What can go wrong with net dating WOW

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    ADELAIDE, Australia - An Australian farmer held hostage in Mali for 12 days by a gang of men who had posed as an online love interest has urged others to be careful when seeking romance on the Internet.
    Des Gregor, 56, traveled to the West African nation last month to meet his supposed bride, whom he had met on the Internet, and collect a dowry of gold bars worth $85,000.
    But when he arrived, the wheat and sheep farmer was abducted by a gang of armed bandits who bound him, beat him with a machete and stole his cash and credit cards.
    Gregor, who returned to his home state of South Australia with a police escort late Sunday, said the men told him they would hack his limbs off with a machete unless he paid them a $85,000 ransom.
    The scam was stopped when Australian and Malian police, alerted by Gregor's family in Australia, tricked the kidnappers into taking Gregor to the Canadian Embassy to collect the ransom money.
    Australian Federal Police said in a statement that Gregor's case was an "extreme example" of what can happen to people who succumb to Internet scams, and warned Australians to protect themselves.
    Speaking to reporters, Gregor said he was met at the airport in Mali by a well-dressed man and had no indication that anything was amiss until he was led into a room where two men with a machete and a homemade pistol began demanding money.
    "It's hard to explain what I thought," he said. "I basically was wondering what the hell was going on and then they started demanding money _ then I knew things were serious."
    Gregor said he had learned his lesson and urged others to be careful when looking for love online.
    "I reckon another couple of days and I wouldn't have returned," he said. "Just be careful _ make sure you check everything out 100 percent."
     
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    I consider myself more of a fake hater than most, this is because of something that happened to a friend in the early days of online chatting. He was a guy most people consider smarter than most, a psychologist, very attractive. He got chatting to a woman and chatted to her over a considerable amount of time, looking back all the signs were there but at that time people were a tad less cynical. They exchanged pics and arranged to meet, by this time he had formed quite an emotional attachment to her. He turned up for their meeting and couldn't see the woman he knew from photos, but was soon approached by a woman who was the very antithesis of the woman in the photos. How she thought he'd just say 'oh it doesn't matter that you've lied and cheated and that instead of the gorgeous creature I know from photos you're a frumpy troll', I don't know. Being a psychologist and having been fooled he entered into a very long period of self doubt. It didn't break his heart, it didn't end his life as he knew it, but it did hurt him badly.
     
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    See...this is the reason why I hate: ManHunt.net. :smile:
     
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    Wow! Yikes! And, at the same time, is this really a surprise?

    Anytime money is mentioned, either offered or asked for, cut off the connection. Alarm bells should be ringing.

    Pics are lovely but if someone is unable to go on webcam treat them with skepticism. If someone professes their love for you but is unwilling to share RL contact information, be skeptical.

    In real life when we are developing an interest in someone we pass them by our friends for inspection. Do the same with online interests. Ask to meet some of theirs online as well. If they are afraid or ashamed to be seen by others or to let people in their life communicate with you then it's time to admit that they aren't for real.

    Kick them to the curb and move on.

    Planning to meet?

    Do it on your own home turf.
     
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    e-harmony.con
     
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    Some people on the net seem to disregard the rules they'd use in real life when it comes to making arrangements to meet someone on the net, I think this is because if people have been chatting to someone for a few weeks they consider that the equivalent of having known someone for a few weeks, it isn't. If you do arrange to meet someone off the net always check their car boot for rope, quicklime and a machete before getting in.
     
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    Aye.

    Or bring your own car so you're in control of your destination.
    Meet in public, or bring a friend to the meeting.
    Even if you feel comfortable enough for a one on one meeting give as much detail about when, where and who to a trusted friend and arrange a time and method of contact so that they know you're safe.

    Condoms are not the only safety precaution needed when meeting someone from the net.
     
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    I consider while they watch texting their car number to a friend a good plan, if they're kosher they won't mind you doing this.
     
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    Very good idea.
     
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    A friend of a friend (who saw Ferris pass out at 31 Flavors last night) went on an eHarmony date with a guy who got completely physical with her at the end of the date. When she refused to let her into the house, he beat the crap out of her. Nice guy, eh? So much for eHarmony's very strict screening process!!

    Anyhoo--she filed a police report and also told eHarmony about the incident. They kicked him off the site, which sent him into a tizzy. (He didn't care about the police report--go fig.) He wound up pounding on her door in the middle of the night and got arrested for that and some other outstanding warrant.

    I always run background checks on men I'm going to meet. I make no bones about that fact.
     
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    That story isn't abt net dating. The guy bought a wife.

    The internet is the least of that freak's worries.
     
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    All well & good providing the guy doesnt have a private hire business (as mine does!) with LOADS of cars! LOL!
     
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    like to hear more about the background checks you have done ....
     
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    I've been very lucky in that I've either had access to a background check service via work (yes, yes, I know) or had friends who had access. I checked for felonies mostly. I only ever found one guy with a record and it was for resisting arrest, which in Houston might mean you just said "That sucks" when the cops slapped handcuffs on. I checked the education on my last boyfriend to make sure he wasn't lying about the PhD from Yale. (Pleasant surprise--he wasn't. Unpleasant surprise--he was also a narcissist.) I've always used Intelius People Search - Public Records, Background Checks & More. . I've also never had a guy get really angry when I've told him I ran a background check.
     
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    That would be scary. I guess there is reason for me not to want to meet anyone off the net.. well except Matthew.
     
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