what assumptions do people make about you?

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How does everyone know what assumptions people make?
Do they walk up to you like, "Oh hi, I'm assuming you 're really wealthy, nice to meet you!"
I don't get it????
 

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How does everyone know what assumptions people make?
Do they walk up to you like, "Oh hi, I'm assuming you 're really wealthy, nice to meet you!"
I don't get it????

I'm wondering the same thing.:confused:

Maybe they are mind readers.
 

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How does everyone know what assumptions people make?
Do they walk up to you like, "Oh hi, I'm assuming you 're really wealthy, nice to meet you!"
I don't get it????

It's easy when you continue talking to these people. Eventually some of them say "I thought you were so and so.". More often a negative comment than positive, when they bring it up. Essentially, you don't live up to what they expect of you and they have the balls to tell you. Sometimes you exceed what they expect but that's less often admitted and is more often taken as a back-handed compliment anyway.

Then there are those that will say "You seem like the kind of guy that..." in various situations.

Then there are people that will insist you are such an such way without basis other than looks and maybe one or two short interactions. "He's totally blahblahblah!!!"

Another situation - you are talking about something you're into and someone comments or interjects with a "What?!" or "Really, you blah blahblah?" or "I would never have thought you blabhlah!" It's really easy to read into what people assume about you after a while.
 
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that im a "player" with girls , that my name is "rico suave" lol , that im a sex freak ,
some are true , well all of them , i did tend to have a lot of girlfriends in school , and the whole "rico suave " well thats was a nick name i got for being a danm good latin dancer, slasa , merengue you name it .... you know that saying that good dancer make fantastic lovers in bed , well thats 100% true , i guess thats where the sex freak part comes along .haha
 

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I'm very well hung/endowed. Nah, I'm pretty eh, normal.

I'm fully straight. No way I could be queer.

I'm a ladies' man, I get all the ladies. I can pick up anyone I want. HA!

I'm a "good" boy who never breaks the rules.
 

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decided not to read through thread this time before responding even though i usually meticulously do. maybe this way i don't measure my response overmuch.

i think a fair portion of people assume i am a nice sweet girl who is mild-mannered and not very opinionated. that's a little true, since i act that way in a lot of situations. but i hate to be calculatingly looked at most of the time (and i feel very sensitive to this visual/other scrutiny; can tell). i am a lot different in a one-on-one basis with people i trust. i couldn't really be me in those situations (where i feel too studied, where i sense too many expectations i cannot live up to). i am a version of me. i have said it is like my operating sense of "i" is gone in those times. i just act like whatever i think i am supposed to be like (cordial, good listener, raconteur) so i do not have to deal with the current moment in a personal way. i ... check out.

probably delete this later, or i'd want to anyway.
 
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People always assume that i am a really good girl. The type of girl who would be super vanilla. Truth is that i am one of the kinkiest subs in my city that has no pain threshold.

Apperantly that I am a pom due to my articulation. I am from a farm in the outback.

That I am high maintenance. I am not. I am into roughing it and hiking.

People assume that i am a teenager or 22 at the most. I am a lot older then that and i have 2 kids.

Other parents assume that i must be an airhead young mum into drinking and had my kids as a teenager.

People assume that i am way out of their league so i mostly get hit on by professional sportsmen.In truth I am a chubby chaser and love larger people.

People assume that i must ooze selfconfidence and that i am really cool. Not true. I hate how i look and i am just too lazy to follow fashion. Plus how can i climb trees in heels and skirt.

People assume that i am social and that i must go out lots and have lots of friends. I have Autism so the total oppisite is true.
 
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and on what basis do they make them?

That I am lazy and that I am filthy based upon my working as a sanitation (trash) man.

It's hard work, we often have to work extra shifts, we have to clean up after any public event, and we are super clean because we shower after our shift is over and often again when we get home.


Other assumptions have been made according to my appearance.....height, weight, clothing. I pay no attention to it.
 

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I think people assume I have many friends since I'm so friendly. That's not true and sadly I'm not sure why. I must have some quirk that annoys others to go further than acquaintances.

Since I have a big frame and am black, everyone assumed I played football during High School. They also assume I play basketball.

People assume that I have a girlfriend which is always surprising to me.

People probably assume I eat like a slob due to my weight, turns out I had a huge hormone problem and a slight thyroid problem.

And there's the stereotypes most people assume about blacks: Like rap(Dislike most of it) Likes watermelon(nope) Fried Chicken(Haha very true!) Well hung(More like just average)
 

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Generally what people think about me, is that I am married or living with someone. And when they find out I'm not, then I must at least be dating all the time! Even after they get to know me well, they are still pretty shocked that I'm single. People assume that I go out all the time, and that I am very extroverted - I am not. I am very much a homebody and while I trained myself to be an extrovert I am a natural introvert.

Other than that, I pretty much present as I am.
 

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How does everyone know what assumptions people make?
Do they walk up to you like, "Oh hi, I'm assuming you 're really wealthy, nice to meet you!"
I don't get it????

Because I talk to them. For instance, people used to say, "I thought you were gay." Or they'll make remarks about my salary. Or they'll say things to my wife that get back to me.
 

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It depends upon how people get to know me.
People who know me thru my writings assume I am very serious and or confrontational.

People who get to know me thru meeting me assume that I am incapable of being serious about anything.

In both instances they seem to find this annoying.
 

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Since I have a big frame and am black, everyone assumed I played football during High School. They also assume I play basketball.

Confession: I recently met a college student, black, obviously a football player (not based on his race but his size) and when he told me he had gone to a small, rural Catholic liberal arts school (where he played football), I almost choked on my drink. I never would have considered an inner city black kid in a place like that. He later transferred to a historic black university and quit football, but that's beside the point.
 

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i have been pondering...

age - goes either way, folks think i am years younger than my actual age. or years older.

gender - until about a two years ago it was not uncommon for women to assume i was dude. going back to the younger thang, to heaps of folks i could pass as a young guy. hair changes, workout = body changes have me solidly in the girl camp. i'm still not comfortable in girlie camp.

sexuality - this one is dead on... folks think i am queer and kink. might be shocking, i do enjoy a snuggle-cuddle fuck from time to time.

negative assumptions....

drug addict - pale does not equal a heroin habit, people. :rolleyes:

thief/criminal - Dear Sales Person, i know hard sale from following someone you think might be a potential shoplifter. Dear Lady in the Elevator, i'm a girl. and i don't wanna rob/rape you. :smile:

gutter-rat - hasn't happened recently... but.. depending on which downtown i'm in, folks randomly give me money. *blink*

eating disorder - please stop feeding me. honestly, i eat a lot. i know how to cook *damn well, too*

batshit crazy - well.. can't really debate that one :tongue1:
 

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I'd love to hear how you did that, LaFemme. Sounds very encouraging.

It took a long time, but the basic premise is acting "as if" you were that type of person. I acted "as if" I were an extroverted person, how I imagined a person like that would act. I created a persona outside myself and behaved like that. Eventually, it became true. I am a public speaker, emcee events and am a schmoozer extraordinaire. But still being a natural introvert, it takes a huge amount of energy, and I need time alone to recuperate. It's been good for me professionally and personally, but it did take dedication towards making it so.
 

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I get the dumb jock stereotype quite often, most people are surprised that I'm so good at my job. Most of the people I interact with in the business see me as a former athlete and assume I got the position because of those connections, but I'm passionate about my work and I pride myself by getting it based on merits.