What Are Your Opinions On Celibacy?

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This might seem like a strange topic for a forum dedicated to sex and large dicks, but what does everyone here think of celibacy? Not stupid incel shit, but voluntary celibacy. Is it stupid? Do you think it is a noble act? Would you ever consider being celibate? Have you ever met someone who was celibate?

I have been celibate for over a year now and don't really miss sex. I do want to have sex again in the future, but I don't feel like pursuing it. Sexually I feel very happy with just masturbation, erotica and porn. Does anyone share my situation?

BTW, this thread has nothing to do with penis size so let's keep that talk out of the thread.
 

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I am voluntarily celibate and have been for several years. It’s neither stupid, nor noble. It’s a lifestyle choice. I’ve had more than my fair share of sex in my life, had different types of sexual relationships, and came to the realization that for myself that none of it was making me happy. Pursuing relationships weren’t making me happy, either. I’m a handful, as some people like to say. :grinning:

I’ve never been happier nor more content than being on my own. There’s nothing wrong with my libido, but I don’t want sex without monogamy. And I do not want a relationship. I’m not saying never, but it would have to be one hell of a person to change my relationship status. Celibacy is easy once you get used to it. This site, with it’s creepy people, makes it really easy!
 

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I go through intermittent periods of voluntary celibacy. I enjoy it. I don't consider it noble or stupid. When I'm in a celibate phase, my main thoughts are: no emotional rollercoasters related to dating and no worries of STDs. When I do so, I normally go to sexting and camming, and not porn. Porn isn't interactive enough to pique my interest. And for masturbation, I reminisce about past sexual experiences or imagine missed opportunities. On a non-sexual level, I focus on seeing friends and having "me time" (which I really enjoy). Then randomly I'll stop my celibate phase and have sex again. It's usually random whether I'm in a celibate or non-celibate phase, but it's always voluntary. It's just what I fancy at the time.
 

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I think Celibacy is underrated.

If I were to find myself alone, I would be celibate. Kinda like @LaFemme describes.

I've not the energy nor the mindset for all the games and whatnot described around this site and those that my single friends endure in their pursuit of love. But that doesn't mean I would not entertain a relationship.

It would just have to be more like a natural fit than work. I'm too old to train another one, lol. I'm serious about the old part.

BTW Wally, nice thread topic. I hope more folks will chime in with their thoughts.
 
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I've always found celibacy really natural, almost a default setting. I went for several years in my early 20s - at my most randy - without sex and scarcely missed it. I'm introverted and ungregarious. I never feel calmer and more myself than when alone. At the same time, I do enjoy intimacy with one other person in a monogamous relationship. Overall, with the right person, it's far more rewarding than not, no question for me. Sex is part of that but not crucial. I could have a loving, long-term relationship without sex quite easily. It wouldn’t be perfect but it would be fine.

My current partnership works well partly because we don’t overload it. We’re not married or civilly partnered. That doesn’t attract either of us and I can’t help noticing that most of my gay married friends are in sexless relationships or get sex outside of marriage. We're not economically bound. We don’t live together but have separate pads within a 10 minute walk. We both like our own space - it's great to spend time together without being on top of the other. We seldom argue and aren’t mean when we do. The sex is still really good. But I think the main thing is a fairly easy-going and unburdened intimacy. Perhaps that sounds smug or cynical, anyway it works for us.
 

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I've always found celibacy really natural, almost a default setting. I went for several years in my early 20s - at my most randy - without sex and scarcely missed it. I'm introverted and ungregarious. I never feel calmer and more myself than when alone. At the same time, I do enjoy intimacy with one other person in a monogamous relationship. Overall, with the right person, it's far more rewarding than not, no question for me. Sex is part of that but not crucial. I could have a loving, long-term relationship without sex quite easily. It wouldn’t be perfect but it would be fine.

My current partnership works well partly because we don’t overload it. We’re not married or civilly partnered. That doesn’t attract either of us and I can’t help noticing that most of my gay married friends are in sexless relationships or get sex outside of marriage. We're not economically bound. We don’t live together but have separate pads within a 10 minute walk. We both like our own space - it's great to spend time together without being on top of the other. We seldom argue and aren’t mean when we do. The sex is still really good. But I think the main thing is a fairly easy-going and unburdened intimacy. Perhaps that sounds smug or cynical, anyway it works for us.

Your words paint a picture that I clearly see. And totally get.

