nasty mindless sex just as much as men do.

Think about it... the women in porn films act like men... they want it so bad they'll do anything with anyone, they can't resist the sight of a boner, they suck like its the most important thing in their lives....

In short... the male fantasy is that women want US with the same physically raw intensity with which we want Them. ( which is simply not the case )

Part of the appeal of male on male sex for many hetero-prefering bisexual men is this understanding that other men just WANT IT as bad as you do.
That another guy isn't doing YOU a favor by sucking your cock, rather You are doing HIM the favor of Letting him suck it.... cause he really does crave it.


This is the appeal. This is why men want a suck buddy... they seek sex that is hot and intense... but OVER when its done... until the pressure builds again.

They like the idea of male sexual intensity... and want it as effortless as hanging with a friend.


This is a great read Phil, very insightful...and I agree with you!
I also like what @kjguy said, that there is no right way to bisexual, it's something that just "is." We are all different, and we have all different want, needs, and desires. But, I do like the way you broke it down!
 

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I think a large percentage of Bisexual men who live heterosexually fall the side of the spectrum where they really only feel emotional, romantic feelings for women, but have feelings of pure lust over men.

They understand that for most women, sex is intimately tied to emotional relationship... but that, for men, sex CAN be a strictly animalistic release.

What they are looking for is sex with someone who thinks the way a Man thinks about sex... that, sometimes, its just about the release... with no emotional strings attached.

Men are horny fuck fiends... and most male hetero porn deals with the ultimate male hetero fantasy... that of Women who crave nasty mindless sex just as much as men do.

Think about it... the women in porn films act like men... they want it so bad they'll do anything with anyone, they can't resist the sight of a boner, they suck like its the most important thing in their lives....

In short... the male fantasy is that women want US with the same physically raw intensity with which we want Them. ( which is simply not the case )

Part of the appeal of male on male sex for many hetero-prefering bisexual men is this understanding that other men just WANT IT as bad as you do.
That another guy isn't doing YOU a favor by sucking your cock, rather You are doing HIM the favor of Letting him suck it.... cause he really does crave it.


This is the appeal. This is why men want a suck buddy... they seek sex that is hot and intense... but OVER when its done... until the pressure builds again.

They like the idea of male sexual intensity... and want it as effortless as hanging with a friend.


I totally agree! I seek a male friend, usually married guy that enjoys having his cock sucked. I have in the past had friends like these and they are fun and enjoyable. I know my role and what I am called for when they call me over for a quickie! It is something that I enjoy doing and get a great satisfaction from it. Having a buddy that enjoys having his cock sucked on the Low Down is exciting for me and the guy too. I agree they are doing me a favor of letting me suck their cock. After that we are buddies that can hang out, go to the game with, go fishing with....and that also will suck his cock without reciprocation on my part. It is just what I am and what I enjoy doing.