Great question and some very good answers!
For me....hmmmm. Let's see.
Pretty much depends upon "the mood" initiating the romance and (the approximate) time available to "see what happens"
Lighting? I prefer (some)....(low lights are great.)
Seldom "total darkness".
'Kinda like the notion of sunlight (moonlight)
and gentle breezes moving the curtains!
Bathe First? Yes. Softens her/our skin and enhances
the "unwinding / relaxing" mood. Jacuzzi
or hot tub-relaxing by both of us (first)
would be just great! Don't forget the
candles and the "bubbly".
Make-up? Optional (although I DO like the attention
given to her eyes (lashes and brows). I
find eyemakeup (when it's done REALLY
correctly!) to be quite a turn-on! A little
perfume is nice, too!
Lingerie? Like it! Black "teddies"--whoa!
Other ideas---soft, pastel "sheer"
type
"things"-----well, one gets the idea.
Simple colorful gowns can do it for me, too.
Shy / Bold Again....depends on the mood leading into
the moment ahead. I'll cooperate!
I've learned to put her needs first as I can.
Often, just let her determine the direction.
If she "starts out" slow, I will, too. I
especially like it when "the heat gets turned
up" (so to speak) about say, half-way along.
Hence, the "bolder" then begins. ;D
It's also nice, when she is feeling "frisky"
and simply takes the lead and approaches
ME and immediately things get "bold"
rather quickly. ---Ahem.
Funny how "the mood" can be introduced so subtly.
Wrapping up our doing the dishes together and I'll whisper in her ear or, she nudges me awake gently early in the morning....hence--doesn't take much!
(There. Have I covered everything?)