Like you, I'm wired for monogamy. As I've become more introverted as I've aged, I find I really need my alone time; that's when I recharge.

We, though, are economically bound. When gay marriage became legal in the U.S., we decided, after 37 years together and a few serious medical issues behind us, we'd marry for all the protections that provided.

Like you, our life works for us. Really well. Going on 42 years now--we're doing something right. :)
 

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keep in mind that celibacy also refers to abstaining from marriage too so it's just not sex in its entirety.

i don't know if i could be celibate however i have no issues abstaining from sex for long periods of time if i have to or need to. perhaps i've had enough sex in my lifetime thus far that it's no longer a requirement for my life moving forward. i do enjoy sex and will engage in it when the opportunity presents itself and i'm in the mood, as well as whom it's with.

i do have a couple of friends who are asexual and they have zero interest in sex with another person yet have romantic interests still. there's a whole ball of wax to compartmentalize. :)
 

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In my opinion it is neither noble nor stupid. People should do what they need to do. There may be stupid reasons for being celibate, but it's still an individual choice that doesn't affect me, so I have no right to judge. I may have met celibate people but don't know, as nobody volunteered and I certainly would not ask.

I would definitely not want celibacy as pertains marriage. I thrive as a husband.

I could be celibate from sex, but it would not be my choice. I really enjoy intimacy and both the physical and emotional aspects of sex.

I don't hold any judgment for or against anyone's choices regarding celibacy.
 
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Your words paint a picture that I clearly see. And totally get.

Like you, I'm wired for monogamy. As I've become more introverted as I've aged, I find I really need my alone time; that's when I recharge.

We, though, are economically bound. When gay marriage became legal in the U.S., we decided, after 37 years together and a few serious medical issues behind us, we'd marry for all the protections that provided.

Like you, our life works for us. Really well. Going on 42 years now--we're doing something right. :)
42 years, wow, congrats, definitely doing something right :)
 

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56 year old guy here. The longest i have gone without has been 15 days since I became sexually active.
 

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I don't particularly like the term incel. I know what people mean when they say it, but I think it can be unnecessarily divisive and insensitive in certain contexts, and... it seems like we already have better words for what people really mean when they say it.

There are lots of people out there who are celibate involuntarily, whether that be from injury or disability, or from other stressors or psychological factors in their lives -- or even just for practical reasons -- and I don't think the very deliberate connotations of the word are supposed to apply to all these people equally.

I think periods of celibacy in one's life can be a very healthy choice at certain times. We all go through many stages of rediscovering ourselves sexually throughout our lives and, sometimes, a little distance from the sexual arena can be positive. A person's sex life is their life and, it's a marathon, not a sprint.

Being voluntarily celibate before marriage for religious/cultural reasons, on the one hand, often can seem a very strange choice to me. But I try not to judge it out of hand -- generally a good place to start is by giving others the same respect that you would expect in return.
 
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Whether someone is being celibate or not is not going to make one iota difference to the world. Good or bad.

This decision of being sexually active or not in a world full of sexual activity, promiscuity, procreation for survival, is purely personal and for personal purpose and reasons only...whether too or not.

If one wishes not to procreate and become extinct........then so be it. Done.

But hey, if you wish to bring G..O..D into the equation...something about 'go forth and multiply" comes to mind.
 

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Personally, I have almost 0 interest in sex and is say about 10-15% interest in a relationship. So, I find celibacy natural and welcoming ( I consider myself on the Asexual spectrum).

But, in my opinion, celibacy can give people the time, energy, and emotion strength to figure themselves out. I've had too many friends come to me for advice about their relationship, which is weird because I've never been in one, and have broken up with their significant other multiple times. I guess what I'm saying a lot of people would rather be stressed and put others through hardship than be single for even a second.
 

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I was celibate for 2 years after my last split....years ago now. Had an old pc that only was good for business....then bought a new pc which hooked back up to the internet....then discovered adult match making.....so ended ..well 2 of the best years of my life.
 
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Personally, I have almost 0 interest in sex and is say about 10-15% interest in a relationship. So, I find celibacy natural and welcoming ( I consider myself on the Asexual spectrum).

But, in my opinion, celibacy can give people the time, energy, and emotion strength to figure themselves out. I've had too many friends come to me for advice about their relationship, which is weird because I've never been in one, and have broken up with their significant other multiple times. I guess what I'm saying a lot of people would rather be stressed and put others through hardship than be single for even a second.

Your from Alabamy...your first love and sole interest has to be guns...: ) :)
 
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